[ SECRET POST #3940 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3940 ⌋

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Comments

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

'Do you care about anything beyond how miserable you are? Your response indicates you don't, so prove me wrong.'

WOW RUDE

I mean like if people are being sort of 'uh yeah so I'm depressed and miserable and stuff' like you know what doesn't help? going WOW, HOW DARE YOU NOT TAKE MY CONDESCENDING PITY, I guess you're a SELFISH SELF ABSORBED KID ON TOP OF THAT'

r u d e, man.

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't 100% agree with AYRT, but your response was unnecessarily aggressive and hostile. You genuinely are coming across as someone who is determined to see the worst in everything, and who is lashing out.

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

That was the first time I commented in this thread lol

And I mean honestly, 'here's someone who's depressed and upset and lashing out' if people who were being like all U R LOVED AND VALUED AND STUFF actually meant that, those are exactly the sorts of people they should be reaching out to. How exactly does telling people that they're hostile help? How does talking down to people who don't think they deserve help or actually want it make them somehow see things differently? This entire thread and its responses is the best example of why these generalized feel-good-nonsense doesn't work.

Stop telling people to be grateful for platitudes they didn't ask for in the first place, and actually maybe try showing some empathy for a change.

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

I don't think there is a level of aggression and hostility that is "unnecessary" after someone asks someone else, "Do you care about anything beyond how miserable you are?"

The escalation happened right about there.

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

anon that was being replied to - yeah, that's about it. Like wow lol the change in tone from 'you are loved and valued' to 'you're SELFISH AND HOSTILE AND DONT CARE ABOUT ANYONE U TERRIBLE PERSON' is vaguely funny.

I'm not sure if OP or other repliers get it but, generally for people who are depressed, many tend to view themselves as depressing useless wastes of spaces that don't really deserve anything and would make everyone's lives better if they just sort of didn't exist. As a result of that, it's not uncommon to lash out or be hostile.

When that kind of behavior is met with people going all 'gosh well I guess NOT YOU, you're an asshole who deserves to be depressed due to your own selfish nature' then it kind of... just reinforces that self image, pretty much.

Like the funny thing is I'm not even generally against affirming messages. But they have to be meaningful, and also followed with genuine action and empathy. Not 'if you didn't appreciate it then you're a mean selfish prick', because that doesn't just undo the initial sentiments but makes the whole situation even more miserable for all involved parties.