[ SECRET POST #3253 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3253 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Fallout]


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03.
[Colonel Fitzwilliam, Pride and Prejudice 1995 miniseries]


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04.
[Master and Commander/Aubrey/Maturin series]


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05.
[Undertale]


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06.
[Justified]


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07.
[Fury, Don/Boyd]


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08.
(The Pioneer Woman/Ree Drummond)


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09.
[Interworld]











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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

What's the difference between a queerplatonic relationship and a sibling-y relationship?

One of my friends was trying to describe a qp relationship, and, according to them, the person they were describing it to kept saying that it sound like a sibling one. My friend was grumping about it, saying that it was Most Definitely not the same thing, but they couldn't say why, and now I'm sitting here wondering... What is the difference, anyway?

[(Anonymous)]

Queerplatonic is a bullshit term that doesn't mean anything except a special-snowflake word for a close friendship

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

Plus 20,00000

[(Anonymous)]

I agree. It's also just another way for straight people to try and wriggle under the "queer" umbrella somehow. There really is no difference between a very close friendship and a ~queerplatonic~ relationship. Anyone trying to vehemently disagreeing with this are people who can't bear the thought a deep friendship isn't something magical and oh-so-special.

(As an asexual person, I also very much resent people trying to make this into this big "ace visibility" thing.)

[(Anonymous)]

"ace visibility" is guaranteed to make my eye twitch

in fact, the term "visibility" at all is guaranteed to make me annoyed

goddamit tumblr, stop spoiling everything to do with actual social justice!

[sachiko_san]

Might as well go the Jay and Silent Bob route with hetero life mates.

[(Anonymous)]

I can't advise anyone on-line adopting a label that contains the word "Hetro"

[(Anonymous)]

Yepppppp

[intrigueing]

There is none. Queerplatonic is just a term for people who for some unfathomable reason don't want to use a normal term like "best friends."

[(Anonymous)]

inb4 a tl;dr rant about how queerplatonic is valid so long as people aren't ~allowed~ to live out their lives with best friends or something

to answer your question, queerplatonic isn't a thing, has never been a thing, and will never be a thing

[intrigueing]

Yup.

Like, yeah, sure, having some people make tired gay jokes about you, or having to put up with some irritating questions about "why aren't you a couple?" is totally the same as "not being allowed." Pfft.

[herpymcderp]

Kinda hard to have a sibling relationship with someone who isn't your sibling, isn't it?

[(Anonymous)]

Not really.

[(Anonymous)]

(na)
Except there's more than one kind of sibling relationship.

(for the record, I know that people mean an specific idealized relationship when they talk about "sibling relationship", but the fact that it's possible to have that kind of close relationship with friends makes the expression kind of senseless)

[herpymcderp]

Yes, really. I'm talking any kind of sibling, blood relation or otherwise. Part of the sibling factor comes from having the same parental influence and formative environment.

You don't get that with a non-sibiling, even if you grew up in close contact.

[(Anonymous)]

Sibling-like (sibling-y). And no. Not that hard.

[diet_poison]

...no?

The whole point is that your relationship with this particular friend resembles one you'd have with a sibling and that's why it's special.

[(Anonymous)]

I genuinely thought that my use of the term "sibling-y" would indicate that I meant in a metaphorical sense. However, since I guess you didn't get it, let me rephrase: "sibling-like", "sibling-esque", "brothers from another mother", "sisters from another mister".

Does that clarify things?

[(Anonymous)]

Not really. There's a reason the phrase "I love you like a sister/brother" is a thing.

[(Anonymous)]

Are you the type of person who thinks you can only call people you are blood related to, "family"?

[(Anonymous)]

ITT Herpy proves he has no friends

[(Anonymous)]

Queerplatonic is a bullshit way of referring to "extremely close friendship" used primarily by asexuals (and straight people pretending to be asexuals) who have deluded themselves into believing their friendships are somehow deeper and more important than everyone else's.

[(Anonymous)]

As an aromantic asexual, I don't see the difference and I'd never use the term myself. Honestly, I feel like some aromantics aren't completely comfortable with who they are and feel the need to compensate the absence of romance in their life with "super" friendships.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm also an aromantic asexual, and I kind of feel the same way. Buuuut at the same time, the kind of ace I am (autochoris-sexual/-romantic) is a kind that many people like to shit all over and claim doesn't exist (and yet I've been it for 28 years and counting, so). That makes me really hesitant to write anything off as "just being a special snowflake" or "just needs to claim some kind of identity to feel validated."