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⌈ Secret Post #3549 ⌋

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People who are overly pedantic or oppositional and hate harmless social norms. Niceties are okay.

To me, it depends on the social norms? I tend to like politeness, but I wouldn't say all social norms are harmless.

Honestly, going by your above example, I think we're going to disagree on this one. Unless you know someone and actually want to talk about your issues, if a stranger/acquaintance/co-worker/whatever asks "how are you", please for the love of god don't tell me how you actually feel. It is the worst when you're just trying to build a nice, but neutral rapport with someone and they go on about their life's problems after a simple "how are you" or "what's up".

See, but that's the thing. Most of the time I don't want a "nice neutral rapport". I'm not going to go into detail about my life problems, but I'm also not saying "good" if it's not true. I'll probably going to say something like "well, it could be better" or "well, I'm alive" if it's a truly shit day.

... is it not okay to say "oh, so stressed, my unit is so busy today- how are you?" in work setting?
I wouldn't pour my personal problems out on someone, but if people don't want even surface level interaction with me they shouldn't ask. And if I asked someone and they told me something personal they were preoccupied with I wouldn't be bothered. It's happened to me before.

Certainly, to some people. Absolutely not to a customer, or not to someone who is just asking in passing and doesn't actually have the time to commit any sympathy to you.

Or how about "come up with a more appropriate opener than 'how are you' if you don't, in fact, give a fuck how the other person really is?" If you want a neutral rapport, ask a neutral question. "How are you?" is anything but neutral; it's a fucking Pandora's Box.

You are exactly the kind of pedantic person I was talking about.

If hating it when fake-ass people ask me a question and expect a lie for an answer makes me "pedantic" then fine, guilty as charged. I'll tattoo it on my goddamn forehead just so I can avoid people like you a lot easier.

Oppositional, pedantic outrage. Yep, you sound like a joy to be around. I am surely missing out on your company.

Good, please fucking miss out on my company. Go the fuck away.

lmao you joined my thread, sis

Go the fuck away.

Agree. My SO ruins everyone's fun in social settings by making sure everyone knows he isn't having fun. It's shitty and unforgivable. We rarely do things with other people because of it and I hate that, but at least he doesn't get when I do things without him. It's better for everyone that way.

TBH it's better not to bring anyone to social settings where they'll be miserable.

I'm about as introverted as they come and even I know that you occasionally have to suck it up and fulfill a social obligation. Whining about how boring Grandma's 98th birthday party is or repeatedly asking if it's time to go home yet at your sister's rehearsal dinner is childish and rude.

If you were arm-twisted into going after repeatedly voicing that you didn't want to go in the first place, I'd say it's payback.

Well, yes. Tantrums and sulking will totally show your friends and family that they were wrong to include you. With any luck, your friends can then decide to find grown ups to be friends with instead of you. Your family is probably stuck with you, but they're probably used to how terrible you are by now and can hopefully get some enjoyment out of making fun of you when you're not around. Which of your cousins do you think does the best you impression?

Well, yes. Tantrums and sulking will totally show your friends and family that they were wrong to include you. With any luck, your friends can then decide to find grown ups to be friends with instead of you.

Good. Friends who pester and arm-twist and guilt-trip and whine at me that I have to after I've already told them "no" are shitty friends to start with.

Your family is probably stuck with you, but they're probably used to how terrible you are by now and can hopefully get some enjoyment out of making fun of you when you're not around. Which of your cousins do you think does the best you impression?

No, they're not. They could just not fucking talk to me anymore, which would be best for both of us.

Oh for fuck's sake, grow up and attend your grandma's birthday, and don't be a cunt about it.

No. She's a vile cunt of a woman, and I refuse to be in the same room with her. Not even at her funeral.

I say again: grow up.

Nope. If "growing up" means rewarding a cruel, narcissistic woman who has made ALL of her children's lives hell (including financially ruining one of them because she didn't approve of who he married) and expects to be catered to just because she's old? Fuck that, I'll be a kid forever.

You're not a kid. Kids are cute and have the potential for personal growth. You're just a spoiled brat who thinks you're edgy.

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