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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2025-01-17 07:31 pm

[ SECRET POST #6587 ]


⌈ Secret Post #6587 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Re: The bar is in hell...

(Anonymous) 2025-01-18 06:12 am (UTC)(link)
>It's possible this woman is making everything up, but...

Nope. This was my ex. When I used to visit him for two weeks at a time, he kept himself clean and presentable. When I moved in, however, the act lasted all of a month before his truly disgusting habits broke free. He expected me to fucking parent him.

Re: The bar is in hell...

(Anonymous) 2025-01-18 06:40 am (UTC)(link)
Oh, *I* believe it without a doubt. But when this topic has come up on FS, one or two anons expressed a lot of skepticism because all the men in their lives didn't do such things and/or they felt that there was a lot of fiction writing for karma on reddit.

But I think most women who have a reasonable amount of exposure to men on an intimate level have met, dated, or at least heard of truly awful stories about personal hygiene and general cleanliness issues. These stories are a dime a dozen. Sadly, examples where men put effort into being clean and presentable until they start dating/get married and then decide that their new girlfriend/wife can be their personal cook and housekeeper are also very common. Glad he's an ex!

Re: The bar is in hell...

(Anonymous) 2025-01-18 03:44 pm (UTC)(link)
People don't express skepticism that men like this exist.

They express skepticism when someone claims it's all men.

Especially so when the person who keeps attracting these types of men, over and over, doesn't seem to have any self reflection as to why they keep attracting these types of men. But god forbid we talk about that, because it might considered be victim blaming.

Re: The bar is in hell...

(Anonymous) 2025-01-18 07:06 pm (UTC)(link)
People don't express skepticism that men like this exist.

They express skepticism when someone claims it's all men.


Yeahhhhh... except that in the threads I've personally witnessed, NOBODY CLAIMED IT WAS ALL MEN. And yet, somehow, the "Not All Men!!!!!!" comments came up, along with an attempt at reversing the blame back onto the victim. Classic manosphere talking points, BTW - women get hate for being too picky and having unreasonable standards for dating men (usually the same men making this accusation, funnily enough) and women also get hate for making choices that don't work out (because the troglodytes who didn't get chosen are mad).

So... nah.

Re: The bar is in hell...

(Anonymous) 2025-01-18 07:18 pm (UTC)(link)
https://www.zawn.net/blog/hello-youve-reached-the-not-all-men-hotline