[ SECRET POST #5583 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5583 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

Lose your virginity to who you want to lose it to, don't feel pressure to just take ANYONE and do it. Who gives a shit what other people may be telling you to do. Don't listen to them. Only you know what is best for you.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm a 31-year-old virgin, so I'm biased, but I'm not sure why having a mild crush on one of the writers is so pathetic. I have crushes on celebrities or other people outside of my orbit sometimes, and it's never gonna happen with those specific people, but it's fun to entertain myself while I'm working on meeting people in real life. (Also I'm sure you've heard this before, but having crushes really has taught me a lot about what I'm looking for in a partner, so... it's not all bad.)

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, if it's not something you want (as in, you want, not society telling you to), you don't need to do it.


I'm ace (maybe aroace?) and I've felt like this before. Many times, even. And it took a while to realize my thing about my virginity was more apathetic and that it was society's expectations that were making me feel pressured. And crushes can be different (romantic only, sexual only, realizing that they're more "I want to be besties"/I want them to like me).

Of course, that doesn't mean any of this applies, but I want to emphasize that losing your virginity should be something you desire. There might be (and probably is) more to this than you're putting on this secret, but please don't let "it's expected" be the only reason you have sex.

[(Anonymous)]

the character isn't real though so there's no actual virginity being lost on their part. also it's extremely normal to have crushes on celebrities/people you'll never meet or fuck in real life. idk, i guess i don't understand the secret very well.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in my thirties, aroace, and I feel this. I've been contemplating "just doing it" for many years, because of the judgmental and sometimes even dehumanizing way that society views people who never have. It would just feel good to be "part of the club," you know? But I'm somewhat sex repulsed (when it comes to sex that involves me), so I know if I do it, it will be horrible and likely quite physically painful.

I don't know what your situation is specifically, but regardless, please be kind to yourself. If you do it, that's okay, and if you don't, that's okay, but no matter what, you're valid and you're feelings are valid. Having bad sex, or having good sex, or having no sex ever--none of it defines you at all.

[(Anonymous)]

Same tbh. Like, I'm not even remotely interested in having sex to the point being repulsed but there's this fucked up thought of "maybe if I had sex I could say it wasn't for me, people would stop with the ~you wouldn't know until you tried it~" but nah, that would just turn into "you just haven't found the right person to do it with" and I'd be back where I started.

[(Anonymous)]

just saying but with that attitude chances are the experience is going to suck

[(Anonymous)]

This right here x1000. You don't want to just do it to do it, because it will probably not be a good experience and then you'll never want to have sex again. Why do that to yourself?

Sex should be based on attraction and libido and wanting to do it with someone in particular (even if the attraction is only momentary. I'm not saying you have to jump into a relationship.)

Find yourself someone you're attracted to and experiment. Don't just jump in whole hog, k?

[(Anonymous)]

Don't force yourself, OP. What a character does says nothing about you, because characters can do anything their writers want them to. At the end of the day, the character has no agency, but you do.

[arcanetrivia]

If you really honestly want to, then fine, but this doesn't sound like a great reason to me.