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⌈ Secret Post #3290 ⌋

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(reply from suspended user)

I thought you were childfree?

(reply from suspended user)

Oh, sorry. I guess I was confusing you with another regular. :)

(reply from suspended user)

I can get you in touch with my sister. She has a son who she loves and was excited as fuck about.

(reply from suspended user)

I feel bad for their sons and I'd feel bad for their daughters if they turned out to not be total girly girls who loved dresses...

(reply from suspended user)

Lots of people honestly believe you can choose the sex of your baby just by wanting it. I thought for years that they were just kidding when they said things like "I don't plan on having kids, but if I get pregnant somehow, it's definitely going to a boy!" But then people kept being sincere about it and I read an article written by a woman who had a crisis when she got an ultrasound and found out her baby wasn't what she wanted it to be. She actually thought there must have been a mistake in the reading, because she'd never have a girl! (And yeah for some reason, it was almost always boys that the women I encountered who thought like that wanted.)

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I read somewhere that appleseeds can guarantee a baby boy

but seeing as they contain cyanide... lol

Re: Can we have a gender general thread?

(Anonymous) - 2016-01-07 10:30 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Can we have a gender general thread?

(Anonymous) - 2016-01-07 10:42 (UTC) - Expand

I'm a little disturbed that people so dim witted have procreated at all, tbh.

Man, tell you what, I am so glad I had a boy. I would have no freaking clue what to do with a girl. Makeup? Hair? Dresses and tea parties? Nooooope.

Well, it depends on the personality to some extent. I know moms who wanted daughters to dress in pretty dresses and have tea parties with, and got tomboy daughters who didn't care about that stuff.

lol stereotyping in the other direction isn't any better but okay

your son could grow up to love make up and hair styling

Oh, geez, that's sad. I've never understood people who actively pushed for one gender or another. If I ever got pregnant, the only thing I'd care about is that the pregnancy and birth go well. I'd be happy whether I had a boy or a girl.

Not me. I don't care if it's braindead, I don't care if it's limbless if it has a penis.

what

what the fuck

Re: Can we have a gender general thread?

(Anonymous) - 2016-01-07 07:19 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Can we have a gender general thread?

(Anonymous) - 2016-01-07 02:02 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Can we have a gender general thread?

(Anonymous) - 2016-01-07 11:52 (UTC) - Expand

I'm a preschool teacher, and I hate it when parents get gendered attitudes like that. The amount of boys we have who like to wear dresses and have tea parties and the amount of girls we have who hate doing both of those is not insignificant. Actually, I think our boys this year had more fun with our "Royal Ball"/tea party in the drama area this past few weeks than the girls did. Well, maybe it was about equal. But still!

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Any kid can love a tea party - provided it has the right stuff. When they were younger my nephews loved having them. OK, they really were more lemonade parties (no way were we given hot tea to kids under five) - but still we served in plastic tea cups. That along with small cupcakes and/or cookies. Fun times.

It's interestingly antiquated thinking, that if you have girls it's all frilly dresses and tea parties. My sister's girl was into hockey and sports from early days. The only picture we have of her in a frilly little dress is when she's about 1 year old, lol! Older than that, and she started asserting her personality.

If I were pregnant, I'd be hoping for a healthy baby rather than fussing over a boy or girl.

I always assume those types of parents (in either direction) are under the impression parenting is raising a mini me and they're going to be sorely disappointed when their kid develops a personality that isn't their own.

Congrats on the pregnancy! (And I thought I was literally the only person on FS who isn't childfree...)

Though, I have a boy and a girl (both school-aged now) and... honestly I've been surprised by how they've 'naturally' fallen into gender roles despite my best efforts. I've tried to gently nudge them away from being all "boys=trucks" and "girls=frocks" etc, but they seem determined to fit into those moulds all on their own.

(I mean, realistically it's not all on their own, parents aren't the sole or even the main influence to the extent people like to think. They're picking it up from peers, from TV, from pretty much everyone they ever talk to.)

I don't push the issue with them too much, I'm hoping it's something they'll grow out of as they get older. Or, of course, it's possible that I just have a boy who's genuinely naturally inclined to Star Wars and Transformers and battle scenes and a girl who's genuinely naturally inclined to cute animals and princessy frocks and dancing... as long as they're not shaming other people for having different values, that's fine too.

I kinda understand preferring one over the other, due to my mother's stories, but what I don't get is the idea of how people would not be able to eventually work out how to raise the sex they preferred less. It's still their child, do they really expect to not love the child at all? That's the sort of rhetoric that made me Childfree sympathetic (CF communities have a great fondness for being exasperated at parents who are being idiots).

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