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⌈ Secret Post #3406 ⌋

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I'm sorry that romantic tension exists in entertainment media, OP.

You do realize there are lots of ways to portray romantic tension besides "lol girl is playing hard to get but you know she REALLY wants him", right?

Yes, but the chase will always be a popular trope for a reason. And it's not always the girl getting chased.

It's usually the girl getting chased. And yeah, it's popular because our culture emphasizes it as romantic. I think it appeals to some women (which, of course, makes it harder for the rest of us to be taken seriously, if they act like all women should feel that way) and a lot of men who see that behavior being rewarded over and over again in popular stories.

I dunno. Playing hard to get is fun. It gives me a confidence boost to know someone would go so far for me. There is a pretty big difference between 'playing' and outright disinterest.

I think 21st century feminists would like to stomp out any sense of play whatsoever from sexuality.

I'm a 21st century feminist and I kindly ask you to shut it until you know what you're talking about.

Make me.

Well for starters you're conflating fauxmanists, who don't believe in equality nor the agency of women, with actual feminism.

*boggles*

Read through this whole thread and ask yourself why I might make that error.

I am. And you're still in error.

"But those aren't REAL feminists! Sure, they're college professors and they teach gender studies, and they write articles and books with their views that then get propagated by the media, but they're NOT REAL FEMINISTS, why is this hard to get???"

Oh please. If you're going to pull out the No True Scotsman accusations, I ask you to examine first if you recognize that there are people who genuinely aren't Scotsmen, and if so that no amount of claiming they are will make them such.

To belong to a group means you must meet the qualifications. To be a feminist you must believe in sex/gender equality. That's literally all it takes. Yet the people who actively work AGAINST that are the people who invariably get thrown back in our face as being our own trash to pick up.

Have you considered that by falling for their claim, you're only validating them? We both hate fauxmanists and want them to shut up, so help us work to stop them. Don't help them.

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(Anonymous) - 2016-05-02 14:16 (UTC) - Expand

No, you don't think. If you did, you wouldn't stay stupid shit like that.

Same. If they want it, they have to work for it. Helps me weed out guys who are just looking for an easy lay.

I dunno. I think there's a difference between 'making someone work for it' (ie: proving that that they're interested through words and actions), and game playing, which is often how I've seen people who play hard to get do it.

I once read a post from some guy who'd been dating a girl who told him to stop during sex. She was disappointed when he stopped, because she liked it when a guy was so into it he wouldn't listen. He thought that was freaking creepy.

they just need to arrange a safeword and then it would be chill

A friend of mine said his ex girlfriend was like that. He stopped when she said stop... and then she complained later. He was like "How was I supposed to know you didn't mean it? What if you DID mean it and I had kept going?" She seemed to understand that...

I watched Remains of the Day a few weeks ago and realized why I hate romantic tension in 23-episode shows. It's like watching a 23-hour cut of Remains of the Day.

"Oh, hey, I'm going to talk about the proper way to dust the nick-knacks rather than anything to do with the feelings that are obviously just under the surface of my body language and the scripted situation. How about them fish forks!"

That annoys the crap out of me no matter what the subject is. Just effin TELL someone what you think! All this dancing around what could be resolved in five minutes is ridiculous, on screen or off.

Turning someone down and romantic tension are not the same thing

And they could never possibly be connected in any way, right?

Of for fucks sake, NOBODY SAID THAT.

God, this sarcastic crap where people act like someone is saying something they aren't saying is so fucking annoying.

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