[ SECRET POST #4396 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4396 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Orwell: Ignorance is Strength]


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03.
[Russell Howard, "Recalibrate"]


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04.
[D. L. Hughley, Jimmy Carr and Katherine Ryan on The Fix on Netflix]


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05.
[A Star is Born]


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06.
[John Malkovich as Hercule Poirot in The ABC Murders]


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07.
[Andrew Knowlton, restaurant editor for Bon Appétit magazine and host on The Final Table]


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08.
[Exo/Cross Fire - Fonda Lee]








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Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I have a date planned for a week from tomorrow. It'll be my first date in six or seven months. And THAT date was my first in 6 years.

So let's have a thread about dating. Why not?

Your best date
Your worst date
Last time you went on a date
Do you like dating
What's your go-to date
What's your ideal date?

Re: Dating

[morieris]

Well good luck! I hope it works out.

Also....
Never
Never
Never
No
Being alone
Being alone.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

1. Hiking in the park
2. Lunch at crappy chain restaurant and hanging out in the parking lot
3. 20+ years ago
4. Not really - I prefer being married
5. Don't really have obe
6. Low key meal at someplace with good food

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I don't date a lot; I am socially anxious and lonely and not at all conventionally physically attractive and have a deeply-entrenched sense of being undesirable. And I'm pretty sure that's going to be the majority of this thread, so I guess I'm trying to beat the rush, lol.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

Good luck on your date, and have fun!

I don't think I've had one since high school. After high school, I mostly just spontaneously hung out with guys I liked. I never have a "date night" with my husband because that term really makes me cringe for some reason.

Re: Dating

[tabaqui]

Hrmmmmmmm. Honestly, I was dating in high school only, so they were just high school dates and i really...can't remember them at all, other than we went to see movies or we said we were going rolling skating, only we were actually going to his place to make out. So one and two - no clue.
Last time? High school (and then we got married and no more dates.)

I never wanted to date again, and didn't particularly like it back then. Now that I'm divorced - still don't want to in the 'traditional' sense.

Ideal date would be a going to a really posh and fancy restaurant with my bff, and then a really fancy and plush movie theater, and then home to talk about boys and slash and fic and boys. :D

Also - hope you have fun!

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

1) every time my ex and I would go to this one Italian restaurant near where we used to live, because it was intimate and fun and the food was good and it was our tradition for birthdays and Christmas dates

2) the last time my ex and I went out for dinner, because it was shortly before we broke up and he spent the entire time hinting that we should start separating our lives in a way that made me suspect that Something Was Not Right

3) almost a year ago, lol. Before I was with my ex, I had no dates, and after we broke up, I've had one (1) date a year so far

4) I like going on a date with someone I'm interested in, which is a rare occurrence admittedly. I abhor "dating" as an activity (as in, stuff like online dating, where you're looking for someone to try on for size) because it's boring, depressing, and just doesn't work for me

5) For a first date, meet for coffee. Extremely basic but if it ain't broke don't fix it.

6) Heavily depend on the person and whether we've been together a while or just starting to get to know each other tbh

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

Since it was my only date, the one where an ex-coworker took me to check out a comic shop because “you like comics, right?” and was generally slightly off the whole time, then when he was dropping me off after said “I thought of this as a date, want to do it again?” leaving me to awkwardly stammer out something about being friends and make my escape technically counts as both best and worst.

I was so uncomfortable it definitely comes down more on the ‘worst’ side. We hadn’t seen each other in ages and I haven’t seen him since, although I’ve heard he’s tried the same “surprise, it’s a date!” thing on several women since. This would’ve been, idk, 4-5 years ago?

Not from my limited experience, no.

I can’t really think of a go-to or an ideal date. A short hike in a busy park or a day at the zoo, maybe? Then if we had nothing to say to each other there’d still be plenty to look at and also people around if a guy turned out to be a creep.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I’ve been on exactly one date and didn’t realize it was a date until my friend pointed it out to me when I was telling her about it. The guy insisted on picking me up, which made me uncomfortable because we’d only known each other for about a week (we met at a wedding and had a great time chatting). We were both interested in botany, so we went to the botanical gardens in the neighboring city. That part was pretty fun, but he kept trying to hold my hand and I had no idea why. He wanted to buy me flowers and lunch, but I declined the flowers and insisted on paying for my lunch. When he dropped me off at home, he tried to kiss me goodbye, but I hugged him instead and thanked him for a nice day. When my friend pointed out that the outing had actually been a date, I asked him if we’d gone on a date. He’d thought I’d meant date because I was the one to suggest going to the gardens. I felt really embarrassed and apologized if I’d given him any kind of mixed signals since I didn’t want to date people, just have more friends to hang out with. He said that was fine, he wanted more friends too, and never texted me back.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I've always hated dating. The idea of it, the reality of it, just the whole of it.

I just hate the formality of it; a series of mutually arranged upon occasions during which two people attempt to discern if they're interested in each other romantically/sexually. For me dating is always going to feel glaringly like an artificial construct.

I want to be able to just hang out and get to know people naturally, without it being about anything else. Without that pretext of "we're both checking to see if we want to have sex and go steady."

And if I do have feelings for a person, then my desire to get to know them naturally, without it being about anything else, is all the stronger. Dating when I have fledgling feelings for a person just feels like taking something that is wild and sensitive in me and sticking it under harsh lights and making it perform tawdry little tricks or something,

Not that I'm hating on people who do enjoy dating. I know I'm in the minority here. I'm borderline ace (and maybe kinda demi?) anyway, so that probably affects my feelings on the matter.


Given how I feel about dating, my ideal "date" would be something like a week-long camping trip with a group of friends and acquaintances. (We wouldn't have arranged it with each other, we'd just be two people who happened to both go on this same camping trip.) Me and this person, my not!date, could spend a lot of time together, talking and doing group activities and working together to accomplish the inevitable tasks of camping, and generally just kind of feeling each other out.

I realize this isn't practicable. But it would be lovely.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

Hope you have a good time, OP. :)

I have never had a good date
Worst date was a taxidermy museum
2007 was my last date?
Don't know if I like dating! I think I would?

My ideal date would be something like going for Japanese food and then going ice skating. Or going out book shopping and then for lunch. Or canoeing on the river and stopping to sit and draw and for a picnic on the way down.

[mishey22]

Tell me about your day, F!S

[(Anonymous)]

It wasn't bad. I slept in, got coffee, watched TV, played with my dog. I have work tomorrow through Monday then 3 days off, so looking forward to that.

[kaijinscendre]

People on brought sweet stuff to January Birthday Celebrations. :< Terrible! Took my nephew for a walk after work and kept him for a bit to give him a break away from his sister.

[philstar22]

Very little sleep. Work was boring. Feeling really sick right now. need to go to bed because I have to be out the door by 6:45 tomorrow morning.

[(Anonymous)]

Was sick in bed all day, which is fine as it was my day off. Tomorrow I am not so lucky, because I am out of sick time and have already been spoken to twice about attendance. Like, okay, I guess I'm putting other people at risk now because this company has such a boner for presenteeism.

...but yeah today was actually pretty great. No responsibilities. Just relaxing with a cat.

[(Anonymous)]

Work is getting slow, as we've been getting through all the end-of-last-year projects. I didn't get much sleep last night and I've been recovering from a cold I came down with Friday night, so I was pretty burnt out all day. Stopped at Trader Joe's on the way home. Now I need to try to go to bed early.

[ayebydan]

I slept far too much.

Missed bus I meant to get to hospital.
Wasted an hour in bar moaning over my juice price.
Spent bus journey fretting I'd be late.
Had good hosp app.
Had to make dinner.
Fretted more over my dog's health.
Wrote fic. Watching tennis.
Still fretting.

[(Anonymous)]

I had the day off today so I've been super lazy and it's been nice.

Now I'm just hanging around for the next couple hours waiting for my mom to call (my parents are on vacation and in a different time zone). I need to do laundry and probably dishes and there's only like 17 pages left in the book I'm reading so I think I'll finish that and start something else.

Hopefully I can get to bed at a somewhat decent hour because I've got a busy day tomorrow and want to be able to leave the house early enough to not hit rush hour traffic.

Art Print vs Poster?

[(Anonymous)]

I am getting a piece of art off redbubble. The person gives me an option of poster vs 'art print'. Is there really a huge difference between the two? This will be framed and not really in any sun.

more info

[(Anonymous)]

It says this one the post.

Art Print: Gallery quality vibrant colours
Lightly textured 100% cotton paper

Poster: Printed on 185 gsm semi gloss poster paper

Re: Art Print vs Poster?

[tabaqui]

Basically: "Generally the difference is in the level of quality. Wall posters are typically printed in large volume on less expensive paper, fine-art posters are printed on high-quality paper, and fine-art prints are printed with careful attention to true color reproduction on high-quality paper."

So an 'art print' will be on nicer paper, with probably better color-reproduction. If the price isn't ridiculous, go for the art print; it will look nicer and also age better.

Re: Art Print vs Poster?

[(Anonymous)]

Doesn't redbubble explain? Usually it's down to higher quality ink and paper.

Tolkien Fans!

[(Anonymous)]

Several questions.

Are orcs and goblins the same thing?
Are there any good orcs/goblins? Or at least not so stereotypically evil?
Is it actually canon that female dwarves are rare?

Thank you.