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This thread might get a little bitter. What things (of a personal nature) can you not forgive in others? I'm not talking about general flaws, I mean specific stuff that a person has said or done that touches upon you personally.

My uncle did stuff to my mother when they were kids that I can't forgive him for. No one hurts my family. She's forgiven him and talks to him, but I avoid talking to him as much as possible.

There are also some people who hurt my dad pretty badly at a previous job. Can't forgive them either.

And the people who abused my kitty before I got her. Can't forgive them.

ooohh animal abuse. yup. another bullet point on my "people to avoid" list

I kicked my ex-husband out when he started hitting the cats. I was disabled and unemployed. Had no idea how I was going to cope. But yeah. I could take the verbal and emotional abuse but no-one harms my cats.

It took me fifteen years to tell anyone about this, though.

Yup. I hate anyone who harms any animal. But anyone who harms my cat is dead to me. She's the sweetest girl and I love her forever and I can't understand how they could possibly have not loved her too.

I'm sorry that happened to you and your cats. But you're awesome for shutting that abusive shit down.

my mother for not making it a priority to make sure her kids are properly clothed and fed. No mum, a growing teenager will not be able to buy new pants with 5 bucks.

most things my mom did when i was a kid. (locking my brother and me in the cellar when we misbehaved; leaving me on my own in the kids section while she went bra shopping on a different floor in the Department store) unpacking all that shit with a therapist was hard as f* and i will never forgive her the trauma and issues she gave me.

in friends - open and ongoing disregard for my interests /hobbies. If you dont like my hobby, fine; trash talking it (or trying to talk me out of it) bc you think its a waste of time and money, will make me leave.

My partner's mother, who was one of those women who had a baby because they wanted someone to love them unconditionally and be their therapy animal. Whenever she got a new boyfriend (usually some loser POS), she'd basically forget all about him, and then they'd leave her and then she'd remember she had a precious child she loves sooooooooo much.

She's in her 60s now, still a selfish sack of shit who LOVES her kid SO MUCH but still can't spare a single thought for anyone but herself. She's going to die mostly alone, which is what she deserves.

be their therapy animal

That phrase is really on-point. The world would be happier place if people didn't do that. I hope your partner's dealt with that.

Me, I didn't have kids, this being one reason. I too am going to die alone. But then, don't most people, ultimately?

He has, thanks. He came to terms with it pretty early on in his early teens (the height of when his mother and only parent ditched him constantly) and it made him unhappy and gave him some abandonment issues. But at least he was spared the pain of not being able to see his mother for who she was. So many people can't let go of the wishful thinking of who they WANT their parent to be and keep getting burned over and over again. He knew she wasn't ever going to be there for him other than the bare bones stuff.

Any sort of moralizing or unsolicited advice is unforgivable to me, which no doubt comes from having a suffocating mother and growing up in the bible belt.

Yeah, I'm not a big fan of that, either. Even if it comes from a good place, it's still a hard pass from me and if a friend doesn't get that and back off, our friendship is doomed.

Every time someone gives me rude unsolicited advice that's almost or actually insulting, I'm so, so close to just go "did I fucking ask for your opinion?"... but I never do.

Hell, do it sometime. People like that ought to learn.

One of my cousins used a racist term. I have no respect for him anymore.

My ex-friend for telling me I was going to hell when I came out to him, then proceeding to stalk me for 2 years telling him to give him a chance and that I must be "secretly bi".

LMAO (not at you, but at his gall). Wow, what a piece of shit.

sounds like he wanted to get in your pants and felt "cheated" when he realized it was never gonna happen despite his Nice Guy ~charms~

ayrt Yup this was exactly it. He tried to get into my pants for 4 years. When I flat out told him it was never going to happen because I was gay, he flipped out.

My mother is a very conservative Christian, and I've made the choice to forgive a lot of shit she's said to me and that I've heard her say around to other family members (who are mostly just as conservative, but some of the younger ones are more like me).

But I can't forgive her for saying in front of my preteen cousins that any abuse we face is our deserved punishment from God for humanity's sins, and sometimes we should endure it instead of trying to escape it. (Divorce is also no-no, so if your spouse is abusive? It's God's will!) It's an awful thing to say to anyone, but I can't forgive her for saying it in front of children who look up to her. They don't know me as well, but I said she was wrong and I hope their mom will also teach them better.

Child abuse (physical, verbal, emotional, sexual) or severe neglect. Unfortunately, my siblings and I experienced some combination of these things. And I'm not sure I can forgive all the shitty adults who stood by and said NOTHING, or normalized this shitty parenting. Similarly, I'm not feeling too warmly about anyone who objects to my decision to cut off shitty parents with the predictable "BUT FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMILY"

Animal abuse or severe neglect. Another reason I cut off shitty parents. I watched the premature deaths of at least 2 pets (arguably 3) because of shitty parents, and witnessed terrorizing of multiple animals.

Anyone who pushes to strip a group of people of their rights, or prevent them from gaining rights, when said group is not a threat to society/others (defining others as actual fully-formed living breathing humans and not fetuses, so piss off with that anti-abortion garbage). Compared to other states lately, though, I guess I can't complain.

Anyone who still wholeheartedly supports Trump in 2019. I don't know what goddamn reputation-and-personality-photoshopping channel they watch where he comes off smelling like a rose, but I can't forgive anyone who is still this much in denial. Or worse, are willing to put their own country at risk just for the chance to see all the sissy liberals cry. Yeah, thanks. Guess you can douse yourself in your neighbor's tears while the country burns. Soooooooo funny. I hope it was worth it.

on your last point, Fox News is what they watch. trump can do no evil on that station. also some churches (especially evangelical) represent trump as a messiah to be followed.

Family or friends not being loyal to me. Fake friendships. Theft of money and personal property. Animal abuse. Calling me ugly.

Same anon.
I can't forgive sexual abuse. (Thankfully I've never experienced it.)

I've never even met this person, but my husband's ex-stepmother. He's adopted and she used to say wretched things like he wasn't his father's real son, or that he was 'only adopted.' If I ever happened to meet her in real life for any reason, I'd have no problem smacking her in the face.

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