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[ SECRET POST #101 ]

⌈ Secret Post #101 ⌋

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Finished making it earlier than I thought, so uh... here! >>"

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It's really more of the "I can't stand your fics at all and you annoy the hell out of me" secrets than the one in the background. I only picked that one because it was the most recent at the time and one of my online friendships ended on a similar note that a year ago, so it brought up some bad memories (and before you say "well there you go" it's more complicated than that, but I don't really want to go into detail about it). There's been someone who's confided in me before that she can't stand somebody else, but when they interacted it still looked like they were the best of friends and the other girl didn't have a clue. She didn't even do anything to deserve it; her personality just grated on my other friend's nerves. So it does happen for no reason sometimes. Maybe I'm just paranoid but whatever.

If you really hate someone that much why don't you just say it to them instead of making nasty secrets? It just seems to me like a really cowardly thing to do. You want to say something to me, you say it to my goddamn face. I really don't like backstabbers. Also hating someone just because they don't write well has to be one of the stupidest reasons to hate someone ever.

I'm done ranting now. I'm really sorry this was so long and I hope I didn't offend you or anything in the process. D= I guess it's just a touchy subject.

No offense taken, your ranting is completely justified. I was basing my opinion on what I saw in the picture, which was not your original intention, seems like. ♥

She didn't even do anything to deserve it; her personality just grated on my other friend's nerves. So it does happen for no reason sometimes.

Well ... that's still a reason, as superficial as it might be. It doesn't justify her going behind her back about hating her, but if someone's personality grates on yours you tend to not like them. =/

You want to say something to me, you say it to my goddamn face.

I totally agree. I honestly can't stand it when people go behind my back about anything, really. =(

Well ... that's still a reason, as superficial as it might be. It doesn't justify her going behind her back about hating her, but if someone's personality grates on yours you tend to not like them. =/

Why become friends in the first place, then? Or why wouldn't you break it off once it became apparent you two couldn't get along (which to my knowledge you can typically notice early on)? Nobody's forcing you to interact.

I don't know. It just sounds so silly to me.

Well, sometimes you don't realize until you become better friends with them how irritating they are. I've had experience with people like that before. Also, although that may not have been the case for you, there may be times when you works with this person, play in the same RP as this person, etc. and that really DOES force you to work with them.

It does sound silly, but that's the way life is. =/

Point taken.

I was the person who posted the original secret that you used for the background.

I explained my motives a little in another thread but...yeah, it is a cowardly thing to do. And guess what? I'm a coward.

I have to hide behind secrets and anonymity, because I'm terrified of that person ACTUALLY FINDING OUT. It's not really the affect it would have on our already-stagnant "friendship" that scares me...it's the possible repercussions with other friends in fandom that I met through this person. They're something of a "BNF," and I ended up meeting a TON of people that I now consider close friends through them. If we were to have a massive falling-out, I'm scared that my friends would end up siding with them, and that I'd find myself cut off from everyone else.

I'm sorry, that turned into an extremely insecure rant.

Still #1's poster.

It's okay. At the risk of sounding melodramatic or whiny (wait, why do I care? I'm an anonymous) this is still sounding disturbingly familiar to what happened to me a year ago with a bit of role-reversal thrown in. I can relate big time. D= I feel sort of bad now for using yours as a backdrop.

Do you know if she still considers you a friend? If she has the same feelings then you'd probably be able to break it off without harming other friendships in the process. If she's going to make a big deal out of it, just make sure you keep in contact with those other friends and let them know your side of the story too. Don't respond to her if she tries to start anything; retaliating is going to give you negative points.

You really should tell her, in any case. It's not good for either of you if you leave her hanging on. If a friendship's gone stale and mouldy and more of a burden than a blessing, it's better to let it go, even if it hurts a bit afterwards.

Best of luck to you. ♥

I really, really ought to talk to her. I'm sure she probably doesn't consider me a friend anymore, but for the sake of an RP we're both in, I'm trying to at least keep up appearances. I don't want to bring in drama, especially because I'm one of the mods. I just...choose not to interact with her character that often, and it works out great.

I OUGHT to talk to her, but I know that I'm not going to. I'm too chicken to.

Usually when these kinds of friendships stagnate, they just die on their own. I hope that's what happens to this one, so I don't have to confront anyone. I'm a pretty timid person; I was once stuck in a relationship with a boy I couldn't even stand for THREE MONTHS because I was scared to say no.

Anonymity is fun, because you can unload ALL KINDS of emotional junk! I ought to post secrets more often.

♥ Thank you. And don't feel bad.

There's been someone who's confided in me before that she can't stand somebody else, but when they interacted it still looked like they were the best of friends and the other girl didn't have a clue.

Haha, I'm doing something similar to this right now. I can't stand my boyfriend's roommate, but I never act like it when others are around. It'd make things awkward whenever I was in their room. Besides, we have a lot of mutual friends, and drama would be bad. He's not always horrible, so I just try to avoid subjects I know I don't want to hear his opinions on. I'll play nice, but we'll never really be friends.

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