[ SECRET POST #1572 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1572 ⌋


Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Secrets Left to Post: 12 pages, 276 secrets from Secret Submission Post #225.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 1 2 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeats ].
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Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

24. http://i55.tinypic.com/s1n9sn.png

[unicornherds.livejournal.com]

Conversations about gender identity making you think more about your gender identity is not strange.

[eibborn.livejournal.com]

What's the point of conversation if it doesn't make you question your life in some way? Seems like kind of a waste of time.

[(Anonymous)]

Ummm....to share ideas? To question society/authority/story tellling?

Not every conversation has to be personally life-changing to be worthwhile.

[leafing.livejournal.com]

Shits n' giggles?

[(Anonymous)]

Looks like somebody just bought a ticket for the bandwagon.

[(Anonymous)]

can we not

[(Anonymous)]

I can't help but agree. I don't even care how bad that sounds.

[(Anonymous)]

I really don't want to stir up any shit, but I agree.

Mostly because I thought that if you're trans, you'd know it? Gender dysphoria is pretty dang noticeable from a very young age. It's the feeling that your body's wrong for you, and that's pretty much divorced from talk about gender identity, so you'd know it without fandom being there for you.

OP may not be quite cis - I think it's quite common to question whether or not you're cis through fandom discussions - but FTM? I don't think so.

But maybe I'm just misinformed. In which case, someone please correct me? =/

[(Anonymous)]

Well, fandom shouldn't be, like, your deciding factor all by itself, but almost anything can 'trigger' those thoughts in a valid way. I made a secret about this a long time ago: it was the scene in The Diary of Anne Frank where she talks about wanting to kiss her female friend that started me down the road of realizing that I'm bisexual. Uh...awkward. Because THAT'S the message of that book.

[meadowphoenix]

Conversations like that have generally just confused me about gender identity in general.

[phaethon.livejournal.com]

Don't worry so much about it; virtually anything can challenge your perception of yourself when it comes down to it. Wake-up calls often come from the strangest of places and when you least expect them.

[(Anonymous)]

me too, bb. from a feminist I turned into a total misogynist:S

[(Anonymous)]

Don't feed it, please.

[(Anonymous)]

I hear you, OP. I always thought I was supposed to be a boy, even back when I was a small child, but having met FTM people in fandom, I've become even more empty and uncomfortable and feel more and more like I legitimately want to be male. Or at least not female.

Not hating on girls, I just feel like my body's so messed up and wrong.

Knowing now that it's something people really experience, and not just me being a weird tomboy, sort of made it all even clearer. But also reading how much society freaks out over it, I would never do anything about it.

[(Anonymous)]

You're doing it wrong.

I don't care how many people here tell you otherwise, you are NOT FUCKING TRANSGENDER, you're just a weak-willed and confused person who is easily influenced. Also possibly longing for something to make you ~special.

[leafing.livejournal.com]

This secret kinda makes me think of those people who are like "hm my left arm hurts" and then they google it and are like "OH FUCK I'M HAVING A HEART ATTACK!"

Not to say you're totally full of shit or anything, but you might want to let it sink in for a while before deciding either way.

[easilyentranced.livejournal.com]

I mean, obviously wait before making any kind of huge decisions, but I don't really see anything wrong with discovering something about yourself from fandom. Fandom pretty much helped me come to terms with the fact that I'm bisexual and discussions about gender identity helped me become more secure with my identity, so yeah, you learn stuff everywhere, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

time warp

[amusesme.livejournal.com]

Keep digging. It takes a very long time to really know ourselves. And questioning is healthy and I encourage it!

[omorka.livejournal.com]

Um, try and have fun exploring your identity? Just remember, having some gender dysphoria doesn't always mean you're completely trans, either - gender identity is a spectrum, too, and there's plenty of genderqueer space between fully-cis and fully-trans.

[(Anonymous)]

Let me guess: you realized your wardrobe lacks pink and you like action films. You must be a man!

[oflittlebrain.livejournal.com]

if that is who you are then it really doesn't matter what made you realize it.

[(Anonymous)]

Well if you were comfortable before...

[sony-boy.livejournal.com]

Take the time to research sites that deal with gender identiy and thinks things through. Did you feel something like this (vague or strongly) before fandom had you thinking about it? Have you talked to others (internet and RL)? What applies to you and what doesn't? Are you happy or not? Does this change anything for you?

Relax. So maybe you're just realising or are starting to really consider issues and things about yourself. It's confusing and the stress you get when you're uncertain is horrible, I know.

Personaly I am bisexual due to not caring on the gender of who I'm dating/crushing on. Thanks to fandom, I've also been able to recently name an issue that caused me a lot of head/heartache and major stress while I researched and really looked into my how this was a part of my RL. I'm asexual. And before coming across this in fandom I didn't know what to call it. All I knew was that I wanted a relationship with someone but the thought of having sex with anyone literaly has had me praying to the porcelain god a few times, and I didn't know why.

So fandom can be enlightening but just take time to work things through. Work your way throught the stress, slowly if need be. Don't rush. This is your life, find what works for you.