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[ SECRET POST #6496 ]

⌈ Secret Post #6496 ⌋

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The amount of people on this thread who don't understand hyperbole is making me very sad. Some things about my situation I think I should add.

1. I work with gifted children.
2. I work with very rich gifted children.
3. I work with very rich, entitled, well-connected children.
4. I put this secret in the post thread (thank you secret maker!) in the very first weeks of school, when the shocking disrespect a lot of them showed me and others and their refusal to listen to basic instructions drove me to tears of frustration at least once. (Something I've now learned happens to every teacher in that school eventually.)
5. I can't believe I actually have to write this, but no - I would not and have never even actually considered hitting a child. Even if it wasn't evil and cruel, how the fuck would that help me or them? There's nothing productive in violence except to make me feel momentarily better and then much, much worse.
6. Can we please discuss the lovely stress-relief of Animal Crossing now?

You could have just left that part off though and chose not to. You can say it’s hyperbole all you want and draft lists of excuses but as any idiot knows, even joking about violence against children is wrong. And if you really have the job you claim you do, you would know that as a mandatory reporter.

as any idiot knows, even joking about violence against children is wrong

Plenty of mainstream comedians and their audiences (especially parents!) disagree. But I guess they are all idiots in your eyes.

It’s wrong for mandatory reporters. Context is key.
And if OP gets unmasked, they’ll be reminded of that when they lose their career and get a court mandate to stay 50 yards away from children.

Gonna be honest, the fact that you're implying OP should be doxxed for something this relatively harmless is insane and horrifying. Genuinely, what the hell is wrong with you.

as any idiot knows, even joking about violence against children is wrong.

Nope. And this is totally unrelated to mandatory-reporter stuff.

Rich kids are the worst.

Oh they’re RICH kids? Well that’s ok then. /s

Get fucked, loser.

Did you think this comment was helpful in any way? Or was your urge to be superior so overpowering that you're incapable of reading past "they're rich kids"?

When I was studying to be a teacher, a professor straight up told us that we will have days that are so hard that they’ll make us cry and he wasn’t wrong. I like my job, but damn, there are days that just make me wanna get in my car and never come back, so I feel for you, OP. Hopefully things are better now and I’m glad you have a healthy outlet.

I’m not even gonna lie, I have caught myself thinking that some kids haven’t been smacked enough because of how they behave, but I know it’s a terrible thing to think and I would be horrified if I found out that someone had harmed a student of mine.

OP, this thread just makes me realise how much overworked, frustrated teachers just aren't really respected.

I get it. I work as a psych nurse with teenagers. Sometimes they can be violent, sometimes they can be jerks. A lot of time, the only way to deal is with black humour. (the difference being is that at least we have the capacity to deal with a violent youth, unlike a teacher. I have heard of the disrespect for teachers that can happen from students).

just because you're letting out your frustration doesn't mean you legit want to harm a child!I wish people would learn nuance

Nah, fuck OP. They have all kinds of ways of venting that don’t include announcing to a forum with known victims of child abuse that they want to harm children.

DA I don't think that they actually do? I think it's just frustrated hyperbole,

As someone who is a victim of child abuse, it did not occur to me that OP intends to beat children on the regular.

Granted, I don't know OP and might think differently if I saw them interacting with the kids. But so far, nothing suggests to me that OP plans to hurt someone or put their job in jeopardy.

as a victim of child abuse, I wish you a very healthy shut the fuck up thanks

As another victim of child abuse, your feelings are not universal. If you're this triggered, you probably needed to take a step back ten steps ago. This is NOT that deep.

Are you the one who thought that the childfree "movement" was to deliberately harm children anytime they saw one in public? Cause I'm seeing some overlap here.

My kindergarten teacher thought I was a brat who hadn’t been disciplined enough. I had poor depth perception so I knocked things over sometimes, and I also didn’t understand questions that weren’t really questions. (“Would you like to pick your jacket up off the floor?” “No.”)

She didn’t need to hit me to make my life hell.

I’m willing to bet the kids under OP’s care feel the same way. That hatred radiates from people like that.

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That was awful of your kindergarten teacher. Even if she did get frustrated because she thought you were misbehaving on purpose, she should never have let those frustrations out on you.

As far as OP goes, there's nothing suggesting that they're acting like your kindergarten teacher though. If anything, it sounds like they did one if the things your kindergarten teacher failed to you: find a coping mechanism that lets them let go of the frustration WITHOUT involving the children in any way.

I work with very wealthy spoiled children and yeah, it can be a unique kind of frustrating. But as I would tell the kids in my care, word choice matters. You chose to express your frustration by saying you want to hit kids and that is not okay.

I don't think you're an asshole. Everybody's job sucks sometimes. I'm sure you wouldn't actually hit anybody.

I sometimes read the stories on the r/teachers subreddit (despite not being a teacher, someone linked it once) and am not only glad I'm not a teacher but glad I don't have kids.

Don't worry, OP, I understood your meaning perfectly. I feel like people either lose the ability to parse nuance the second children are mentioned, or the urge to appear morally better is just too strong. But everyone's on anon here, so I have no idea what for.

Hyperbole aside, I've had countless thoughts like "oh my god I want to hit her" or "just die already, you piece of shit" when I was furious at people. I hit or murdered exactly none of them, because they were just thoughts I've had when I was furious, tired and/or hungry. Thought crime isn't real. In fact, I'd be more wary of someone who insists a stranger online must be a dangerous psycho based on a single sentence than of someone who uses a slightly violent hyperbole. That's just me tho.

Also, I know people who have worked with children and they can learn CRAZY shit from their parents, including insults to lob at their caretakers and sexist statements that sound absolutely ridiculous in the mouth of a 5yo kid. I'd assume it's a bit difficult to stay angelically calm and devoid of stress when 20 kids are all making noise at the same time, you desperately need to piss but can't leave the room and little Timmy calls you a stupid whore for telling him to stop hitting his friend. But, again, that's just me.

But speaking of Animal Crossing, I've always wanted to try, but I've also never had the money to become a gamer :( But all I hear and see about this game sounds so fun and relaxing. Say hello to your villagers from me, OP ;w;

Damn, I should've finished reading this first. Well what I said above still stands so I'll post it again, but imagine it being phrased far less charitably (also, nice job with the pointing out that the kids you work with are rich, pulling the privilege card is an excellent distraction in lukewarmly left spaces like FS, and it sure worked):

What makes it different to me is that the number of people who have actually thrown their laptop out the window in a fit of rage is very low despite it being a pretty normal thing to say and imagine. The number of people who work with children and wind up getting violent with them isn't nearly as low. I wouldn't think someone who imagines hitting a child would definitely do it; there are probably many who don't, but admitting to thinking it when there are also many who do would make me not want to take the chance of putting them in charge of kids.

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