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I'm sorry, I just really want to vent and I don't want to drop this on anyone I know - please feel free to add your own rants, make me feel less alone :)

Got in an argument with someone in the comments on Not Always Right who seems to think that arts degrees or any non science/math degrees have no value whatsoever and are a waste of time to everyone and that also science people should never have to take any non science/math classes but arts/etc. People should still be required to take science and math courses. It doesn't matter how many reasonable arguments I and others give, they just keep insisting the same stupid nonsense arguments.

That sounds infuriating. I hate when I'm arguing with someone and I've reached the point where I'm like, 'This person is a troll. I should just stop talking to them and go do something else,' but the rage at someone being WRONG is just *so* *powerful*-!

https://xkcd.com/386/

Someone is WRONG ON THE INTERNET. :)

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2021-02-23 01:50 (UTC) - Expand

Sounds like a troll, tbh (altho maybe just a stubborn asshole, who can say these days when Poe's Law has long since been thrown out the damn window because of literal redundancy).

Ok, the reason I think everyone should take classes in the humanities is because we have a huge swath of people now who've demonstrated very nicely the danger of failing to teach people how to: critically read, evaluate trustworthiness of sources, clearly express their opinions, clearly and objectively present facts, recognize empty rhetoric, make a logical argument, engage in productive debate, empathize with and understand those other than yourself... ... ...

But yeah, fuck all that, that's all just wishy-washy flimflam, a waste of time (why study my native language - I speak it already?) and just the province of dreamers who can't get a "real" job. The only things worth learning involve materials and profit! The only reason you "humanities" folk don't agree with me is that you haven't learned the power of math!

+100000000 This is a satisfyingly spot-on comment.

STEM people who refuse to see the value in arts and humanities are the worst.

And by that I mean they're both tedious assholes and usually not actually very good at their chosen field.

Scientists have to be able to communicate well in order to report on their results (if you don't tell people what you did, you may as well not have done it), not to mention explain what they want to do beforehand and why they should be given money to do it. Scientists who can't write are very annoying.

Design is definitely important in the tech world, and psychology and anthropology should be as well, even if maybe they aren't seen that way.

Stupid rant incoming but I've been trying to get a villager on Animal Crossing to leave my island since I started. She was one of my starters and I hate her. I talk to her as little as possible and constantly wack her in the head with my net. SHE JUST WON'T LEAVE.

I've mentioned this on here before, but on my New Leaf game, we had Elise. My former sister-in-law and I could not STAND Elise. She grated; we hated. So we were the WORST to her. Sent her rude mail, hit her with the net, dug holes outside her house so she couldn't get out... And then, like a year of this, with her NEVER LEAVING, I... gave up. Started being nice to her. Wrote her a nice letter and included a gift. AND SHE MOVED AWAY THE NEXT DAY. So maybe try this tactic??

I've actually complained about this friend on here before - she's starting IVF even though she's single, has a part-time minimum wage job, and is very physically unhealthy (morbidly obese, arthritic, suffers migraines, just to start with). It's really hard for me to bite my tongue every time she decides to tell me something about the process - which I never fucking asked about! I might add! I never indicated I wanted to know at all! Would I ask a friend who was looking to get pregnant the old fashioned way how often she and her partner fucked? No I would not! Because I do not want to know!!!
...*sigh*
But anyway, the other day she mentioned that she was previously Mormon for 'a few years', which... caught me by surprise, because I've known her for like fifteen years and I can't remember her ever mentioning that, but it also annoyed me because I'm pretty sure she doesn't know more than the broad strokes about mormonism. I didn't want to get too into it, because I didn't want to start a fight, but I did ask if she knew about the post-mortem baptism thing, and she did not.
It's stupid for me to get mad about, because how does this affect me? But sometimes her ignorance makes me so pissed off I don't know how to deal with it. She just... says things, without thinking about them for more than an eighth of a second. IDK. I'm tired.

Your friend does sound thoughtless and impetuous, but you also sound like a shitty shitty friend.

Nah. If they said this all out loud I would side with you. Thinking thoughts like that does not make you a bad friend, however, if I were AYRT I would question whether this a friendship I truly want to remain invested in because it doesn't sound healthy to get this worked up over decisions someone else is making (for good or for bad).

Maybe, but I'm also literally her only friend, as she often tells me, so I'm pretty sure that she would keep calling even if I were enough of a shithead to say any of this out loud. Which is part of why I am tired.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2021-02-23 02:20 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2021-02-23 11:15 (UTC) - Expand

Nah. You don't go around telling your friends personal and private details that they haven't asked to hear/indicated they're okay with hearing. That's rude AF and grossly overstepping the boundaries of friendship.

How did she get okayed for IVF with all those health issues? Sounds like someone is just taking her money.

And yeah - DNW any details, thanks, arrgh!

Right? A potential single parent with all the health concerns OP mentioned being given the go-ahead for IVF does sound unusual.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2021-02-23 21:33 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Vent thread

tabaqui - 2021-02-23 22:46 (UTC) - Expand

This person sounds deeply aggravating to me, but my main takeaway from your comment is that you really ought to stop pretending to be this person's friend. That's not some kind of personal dig against you; I don't blame you for being annoyed and judgmental in this instance. I would be, too, in your position. But the way you feel about this person is not the way you ought to feel about a friend. The way you talk about them, they don't sound like your friend. They sound like someone you don't like.

We all privately harbor certain ungenerous and judgmental thoughts about our friends from time to time, and that's okay. But at a certain point, if you just don't have any real respect or fondness for a person, the honest, integrity-having thing to do is stop participating in the charade. When you let it drag on and on, the fact that you're willing to be that two-faced ends up reflecting badly on you.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2021-02-23 15:14 (UTC) - Expand

I'm sorry to hear about your frustrations. IMO Sounds like you need a break from this friend. Friends can be emotionally taxing.

I have a friend who I lost touch with after she got married. A few months ago, she reached out to me so we could reconnect. She was going through a rough patch in her marriage and said she didn't have any friends to turn to. I was sorry to hear about her marriage issues, but I did want to reconnect with her, so we started messaging back and forth. Then she slowly started drifting away again. I sent her birthday and Christmas cards, and she never even texted me a thank you. I feel a little . . . used? Kind of? When we were younger, she did have a habit of dropping her friends for her boyfriends and then wanting to hang out all the time when she broke up with them, so now I'm wondering if her issues with her husband have been resolved and she's decided to dump me now that she doesn't need somebody to vent to. I almost want to call her out on this, but she left my last message on read, so I dunno.

I've had "friends" like that, too. They suck.

I'm sorry, nonny. Your friend sucks.

If you never want to talk to this friend ever again, you're perfectly withing reason to do so. I don't think she is worth the effort to call out no matter how things might play out (whether she responds or not). IMO cut things off with this toxic friend, and if she ever comes knocking around, you have every right to tell her she's a shitty person.

See her public? Pull a Mariah Carey and say, "I don't know her."

I woke up to SUCH a wonderful, completely unprovoked rant that was a reply to a comment I made on a youtube video. That's sarcasm if you didn't know.

Thing is, it's one of those channels for mental health wellbeing and stuff, and I had shared something super personal on a video, in what I thought was a place of support. Well, somebody took issue with terms I was not at all directing at them, or at ANYONE they were referring to, and blasted some crazy rant starting with the fact that they were insulted by such terms (mind you, I was using such terms for MY sake, to protect MYSELF from being recognized on my YT account, and in context of the comment, common sense would say I was not talking about anyone that offended anon was referring to). Then they transitioned into several walls of text going into bizarre mixes of something vaguely on topic, religion, and what I can only assume was concern trolling for me.

I wanted so badly to tell them to fuck off, but not in a community like that. The most I could do was tell them not to make MY comment all about them. I really hope they don't reply back with more stupidity. All I know is that I probably won't comment on another one of these videos if that's the kind of shit I'm going to get. Guess it's on me, though. Youtube comment sections are never safe and I knew that from past experience.

I'm an amab sexual abuse survivor, and it sucks how The Teacher brings out apologists.

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