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[ SECRET POST #4226 ]

⌈ Secret Post #4226 ⌋

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[Brave by Rose McGowan]

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[Phantom of the Opera with Sierra Boggess as Christine and Ramin Karimloo as Erik/Phantom]

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(Kim Taehyung)

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(Father Brown)

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[Show: Veronica Mars; Actor: Travis Schuldt (who played Conner Larkin on the show)]

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[The 100]

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I got a copy of Infinity War. I want to make some GIFs. I am doing a trivia gifset. Should I do one with 'no spoilers' and one with 'spoilers' or just cut my trivia down to ten?

I'd say that at this point, just tag spoilers, no need to do a completely separate post. Also, where did you find a copy? All the copies I've found are crappy cams.

Will send you a PM.

I might have to do two parts anyway. It has a lot of trivia. But let me see what I can delete.

Edited 2018-07-30 23:35 (UTC)

Two posts isn't a bad thing. More content for your followers. Just more work for you.

I'm flying out to meet my online girlfriend for the first time (we've known each other for seven years, have been dating for a couple of months) and I'm nervous, both become holy wow, this is a big step for me, I've never been to where I'm going, and it's a five and a half hour flight and I've never flown that long before.

Some advice as to how to stop being so nervous would be pretty great!

Have you video chatted?

Regardless, have back up plans in case it goes wrong.

we've exchanged photos, played video games/live chatted, talked on the phone.

to be clear, I'm not worried that they're secretly a murderer or anything like that! I'm just worried that they won't like me or. well, in general I have anxiety so I'm dealing with that lmao.

nayrt but these days, it's not so much worrying that your long distance boyfriend/girlfriend is a murderer, but rather worrying that they're not who they claim to be in other, less criminal ways. That may be what the other anon is getting at.

Well. The social anxiety stuff, that's hard to combat. It's probably irrational - if you've known each other for that long, she's probably not going to suddenly decide that she hates you. And honestly, she's probably just as nervous as you are about you liking her. But even though it's not irrational, the brain does what it does.

With flying, I think that's a little easier to combat, because it's much more practical and logistical and specific. Try making a list of the things that you're most worried about, and then run down the list and think of things that you can do to address those things. If you're worried about getting lost, look at maps and plan out your route in advance. That kind of thing,

Forgot to say - I really hope it goes well and I'm really excited on your behalf! Go get em anon!

Here's the best advice I can give you for meeting people online: if your online personality is the same as your offline personality and theirs is as well, you have absolutely nothing to worry about.

If it's not... then this probably isn't a great idea. I've met half a dozen online friends, and for the most part it's gone swimmingly, but the times when it doesn't it's because the friends I've made turn out to be completely different irl. I've met people who were amazing to talk to when they were behind a computer screen but as soon as we met face to face they were uncomfortable talking about fandom, self-conscious, standoffish, didn't want to appear "geeky" in public etc. etc.

Just don't do that, OP.

Also, remember to hydrate on the plane, wash your hands often (especially before you eat), and get up to walk around/stretch your legs every hour or so. Very important to do so! Plane rides come with their own unique set of health risks- you really don't want to be sitting for more than 3 hours at a time if you can help it.

All the best, anon! I'm living with my online gilfriend right now. Hope someday you get to say the same.

I've met internet (platonic) friends lots of times. A few tips:

* Definitely have a back up plan for your accommodations and transport. Make sure that your online girlfriend isn't your sole means of ANYTHING.

* Research about where you're going like you were planning a vacation solo.

* Try to manage your expectations and not get them up too high. I'm not saying this won't work out, I'm saying that it's easy for years and years of build up to lead to some unrealistic expectations for how smoothly the meeting will go.

* Expect that things will be super awkward, at least for a while. It's like herpy said - if your online personality is like your in person personality, you'll be good. Hopefully, the same is true of your girlfriend.

* Take things SLOWLY. Having a relationship online isn't the same thing as IRL. Note - I'm not saying it's not as good, but it IS different and you'll both be figuring out how your relationship works in a very different setting.

* Try to get plenty of rest before your flight and don't forget to stay hydrated and eat properly. It's easy to forget that in the excitement. Have fun, anon!

I had my first day on my new job today and I’m already in danger of being fired because of my behavior. I fell asleep during the orientation and while I was waiting for my computer to finish loading I spent some time on my phone. I feel like a massive tool and I’m scared of what happens if I get fired and how I can recover from being fired on my first day because I was that big of a fuckup.

That's not the end of the world, but it doesn't look good for you, I agree. You know where you went wrong, so fix it and make sure you're the picture of a model employee on day 2.

Get plenty of sleep, eat a healthy, filling breakfast. Don't mess around on your phone until you're on official break. No, not even if you think you have a spare minute or five. Be on time, be appropriately dressed, be helpful and listen/take notes where applicable. Be polite and workplace-friendly. If you shape up quickly and don't slip again, people will be more willing to write the first day off as nerves or simply you having an off day.

This is excellent advice.

Thank you. I'm lucky enough to have a supervisor whose on my side and likes my work - I managed to avoid getting outright fired on the first day so I've still got a sliver of hope. Since my boss told me not to come back until the day after tomorrow, I'm thinking of spending tomorrow doing work samples that I can bring in and show that I'm serious about my job. Do you think that may work?

TBH this whole things been a nasty wake-up call about how kind of "out of control" I've let my life become, and I'm just hoping I can turn things around in this and other aspects of my life before it's too late. Does that make sense?

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