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[Clockwise: Puella Magi Madoka Magica / Halo 4 / Ninomae Ina'nis / Enya]

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07. [WARNING for transphobia]

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Instead of posting complaint secrets over and over, if we've got a subset of people trying to write stories who know they see no point in it unless they get comments... maybe it would make sense for you guys to form a positive-feedback community and promise to read each other's fics and comment on them. And see if that works any better than trying to coerce people who aren't interested in that.

It would be a small group and you'd know what kind of input was welcome, and have a stake in providing it. If commenting turns out to be a bigger burden than anyone thought, or less rewarding than was hoped, the group could reevaluate the thing. And if that deals with the need, you'd be better off than you apparently currently are.

I think that's the main point. Some accommodations are not ideal and someone need to choose sleeping in a common area. Or you all share rooms. But OP wasn't graced with a choice. They are the odd one out so they stuck with a shitty bed in a common room. Because everyone is a couple so they need their ~privacy~ But OP apparently doesn't. It's this exclusion that is annoying af.
Their friend doing "oh, I have one extra bed no one else would want I should totally invite my single friend".
I am projecting of course, but this situation is all kinds of awkward

"No women on the ships because they make the seas angry!"

Bro, just say you want to have le gay sex on dem rockin' boats

I write fic because sometimes I have complex ideas I can’t express well or enough through illustration. And I draw fanart because when it goes well it’s super satisfactory personally

I've been reading this fic in Russian for a non-Russian non-English fandom. And someone called their friend's mother Mrs.
We don't do honorfics it's not exactly a thing in modern language. You would call someone "N's mom" or "Name Patronym" or "Aunt M" if you are close enough.
For translation purposes usually used are own honorifics but they are a bit archaic.
Language of fandom in question also has their own widely used honorfics.
It's been a day but I am still so annoyed.

Anyway. Feel free to vent about your fic grievances.

Awwww sorry about that anon. It can be very rough. As someone who’s never been talented but worked hard at art lessons until like 20something yo I always felt humiliated by talented kids (in my mind I was the worst artist ever but looking back now it was not that bad) but looking at fandom artists now I’m like “well even I could do better than that with the right software/hardware” . Which is to say my art was just at that “we all have seen worse, but also much better” point when I gave up. There was room for improvement. But I hated it too much to enjoy it anymore.

Lately I have been trying to go back to drawing and feeling like some popular fandom artists are mediocre at best skill wise is what convinced me like no amount of “your style is fine!! etc” had ever convinced

That sounds pretty cute, actually!

Honestly, I think it would be great if Discworld never got a "definitive" adaptation, but instead a lot of different takes. I don't need a Discworld Cinematic Universe. An anime movie here, a lush fantasy horror there (Lords and Ladies would so work for that), a campy comedy, a hopeful animated children movie... Discworld is great because it's so multi-faceted.

Look, IMO we need to push for progress so that we can see how far we still have to go/how much we've achieved.

The Bud Lite/Mulvaney situation indicates there are still people unwilling to accept trans people as just people.

How we react is going to help shape whether we as a society will progress or regress in terms of LGBTQIA+ representation in modern America.

Sitting back and being like, "Mulvaney should have known better and not do it," not only is victim blamey but it's indication that some people who claim to be progressive/pro-trans right will only act when it's easy/to their benefit.

I know we live in a transphobic society but how can we do more/better when we react with, "well she should have known how this will go down" when transphobes use a small sponsorship to advertise their prejudice?

It's not that Mulvaney took on a sponsorship that would obviously upset the conservative buyers of said product that is the problem.
The problem is the far right will take any opportunity to promote their hate and bigotry and run with it, and Americans at large buy into and say, "well why are trans people existing?"

Don't get comfortable that you're the right kind of queer who won't/don't get the same sort of vitriol/hate/violence as trans people.

I'm Ace but in the closet because my gay friends regularly dead name trans people they know (and even consider as friends) and they routinely crack the same conservative bullshit "have to give space to the nOnBiNaRiEs" jokes.

Like Princess Weekes pointed out in her Anne Heche video, allyship in the LGBTQIA+ community is 1)not a monolith and 2)not really real.

It's easy to get together and organize when you HATE something.
But for some reason when it's time for us to defend each other, not everyone wants to show up. Instead a lot of people use that opportunity to make things about themselves.

Honestly, I don't even have room to be mad at Budweiser. They did what I knew they'd do. Corporations obviously were really only thinking about trying to make more money by trying to appeal to as many consumers as possible, and when members of the far right seized this opportunity to run off their hate, of course Budweiser only did what they thought would save them the most money.

Like, wow, a shitty corporation does something shitty. Not surprising.

Yes, Budweiser should have stuck by Mulvaney and supported her but I'm not surprised. Just rolled my eyes and thought, "yep another day at the giant corporation factory".

And this is why we need to step up and push back on hatred of bigots really wanting to hate on minority groups with no repercussions.

No one should EVER expect any corporations to do the right thing.

Like,a bit off topic but Neymar still has a career after a Nike employee accused him of attempted rape. He remained at the company after the event and then it wasn't until much later after they investigated the whole thing did they sever ties with Neymar.
And they didn't even come forward with WHY they severed ties with him.

We can take the corporation money because how else will any of us live our lives and be active participants in society if we don't (corporations made sure that'd happen), but I stopped giving a shit if these companies will "do the right thing" because oftentimes, they won't.

DA: She has totally ordinary teeth, but her palate is very wide and her underbite is striking.

3Hz if they could promise not to be weird about it.

English and my native language, which I'm not fluent in. I know I speak it weird. I'm good with words in English but I still feel like my communication sucks. Too many words and phrases get jumbled up and my thoughts tend to come rushing out at 100billion MPH.

I'm fluent in four (speak, read, write) and understand 3. It's a function of the environment and pretty normal for people in my country to be bilingual at the very least.

Yeah. That's what I take them as meaning too. And I bet OP would still throw a fit if someone left a comment that simply said "I liked it!"

1) I like to tell and create stories
2) If there is a fic/ship I want and it doesn't exist/there aren't a lot of fics, I want to create my own story because I want it, which means I've already started thinking of a situation or two I could write
3) Processing trauma
4) Escaping the real world and creating worlds of my own in my head
5) when I post, I hope that it inspires someone out there to start writing their own stories
6) I've always enjoyed writing. Like, learning grammar rules and breaking them, learning new words and phrases (and being excited when it conveys a thought I have better than before my discovery of said word or phrase), learning about "the 3 act structure", "unreliable narrator", etc.
Like IDK...the fics supplement the desires to learn how to be a better/good storyteller

I make the thing because I want to make the thing. I post the thing because I want to show off and find out what people think about the thing- good and bad. I can't really post before I'm finished, because I've found that's an excellent way to ensure it will never actually get done.

In my most recent fandom, it was such a common thing for writers to have one of their random, not that seriously written fics be their most popular, well-liked fics (myself included).

No idea! It was a complete coincidence that I even noticed - one of their longer fics is one of my absolute favourites, so when the DDOS attack on AO3 happened I opened it at a time when I had access to read it when the site would be down for me as well.

And then suddenly yesterday I got a 404 error when the tab reloaded, with both the fic and their whole profile gone.

Thank god for the wayback machine!

I used to download fics when I still had an e-reader but mine broke. Maybe I should look into getting one again....

Because I have specific ideas that I want to read, so I write them myself. And if I want to read them I figure it's possible that someone else wants to read something like it as well, so I post it.

Same for me. I would be perfectly fine (and have been in a similar scenario) if I had my own private room. The lodgings arr the issue for me, not that I would be the only single amongst couples.

I'm not sure how you're both advocating for fighting harder and also defending yourself for not reacting when Budweiser didn't do anything. Fighting includes doing so against the people and companies you'd expect shittiness from.

I got ya: "Through the Glass", by dental floss on AO3: https://archiveofourown.org/works/639003

It's one of my favourite MCU fics!

Well, authors these days only seem to want mindless ass-kissing and fellating for comments, so it's kudos or nothing cupcake!

Eh, even an adaptation supervised by the author's own daughter ended up as trash, so I have zero confidence that it is possible at all to translate Discworld books to the screen. Cosgrove Hall animations and *maybe* Hogfather aside, they all suck terribly.

Hard pass for me too. I'm OK (to an extent) with being the odd one out, but staying in the game room with no real privacy sounds awful/unbearable (I'd get so resentful at some point lol).

The only ways I'd be able to join in are if I could bring along a friend/my sister so I can at least have someone there I can engage with/partner up with when the couples are busy doing their couples stuff (and my friend/sister and I also get our own rooms, we deserve privacy) OR I get my own room so if I want to be alone/going to sleep, I have my own space to do things by myself.

And on the macro, I highly recc traveling alone (of you can afford) or doing an event you enjoy alone. It's helped me feel a lot less anxious when around couples/cliques and I'm the solo person not engaged in whatever is going on.

It's pretty scary at first, but like learning to ride a bike/integrating a new program at work, you get better as you pick up new skills and learn tricks and shortcuts. Using training wheels/have someone or something to help you navigate.

I flew out to visit a friend as my first solo trip (going to the airport and flying on a plane by myself was a huge anxiety of mine). My friend was a very kind host! We also got to visit a nearby city for a couple days, so I had them there with me as my guide of sorts.

My next solo trip was meeting an online friend because we were going to the same con. I felt less scared to go to a big event because I knew I'd meet someone I know there. My first time booking and staying at a hotel solo was the new hurdle in this trip.

And then I went on my first real solo trip earlier this year and it was so nice to just do everything on my own time. Flew out to a new city to an event I was going to attend and staying a hotel all by myself. Of course, stressful times sucked a lot, but being able to go through the stresses alone ensured I was fine by myself. It was also SO NICE to do things purely on my own time. Didn't have to worry about meeting someone somewhere or doing something that they don't like, compromising on where to eat, etc.

Have gone to watch films alone (like that time I got super high and missed basically all of the Bruce Lee stuff in "Once Upon A Time in Hollywood" at Cinebarre because I had to rush to the bathroom to throw up and take a shit lmao), ate at restaurants alone, went to a concert solo and that forced me to talk to a fellow concert goer, who was kind and fun to talk to.

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