[ SECRET POST #5840 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5840 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[Whose Line is it, Anyway?]


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[Pic is from Fullmetal Alchemist]


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Comments

Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly I decided to start the year by chatting to relatives (the old 'are you dating yet') and reading a BL webcomic and now am left wondering: do people ACTUALLY feel things like body burning or ears ringing when they kiss or are those just poetic wordings?

Because (granted, as a 30 yo woman who's kissed only a few times) I never felt anything special when kissing and have been wondering if I am really just ace or maybe an aroace who happens to (have learned to) be into romance stories. eh

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

idk about those specific descriptors but yeah, a good makeout leaves me flushed and warm. it's arousal. I've never been in love though so I can't speak to having arousal reactions over barely-there physical contact or emotional situations like in fiction.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

Ears ringing I don't know about, but warmth and burning sure

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

I have no idea tbh, I've been in a 10 year long relationship and kissing for me is just kind of gross honestly. It doesn't make me feel tingly or warm or anything described in books, it's just wet and unpleasent for me. But I also don't like being touched very much so it's probably part of that.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - this was kind of comforting, because that sounds like me except for the 10 year long relationship and made me believe it's not just my lack of experience. Thanks, anon

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

Kissing does generate a physical response, but it's also worth remembering that the same response gets exaggerated for the sake of the fantasy in these works of fiction. After all, what people are looking for there is an idealized idea of romance and sex, which has absolutely nothing wrong with it. Feeling hot and bothered in real life? Yes. Ears ringing? My sibling in god you might be having a stroke.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - lmao, thanks a lot anon

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

I've had ears ringing (+ slightly dizzy) after really good sex, but I have low blood pressure, which I'm pretty sure is the culprit there

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

I got ears ringing when I made out with someone at a metal show, but I think it had more to do with the metal than the makeout.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

Ears ringing, not personally.

But if I'm attracted to someone, kissing can lead to arousal (which to some people could feel like body burning I guess).

Basically, all the bodily metaphors in romance novels to do with kissing/sex etc are about arousal. So just copy replace what arousal means to you and it should make more sense.

Personally, I never felt anything like that until I actually kissed someone I felt attracted to. Without that, kissing is a bit gross to me.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

Are there physiological effects due to arousal? Yes. Do they vary in nature and intensity for each individual depending upon their circumstances? Also, yes. General body state, immediate body state (like injury or illness), mood, attraction, and environment can all play a part.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

Warmth definitely. Horny and stoned feel very similar to me as far as the generating of heat goes. Hence the term 'love stoned'.

Never heard anything about ear ringing before though.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

Ears ringing, no, that hasn't happened to me.

Overall body warmth/flushing, genital tingling, desire to move closer and make more body contact with the person, a sort of high floaty feeling, definitely yes.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like a lot of it comes from the oft-repeated "show, don't tell" advice that is hammered into most writers' brains. Emphasizing how the kiss makes the characters feel through description rather than just directly saying "the kiss was good, and it made [character A] realize he was truly in love with [character B]. It's more a way to "show, not tell" passion than anything.

Still, I do think lot of writers over-compensate, over-complicating their descriptions to the point of unbelievability to emphasize character feelings when something more understated or simple could be more effective at communicating the same thing.

Re: Fandom question, or maybe not fandom

[(Anonymous)]

The "ears ringing" for me is more like... going inside an underground tunnel with pressure, or diving underwater.
It's like getting a hit of adrenaline/endorphins, like when you exercise really hard until you're exhausted but then gain a sudden burst of energy, or drink something cold and fizzy.

It's definitely more noticeable during a really good orgasm, but it can happen during kissing, or when you're physically close to someone you're really really into and your body is having a physical reaction but your brain hasn't caught up yet.

Please don't think there's anything wrong with you if you've never experienced it. I'm a very sexual person and it's still rare for me. Someone earlier mentioned low blood pressure and I concur, I have low blood pressure as well. So could be related to that. I faint easily.

Or you could be ace like you said, nothing wrong about that, I just mean that the feeling isn't a typical response to getting kissed (I think) but it can happen.