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I broke my toe today. The one next to my pinky toe. It hurts like hell, is swollen, and a bit misaligned. I don't have insurance so not going to the doctor. Should I tape it up to my other toe or leave it be?

Yes, tape it so it doesn't end up more damaged. Put a cushion of tissue paper of something between it and the toe it's taped to to help with the pain. Luckily toes heal quick.

Seconding taping/binding. My sister didn't and all her toes are crosseyed and overlapping. Along with not being an especially pleasing aesthetic, apparently it also makes a lot of shoes very painful.

Use crutches. Putting pressure on it will permanently fuck up your foot.

I broke my pinky toe a few years back. Apparently (found out later when i got an x-ray for another reason), I broke it long ways *and* cross ways - a T break. I didn't tape it or mess with it, just limped a lot for a few weeks. The toe is a bit crooked, and the nail points off a bit to the side rather than forward like the other toes ('cause of the crooked).

I just didn't want to mess with it, so i didn't bother.

Go. To. The. Doctor.

They don't/can't do much for a broken toe and since OP lives somewhere without free healthcare, it sounds like it would just add insult to injury. When I broke mine the nurse just examined it, taped it up like I described, and told me not to go hiking or anything but walking in flat supportive shoes was fine.

And pay 400 $ to be told they can't do anything? Nah.

You're right. Modern medicine has no cure for broken toes, or indeed, any and all broken bones. Getting bones re-set, splinted or put into a cast is only something they do in socialist countries. All they can do for OP is sprinkle some rainwater gathered on a clear spring night during the full moon, perform a mystical chant and then charge OP a huge co-pay.

Dude, don't talk about shit you've clearly never experienced. I've broken my tow three times, went to the doctor the first two times and literally all they could do was put some cotton between my toes and tape them so the broken one would heal in the right alignment. What do you think they're gonna do, put you into surgery to bolt your tiny fucking toe bone?

No one's saying only socialist countries have proper healthcare. But there is literally nothing a nurse or doctor can do for broken toes that you couldn't do at home with some medical tape and cotton wool. I was speaking from experience of breaking my toe, exactly the same as OP.

I’ve known a couple of people who broke toes and went to the doctor for it, and unless anything else in the foot is broken, they tape the toes together with a bit of padding, tell you to keep your foot up when possible and take some tylenol or another NSAID, and send you home.

I broke my pinky toe in college, went to the Health Care center and was told they couldn't do anything for it. If it were a different broken bone, you might have a point, but not a toe.

I broke my middle toe once (and both of my pinkies twice each - all at different times) when I had to do a bunch of outdoor work for my job. I covered it with a finger splint and taped it in place, and then wore my winter work boots, which are big and roomy in the toe. It eventually healed fine.

Tape it to the adjacent toes, preferably with some padding on either side to keep it in its proper place, and then wear stiff-soled shoes (to help keep it still) and go really easy on it. You'll want to re-do the tape and padding an a regular basis (like daily) because it will wear off with walking and showering. Keep an eye on it though.

SA - you can get medical tape at drug stores. It's easy to tear, flexible, durable, and doesn't hurt too much when you peel it off your skin.

So, there is this new girl in my public speaking group. And I've got such a crush on her. She makes me smile. And she's got adorable freckles. And I just want to get to know her. But I've never asked another girl out before. And this is Texas, so homophobia is pretty common. Actually, I'm not even any good at initiating friendships. So what do I do?

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Aww, I wish I had some really awesome advice for you, but I'm awkward as hell and I've never been able to confess my crush without making a fool of myself. I'm not sure what happens in a public speaking group, but I'm assuming you guys have to get up and talk in front of the group solo at one point. If you do, maybe you can compliment her on her speaking style and ask for pointers? I'm sorry I don't have any better advice, but I wish you well!

Yes, I don't even know. Never asked anyone out except to a few high school party things. I'm so bad with people. And then I start thinking ahead and wondering if I'll be able to play it off to my family as a friendship when I never actually go out anywhere with friends even if she were to go out with me.

I like your idea, though. And maybe I'll invite the whole group out for coffee sometime. Gah. I don't know.

Try and casually bring up stuff that subtly indicates you're into girls, see how she responds. Doesn't have to be "god I love chicks," but you know, maybe you loved the movie Carol or whatever. If she is also into girls, she might get the hinting and respond in kind. It isn't a fool proof plan but it could help. If that won't work, I would just try to be friendly and keep an eye out for homophobia. Good luck - a Texas based lesbian.

Just focus on getting to know her better, just as you would anybody else you think you might click with. That means just chatting with her before/after the group, extending an invitation to prepare beforehand or discuss stuff later in a more casual setting, seguay from "chatting about group" to the typical "getting-to-know-new-friend" banter of where you both are from, what you're both into free-time and entertainment wise. And then extend an invitation to go spend some of that free-time together. If she doesn't bite, drop it. If she says yes, and that goes well, awesome, keep doing that. If she never reciprocates an invitation, then she's not interested in more - so you could gradually just drop it without making it a big deal. If she DOES reciprocate an invitation, then you've got someone who is at least interested in being friends with you. Awesome! Worst-case-scenario is you now have a hot friend. Best case? She's also into girls. How to find out? Well, I find it works to casually drop the name of an actress you find hot in conversation. That way, if the reaction is positive, either in a "yeah she's hot" or a "actually, I prefer Other Actress" way, you can start flirting and see where stuff takes you. Either she's into you, in which case, awesome, or she's gay or bi but NOT into you, in which case, hey, at least you have a fellow queer friend! Yay! If the reaction is "OMG, ew, you don't mean YOU find her hot, do you?" you can take safety in a white lie like "oh, no, I just meant I wish I looked like that" to stay in the closet if that's what you want.

Good luck.

Back in the day, pins and t-shirts were a way to subtly advertise and invite conversation.

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