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⌈ Secret Post #5694 ⌋

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Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

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Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I grew up in a lightly-religious Christian community. Religion was a by rote experience, occasionally a solace, but never an oppressive force in my childhood. As such, as an adult I will often pop into a Church to contemplate things or remember loved ones or just rest my soul.

The Anglican church have now, in 2022, after some debate declared gay sex to definitely be a sin. And all the quiet faith I didn't even know I had has just died.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Sigh. Sorry about this, as a non Anglican I had no idea. What a shame, to make people stray further away from the Church in this day and age. But it seems like it has not been decided yet? Not sure anon but apparently it is not set in stone just yet soo hoping that all goes well :(

Re: Vent thread

[philstar22]

ugh. Fuck them. There are churches out there that aren't awful. I attend one (occasionally). But I totally get why this would turn you off faith completely.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

They revealed that Bridget is officially a trans girl in the new Guilty Gear Strive.

I, a trans person... have Thoughts about this.

On one hand, yay! More trans rep! On the other hand...

Originally Bridget was born in a set of same-sex male twins. The fictional culture in which they were born stigmatised same-sex twins as a bad omen. This means that there's a lot of pressure for infanticide. Instead, Bridget's parents raise them as a girl, to preserve their life, and to hide the truth from everybody else.

In past games, Bridget outwardly identifies as male. Strongly, even. Their whole things was that they were like "Even though I was raised this way and I've strong feminine inclinations, I'm still a boy!"

In the most recent game, Bridget says they are, indeed, a girl. But that's really uncomfortable for me. To me it feels like Bridget's gave into the gender put upon them by their parents and ended up reinforcing that one shitty idea that parents force trans identities on their kids. Then there's the whole erasing feminine cis men. Like there's no way for a cis man to be feminine without having trans inclinations.

I'm so fucking torn. It really hit me like a gut punch when I saw the scene.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

It sounds to me (a cis person who doesn't believe in gender tbh) more like a "gender expression can be influenced by others, and people can give in to gender norms even if they don't feel like it as long as they (unfortunately) exist" statement. More like a "*shrug* guess I am a girl then" kinda thing.

But leaving personal feelings of foreigners aside we must take into account the cultural background too - issues of sex and gender expression are dealt with very differently in Japan and there were a lot of societal changes in the past decade, parallel to the west's own changes, so... I think there are some deep, interesting discussions to be made. Unfortunately if there is one thing that P4 and CT fandoms have taught me it is that they arent gonna happen

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

This reminds me of Danganronpa in the opposite direction. There is a character introduced as a girl who later it turns out is a boy who pretended to be a girl because he was ashamed of how weak and unmanly he was. His story arc consists of him gaining the courage to admit this secret to others and become determined to stop pretending.

This would have been much cooler as a trans story, because the idea of boys escaping into being girls because they can't hack it as boys is.... not good. But also because there is a very touching (it's Danganronpa so bear with me) part of the story where his murderer goes out of his way to conceal the fact that he was killed in the boys' locker room, to protect his secret. If this character had been a trans girl this could have been a powerful act of affirmation. It also would explain away why the game and other characters keep treating him like a girl even after it is revealed.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, other trans people seem happy with it. Bridget's entire backstory is a mess for handling gender identity in either way, and when the original was written the idea of transness probably wasn't even a consideration, it was just a backstory-driven excuse to put a boy in a dress because that's a popular trope. So like. It seems like it could have been written better but I see how trans people would appreciate the effort.

Also not a fan of any quibbles that have to do with "erasing feminine boys" because it's almost always used as a talking point next to the transphobic talking point that trans people are trying to "trans" gender-nonconforming kids. The trans community by and large is more accepting than your average cis of gender-nonconformity in both cis and trans people of all genders. Nobody says if a boy is feminine then he's really a girl. However, many feminine "boys" turn out to be trans girls. That's not an issue.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

My wife strongly identified as a girl because she felt it was all she had because her mother would get sulky if she expressed anything "masculine." Then she identified as a man after leaving, before realizing her problem wasn't femininity but the way femininity was treated. She had to be demure, girly, like pink, play with dolls, have feminine hobbies, do the cleaning and cooking, be domestic.

She's since decided fuck that. She's enby but isn't so shy of she/her anymore. Bridget feels like that's what's going on, instead. Less, "I guess..." And more, "Soooo, my problems were the type of femininity they tried to shove onto me. I'm a girl, and that's okay, I don't have to be the girl they wanted me to be."

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I've lost interest in Guilty Gear a while ago and these things all cement that, sadly. I'm really tired of characters who get canonically forced into presenting as the opposite gender getting lauded as some sort of trans icon.

Re: Vent thread

[philstar22]

The Dallas Immigration court is going to drive me up a freaking wall. Today found out that the case they've been repeatedly telling me hasn't been decided actually was decided several months back. Only for some reason they mailed the decision to San Antonio. And now I have to fill out some extra forms in order to get a copy of the decision.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Agh, that sounds frustrating. Do idiots work there, or are they just short-staffed?

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I'm super frustrated that whenever I point out that I don't have irl friends, my online friends get all indignant. I don't mean I randomly go "Wow I wish I had friends", I mean in situations where it's like... I'm getting my wisdom teeth removed and they ask if I have anyone who can check on me. Or when I can't travel because I don't have any friends who could cat-sit. Or when I have no one to celebrate birthdays with.

Like, they could just assume that when I say I don't have friends, to their faces, when I tell them how much I love them and that they are my best friends all the time, that I mean I do not have an real life friends. They could just gloss over the nonspecificity and focus on the problem I'm describing, but they always have to make it about themselves instead and then my problem gets ignored so they can half-joke about being hurt.

I don't think any of them can really conceptualise how lonely I am. I don't talk to my family, I have no friends, I have literally no one to rely on. They have partners, roommates, parents, *someone* around them. And I'm not saying that means their lives are easier or whatever, but that they do not understand what it is like and it's so frustrating.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Could it perhaps mean that they expect you to talk about it, let them help you with making friends or invite them over?

Being a pretty lonely person both online and IRL (perhaps even more online nowadays which says a lot lol) this has happened to me before and years later I was told that I was unapproachable - I lived the farthest from my group of online friends and have social phobia to boost which makes me extra shy/impersonal. I wasn't going for "unapproachable" but my online friends felt that about me.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Like, they could just assume

They could just gloss over

Or, you could say specifically what you mean so they don't have to "assume" or "gloss over" you saying something that hurts their feelings? My mom does this kind of shit to me all the time and then says "oh, you knew what I meant" when it would've been just as easy to be more careful with her word choice.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

That's ironic, feeling so insecure about their value as friends that they're actually being kind of crappy friends.

I get you, OP. I love my online friends, some of them I've known for more than a decade. But when they don't live in my state and I could really use someone to help me out IRL... well, they wish they could be there and I wish they could be there, but none of my online friends tries to make my legit problem all about themselves, nor do they try to guilt trip me about wanting/needing friends who can be physically available as well as emotionally available.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I'm really, really sorry, anon. I know a little of what you're going through as regards loneliness. It's pretty frightening.

Sending you hugs, if that will help at all.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I feel this, nonny. I'm basically all by myself in my town, estranged from family (since they're half assholes and half cowards). I have acquaintances throughout the state (and I'm even questioning those relationships), but to say, drive me home from a hospital procedure or something? I'm on my own. I even recently left an online group because of past drama and other complicated reasons.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I totally understand. I only have one IRL friend left and my family and me tend to clash 50% of the time. I fear for my future.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

When I think about the fact that I'm meant to work 40 hours a week and then also prepare food and clean and run errands try to take care of my life at the same time, I feel extremely bitter about the fact that we still work 40 hours a week, 5 days a week, in 2022. In my case, at least 15 of those hours are spent sitting in a chair, killing my health, trying to look busy or make it through the inevitable brain fog that occurs during an 8-hour office day. Why.

And I don't even have children. I don't know how people are doing life with children. I totally understand why so many people left the work force in 2021.

I should be glad I'm not an Amazon worker or something, and I am, but god. We need to seriously look at the reality of work in the 21st century, and it does not involve 40 hours a week.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

To me there is one thing MUCH worse than 40/hr/week jobs and that is the way work can take such an immense psychological toll on us. I HATE "being" my job. I wish I could work 40 hours a week and relax as a normal human being for the remaining 128. I can't, and THIS is what bugs me.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

God I feel you. I know there are lots of people out there who work considerably more than 40 hours per week, and still have to do all that other stuff, and that just makes me feel even worse because I honestly do. not. understand. how.

I just don't get it, and I never have. I can handle like 20 hours per week and still keep up with the absolute basic household stuff, and that's it.

I don't get how everyone does it. And I'm sure many people's response will basically be, "Because I don't have a choice," and I'm sympathetic to that, I truly am, but like, yeah, I didn't have a choice either. That's how I ended up on government disability. Because I had to do it, and I still couldn't do it.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Goddamn mood. I don't get why we all just have to suck it and grind for so many hours a day just to get barely any money to support ourselves in 2022 (well, aside from corporate greed, shitty politicians and rich assholes, y'know). I thought all the modern day conveniences were supposed to mean our lives would be more convenient? This is not convenient. This is decidedly the opposite of convenient.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Yuck, totally feel you on this. Add in shaping our schedule around our jobs and it's literally living for work. Time taken into commuting to and from work, dress up and down for work, scheduling sleep around work. At my work place it's more or less at given that at the very least we work 2 extra days of overtime every month. So even the "40 hour work week" is a fucking farce. A lot of places make their employees work more than 40hrs a week. I know some places try to avoid paying OT and instead find loopholes to get employees to work under 40hrs, but regardless, workplaces will overwork and underpay the employees as much as possible

warning: Politics

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so sick of Genshin Ukrainian war signatures. Or people using Bandera as their username. Fucking Ukrainian nazis and people who don't care about any wars going on right now or were going in the past five years but suddenly oh so concerned about this one. Not that I suddenly want to read Palestinian war signatures. Just fuck off with your political shit, go spam some other game.