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⌈ Secret Post #4039 ⌋

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How do I figure out if a girl is into girls?

[philstar22]

So, there is this new girl in my public speaking group. And I've got such a crush on her. She makes me smile. And she's got adorable freckles. And I just want to get to know her. But I've never asked another girl out before. And this is Texas, so homophobia is pretty common. Actually, I'm not even any good at initiating friendships. So what do I do?

Re: How do I figure out if a girl is into girls?

[(Anonymous)]

Aww, I wish I had some really awesome advice for you, but I'm awkward as hell and I've never been able to confess my crush without making a fool of myself. I'm not sure what happens in a public speaking group, but I'm assuming you guys have to get up and talk in front of the group solo at one point. If you do, maybe you can compliment her on her speaking style and ask for pointers? I'm sorry I don't have any better advice, but I wish you well!

Re: How do I figure out if a girl is into girls?

[philstar22]

Yes, I don't even know. Never asked anyone out except to a few high school party things. I'm so bad with people. And then I start thinking ahead and wondering if I'll be able to play it off to my family as a friendship when I never actually go out anywhere with friends even if she were to go out with me.

I like your idea, though. And maybe I'll invite the whole group out for coffee sometime. Gah. I don't know.

Re: How do I figure out if a girl is into girls?

[(Anonymous)]

Try and casually bring up stuff that subtly indicates you're into girls, see how she responds. Doesn't have to be "god I love chicks," but you know, maybe you loved the movie Carol or whatever. If she is also into girls, she might get the hinting and respond in kind. It isn't a fool proof plan but it could help. If that won't work, I would just try to be friendly and keep an eye out for homophobia. Good luck - a Texas based lesbian.

Re: How do I figure out if a girl is into girls?

[(Anonymous)]

Just focus on getting to know her better, just as you would anybody else you think you might click with. That means just chatting with her before/after the group, extending an invitation to prepare beforehand or discuss stuff later in a more casual setting, seguay from "chatting about group" to the typical "getting-to-know-new-friend" banter of where you both are from, what you're both into free-time and entertainment wise. And then extend an invitation to go spend some of that free-time together. If she doesn't bite, drop it. If she says yes, and that goes well, awesome, keep doing that. If she never reciprocates an invitation, then she's not interested in more - so you could gradually just drop it without making it a big deal. If she DOES reciprocate an invitation, then you've got someone who is at least interested in being friends with you. Awesome! Worst-case-scenario is you now have a hot friend. Best case? She's also into girls. How to find out? Well, I find it works to casually drop the name of an actress you find hot in conversation. That way, if the reaction is positive, either in a "yeah she's hot" or a "actually, I prefer Other Actress" way, you can start flirting and see where stuff takes you. Either she's into you, in which case, awesome, or she's gay or bi but NOT into you, in which case, hey, at least you have a fellow queer friend! Yay! If the reaction is "OMG, ew, you don't mean YOU find her hot, do you?" you can take safety in a white lie like "oh, no, I just meant I wish I looked like that" to stay in the closet if that's what you want.

Good luck.

Re: How do I figure out if a girl is into girls?

[cbrachyrhynchos]

Back in the day, pins and t-shirts were a way to subtly advertise and invite conversation.