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⌈ Secret Post #5558 ⌋

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So, my job made a counter offer to me. They would match my pay increase, change me to salary, and allow me to WFH.

On the one hand, many places on the internet say not to take a counter offer. And this new job would allow me to expand my knowledge base.

On the other hand, that solves all my issues with my current job and allows me to continue working at a place I like. Plus, I know how to do all my current work (and stretch it out) and would have a ton of free time if I WFH.

I would be wary. If they could always afford/allow you to do those things, why didn't they do so before you were bailing for another job? It's clear they don't have your best interests at heart, what they want is not to lose you so they don't have to take the time and effort to train someone new.

To be fair, I never brought up my pay to them and they pay more than average for my area. Also, I would be the only person that could train my replacement. So I'd have pretty good warning if they did.

Oooh, that's tricky. I mean, I agree with the commenter above, but also... I personally am a coward who is terrified of change AND ESPECIALLY job insecurity after at one point spending 7 years on it (recession hit Michigan earlier than most of the country) so I would be like "oh thank goodness I don't have to change anything". So I can't exactly encourage you not to take it when I know I wouldn't be that brave.

But on a more fully positive note, clearly that means you're valued as an employee, and that speaks well of you. So whatever you choose, I expect you will do fine. =)

Yeah, it is a conundrum. My manager really wants me to stay and has been pushing to get all my demands met. Monday they should have a written offer for me to look over.

forget internet collective advice. Take a moment to look at it through the lens of your life and yours alone.

Would current job's new parameters afford you an ideal or at least better quality of life? Would anything about it actually be negative, or would anything about their counter-offer turn out to be less positive in the long term compared to how it looks in the present? If not, then what's actually bad about taking it? Of course you do have to get it in writing and nail them down on it - don't let them offer it and then recind as soon as you agree to stay. But if the offer of same salaray plus WFH is equal to or better than the new job, then honestly why wouldn't you want it? There's room for caution, of course, but if the only reason they didn't up your salary or meet your other needs is because you didn't ask, then that's not the issue.

Basically, view it in terms of your overall lifestyle, goals, etc. Is there anything about the counter-offer that isn't in line with where you want to be and where you want to go, that the new job would offer you? That's worth considering. But if the chance to "learn new things" is just sort of a side perk or something, and the real impact to your life, future, goals, etc is the money and the stability with a side of WFH? There's nothing wrong with accepting the counter. View it from your personal perspective, for what you want and which offer will get you there. You know better than randos on the internet what you want and what will provide, but again: so long as the counter offer is in writing and guaranteed and no one will pull the rug out from under you after you accept. That's the place where warnings are apt - when someone somewhere tells you they can match but then as soon as you turn down the new job, the old job goes "what? I don't know what you're talking about."

I am a not super ambitious. I just want enough pay to be comfortable and take a vacation once a year. So the counter offer would fulfill those needs. My current job also offers far more flexible work hours with 20 vacation days.

With the new job, I would have 5 vacation days until I am there for a year. And then it would turn up 15. I will continue to ponder the pros and cons over the weekend. And will definitely be getting the offer in writing. Thanks for giving me some thoughts to chew on.

Whatever they are offering, get it in writing in a contract not just an offer. Have an employment lawyer look over it to see if they've snuck in any loopholes or get outs, and insist on there being a punishment clause for if they break it.

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