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I'm still pissed at the main core of my fandom for something that happened months ago and it's making me so bitter. I was excited about going to a fandom event and made a post asking who'd ever done the event, and what types of things are worth paying for etc., including how much money I had to spend. My post apparently upset someone because I was "bragging about how rich I was" and I made them spiral into depression and, like, want to die because they were really struggling with money? It immediately dampened my spirits and ruined all my excitement because I don't want to be the source of someone's desolation, jesus. We had it out and I apologized a million times and they apologized for being dramatic. No one else backed me up and ignored the whole thing. I'm still secretly pissed tbh because now I can't squee about going to fandom things without the fear of upsetting someone horribly, meanwhile everyone else has a great time talking about going to fandom events and making plans together to go to costly fandom events and I'm just... what about the time I wanted to talk about the big fandom event I'm going to and you all ignored or hated me for it because I dared to admit how expensive all this shit is? Uuuuuggh, so bitter about it.

well fuck, that sounds awful. maybe your followers weren't sure how to react and didn't want to draw vitriol towards themselves? I'd be bitter about it as well, though.

Maybe in an era replete with austerity and inequality, flaunting your wealth wasn't the smart thing to do in the first place? Maybe, although the people who got upset were over-dramatic in their expression, people didn't take your side because they agreed? Maybe you were in the wrong and you were just being a spoiled little rich kid? Yeah, you were. You know it, that is why you are so upset over it.

You triggered someone and got called on your privilege. Pull on your big girl pants and just suck it up. There is a reason why the three things you never talk about are money, politics, and religion.

Eh, I'm sorry, but while OP might be a spoiled rich kid, getting "triggered" by knowing someone's spending money is bullshit. And I say this as someone who's income is below the poverty line.

Re: +1

(Anonymous) - 2016-03-06 01:03 (UTC) - Expand

I think if you're that sensitive that someone mentioning money can "trigger" you, YOU'RE the one who needs to pull on your big girl pants and do something about it. Get a job, and if you can't work, apply for public assistance. Whining about it is going to get you nowhere.

nayrt

you sound really, really butthurt omg.

AYRT

I'm far from being a kid and no where near rich. I just have a decent job and no kids, so I have disposable income. I get why laying down the hard figures at how much some fandoms can cost could be upsetting to some, but it's still annoying when I see the same people squee about doing the same things I'm doing without others getting upset at them even though we all know how much they cost.

That is rich these days. It didn't used to be, true, but it is now. That means you have to guard your comments better.

Re: Confessions thread

(Anonymous) - 2016-03-05 22:23 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Confessions thread

(Anonymous) - 2016-03-05 22:26 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Confessions thread

(Anonymous) - 2016-03-06 04:16 (UTC) - Expand

How the hell was OP "flaunting their wealth"?

Furthermore, how do you know that they're wealthy? They might have been saving for 5 years to attend this event. You're assuming a lot.

speaking as someone who has been cold, hungry, and nearly been homeless as result of poverty, shut your lil bitch mouth you know nothing. If someone is so whiny and pathetic that they can't handle knowing that another person is able to buy a thing, then they need to get off the internet until they've got over themselves.

There's sort of a difference between posting a haul/intended haul list on your personal space (like a youtube channel or a blog under a cut) and posting in a public community. Some people like that kind of thing, and want to see it. They can choose whether or not to ignore it or click. Whatever.

Posting on a public space about that is not really the same deal.

I'm shocked that people are attacking you here, too. Posting how much money you have so you can get advice on what's affordable isn't bragging. I don't see the difference between that and posting things after you bought them, which is something people I follow in fandom do regularly. I know those things aren't cheap, so there's no difference between sharing that you bought them and saying exactly how much they cost.

You're surprised? If you have any income above "not even qualifying for unemployment benefits" (meaning none), then you're the enemy in fandom.

I'd expect that from Tumblr, but not F!S.

Re: Confessions thread

(Anonymous) - 2016-03-05 22:59 (UTC) - Expand

Why do you want people to rally to your support so much against the person who was going through hard times and apologized to you for doing so? Are you really that in need of validation? Maybe folks just didnt give a rat's ass about your piddly problems and thought the matter was settled. Maybe folks were more concerned about the mental health of the person who felt that it was bringing them to the brink of suicide? Suicide due to financial constraints has been on the rise for several years now, I would always take seriously any suicide threat made on those grounds. And it is going to get worse again come March 31st. So someone harshed your buzz, it happens. Get over it.

DA

What's March 31st have to do with anything?

The temporary social security protections from the financial crash expire, lotta folk suddenly crash out out of the payments and food stamps system and most don't even know it.

Imo it's not your fault they where being dramatic about something you had no hand in. It's not like you where going to their house and flaunting about it while fanning yourself with a bunch of bills and putting them down for it.

Edited (I can English goddamn) 2016-03-06 01:38 (UTC)

see your mistake was in apologizing. If someone is so emotionally delicate that they literally cannot handle hearing that another person is capable of buying stuff, then that person needs to be staying off the internet because their snowflake feelings are clearly too fragile to have any contact with anyone but their therapist. You did NOTHING wrong. They were being a histrionic little baby and if people can't understand that then you are probably better off not talking to those useless people tbh.

THIS. Never, ever apologize. If someone is this determined to play a victim, it only fans the flames.

+1

You did nothing wrong. It´s their problem if they feel "triggered", not yours.

Wow, that sucks, OP.

For the record, I was going-to-the-food-bank, no-hot-water-because-we-couldn't-pay-the-bill poor for a lot of my childhood, and only slightly better off now, and I do not go around taking offense to the fact that people have more money than me and aren't hiding it. What an unreasonable thing to get offended over.

If you were making posts about poor people being lazy, or about how the minimum wage shouldn't be raised, or about how things you like should be more expensive to keep the riff-raff out, that would be offensive. But simply not hiding the fact that you have decent finances is totally fine.

Wow, that sucks. You are not responsible for other peoples' mental health and can do what you like with your money. This person was wrong for attacking you like that. And I'm broke.

That persons little break down didn't have anything to do with you personally. But fyi, it's never a good idea to talk money in public.

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