[ SECRET POST #1726 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1726 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I know, right? Isn't it awful when people think you're a lesbian? That's the worst thing to be.

[sairei.livejournal.com]

You're reading it wrong. OP is saying that it's annoying when people assume you to be something just by the way you look. Being straight but called a lesbian due to a hair cut is the example here. Being lesbian isn't in any way being put in a bad light.

[(Anonymous)]

Except it is, because if it wasn't this thread wouldn't be full of straight girls ~woeing about being read as gay.

[(Anonymous)]

oh for fuck's sake

it sucks to be mislabeled

whether you're mislabeled as straight, gay, female, male, whatEVER

kindly take your concern trolling and fuck right off

[(Anonymous)]

It only "sucks" to be mislabeled as gay if you're straight and you don't want the negatives that come along with actually being gay. That's an element of privilege.

also that what "concern trolling" means but whatthefuckever

[(Anonymous)]

*that's not what

[(Anonymous)]

By that logic, no gay person is ever bothered when they're called straight. They're getting the privileges, right? Why should they care otherwise?

[(Anonymous)]

As a matter of fact, a lot of queer people actually do allow others to perceive them as straight if it means protecting themselves. Passing privilege, it's a thing. But you're a fucking idiot if you think that's the only factor at play.

[goobbledigook.livejournal.com]

They're getting the priviledge of not being gay-bashed. People assume one is straight all the time by default, but assuming one is a lesbian because of their haircut is an accusation.

Since calling someone a lesbian comes with the bad baggage of being a non-straight I really doubt that people get upset over it simply because it sucks to be mislabelled. Not their fault, really, but let's not close our eyes to the obvious.

[fenrischained.livejournal.com]

...I get irritated about being read as gay and I'm dating a girl.

Less irritated than I would if I didn't like girls, but mislabelling, as has been said, is annoying. If I was straight, I would get irritated by girls hitting on me, after some time. If I was gay, I would likewise get irritated by men hitting on me. It's nobody's fault, but people making assumptions about you is annoying, especially when they're wrong, and especially when they're based on appearances.

[fm-gatekeeper.livejournal.com]

...I get irritated about being read as gay and I'm dating a girl.

This. This right here. Mislabeling is irritating, period--I'm bisexual and I'm prone to raging when people assume otherwise. For me, it's not about what they're assuming, it's about the fact that they've decided to make an assumption about my sexuality in the first place.

[sensualcoco.livejournal.com]

Oh, man. This so much.

[castorochiaro.livejournal.com]

I think it's more that they know what they are and when people read something so deeply personal incorrectly, it's hurtful. It's rather like someone insisting they know you better than you do.

I can definitely see where you're coming from, as this is a very easily misread topic, but I think it really would be insulting to anyone having their sexuality denied because of really trivial things.

[(Anonymous)]

Totally agree. I had a boss who frequently asked me if I was a lesbian, largely because I don't wear makeup, and because I talk about feminist issues. This continued for months despite my repeated assurances that I'm straight, and not wearing makeup has little to do with whether I like guys or girls. His last comment to me on the subject (I can't remember what prompted it): "Are you sure you're not gay? Because it's okay if you are - they're fun at parties!" To which I replied, "What? Yes, for fucks sake, I know who and what I am!"

[veronica-rich.livejournal.com]

Because that doesn't matter at all if you're in a setting where there are guys you might like and wish NOT to think you wouldn't be interested in any of them. And a decent straight man is totally going to be the kind to make a move on someone he thinks is a lesbian, thinking he can "convert" them or help them discover they're really not.

Damn, I love how every other secret tonight is bringing out the shame against women who like dick.

[yukinoomoni.livejournal.com]

Fuck you. I'm bisexual. I'm just tired of being called "sir" because of my short hair.

[(Anonymous)]

Because no gay person mistaken for straight has ever screamed Homophobia and Heteronormative society!

[(Anonymous)]

screamed

very un-weaselly. I like it.

[oflittlebrain.livejournal.com]

i once had some work "friends" who insinuated that i was a lesbian in a very mean-spirited way... and tried to trick me into admitting that i was a lesbian... and this was apparently all because i'd never had a boyfriend and didn't dress "fashionably" enough for them :/

i really wouldn't mind being mistaken for gay if it was an innocent assumption (i go to my school's gay pride alliance with my roommate and i think a lot of people assume that we're dating lol) but if someone is clearly trying to insult you then, um, it sucks to be insulted/bullied, especially for phobic reasons?