[ SECRET POST #1962 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1962 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


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02.
[Ferris Bueller's Day Off]


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03.
[Community]


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04.
[Big Time Rush]


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05.
[Avengers]


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06.
[The Decemberists]


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07.
[Tim Minchin]


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08.
[The Lizzie Bennet Diaries]


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09.
[Community]


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10.
[The Hunger Games]


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11.
[Nell: The Day Before]


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12.
[Devil Survivor]


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13.
[Homeland]


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14.
[Pippin]


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15.
[Portal 2 & Left 4 Dead]


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16.
[The Avengers, 30 Rock, Psych]


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17.
[FFX]


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18.
[Mad Men]


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19.
[Legend of Korra]


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20.
[Faust: Love of the Damned]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 020 secrets from Secret Submission Post #280.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

01. http://i47.tinypic.com/52bbyp.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

I feel really sad that I don't know who the BNFs (I'm assuming there are some) are in my main fandoms.

[insanenoodlyguy.livejournal.com]

You should feel great! A whole subset of drama you've avoided entirely!

[anonlulz.livejournal.com]

What's the point in being a sheep of the BNF Belief?

[(Anonymous)]

If you don't know who they are, then they aren't BNFs.

[izelmecatl.livejournal.com]

You know, I have this same issue with some of my favorite people in fandom, sometimes I wish I could be physically there to give support and hug them--since it's one thing to write them a message and another one seeing someone actually there for you. I sometimes think I put far too much importance into these things and problems I have no way of solving for other people, but I hear that it helps to know someone cares for them.

[mekkio.livejournal.com]

Is it euclase? If not, who then?

[(Anonymous)]

euclase hasn't taken down anything afaik

[(Anonymous)]

OP Here - it's not euclase

It's a fan artist, not a fic writer. There used to be requests on our kink meme with the pairing of kinkmeme/BNF, that's how crazy popular she was. The fact that no one ID'ed her right away actually makes me feel better (like I'm just reading too much into it).

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh Euclase is such a tool, I cannot stand her. She's pretentious as fuck. Talented, I guess, but good lord if her personality doesn't ruin her art for me.

[(Anonymous)]

I had this happen in my fandom, too. Her stories just went off the deep end - hurting the characters, sexually degrading the one who normally tops, etc - until she finally went into a full-blown meltdown on her LJ. It was hard for everyone, and more so because we couldn't *be* there for her IRL. My sympathies, OP...

[(Anonymous)]

hurting the characters, sexually degrading the one who normally tops

wow, what a whacko!

lol, what.

[(Anonymous)]

I wonder what will happen first, Aja running through the streets naked, shouting about Duane Dwayne and genderqueers, or Judith Rumelt/Cassandra Clare's feeder husband Joshua stuffing her to the point where her arteries explode.

[(Anonymous)]

He is a feeder? That would explain a lot.

[fierceawakening.livejournal.com]

Do you know any of her friends better than you know her? You might try reaching out to some people who know her to find out how she's doing and if she's getting any help.

Personally, if a stranger commented on a sad post of mine with something like "Hey, I don't know you, but I have always loved your fic, and I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now" I'd be touched. I don't know how much that might do, especially if the problem is less "life sucking rn" and more "serious mental illness," or what this person's personality is like, but it might be a way to show a drop of kindness (and maybe inspire others to be less sycophantic and more "you okay?")

[(Anonymous)]

Would the same be said if the person was not a BNF and just a regular fan?
Not OP in particular, but in any situation like this. I'm curious.

[rosehiptea.livejournal.com]

I have no wise words for you, but sometimes the tenuousness of online friendships and relationships scares me. Even though "real-life" relationships can be like that, and "it's only online, go make some real friends!" (yeah, right...) it still bothers me.

I hope things work out OK with your friend.

[mutantjules.livejournal.com]

:( that's sad

(csb: when I was suicidal a few years ago, I DID think about this sometimes, that if I did it on a whim or got hit by a car or something like I was secretly reeeally hoping would happen, none of my lj-friends would know what happened.)

[castorochiaro.livejournal.com]

It's always hard to see someone suffering and wishing you could say something meaningful. I think it gets worse when it's a BNF because it feels like because so many people know them, someone SHOULD be making them feel better. Someone should be close enough to them to help.

I think doing what little you can is the best you can do. Just getting a small affirmation that you're valuable is nice in dark times. You're a very kind person for doing so, and I hope whoever this secret is referring to pulls through alright.

[drunken-clowns.livejournal.com]

I'm guessing you don't know for sure what is wrong with this person. Maybe they've developed new interests or they have to get a job and they're worried about a prospective boss finding the porn. I understand if she's been posting some concerning shit, but "losing her mind" is a little bit of a stretch to make unless she sounds completely out of touch with reality.

I used to be on this forum and there was a really nice, friendly, talented lady who wanted to help everyone out with their projects and always had some really cool new idea. She wasn't a BNF because it wasn't fandom, but if it was, she would have been. I started noticing that she was saying some really strange things, "completely out of touch with reality" things, and it got worse and worse until one day she just disappeared. I really liked her, and I wish I'd even asked if she was okay.

If you think she might need it, just ask if she's okay and tell her you care about her (anonymously, if you can.) If she is, she won't need it, but if she's not, it might mean a lot. I don't know, my advice sucks.

[(Anonymous)]

You sound like a really warm, caring person and it makes me happy to know you exist in fandom.

If you aren't close friends with this person, I'd say she isn't your responsibility, although it's kind to let her know you hear her and send her your care and support.

[(Anonymous)]

Sad :-( A popular writer in my fandom stopped posting completely a year or so ago and had been struggling with anorexia for a long time before that. I didn't know her well enough to be in rl contact with her and it feels ghoulish to ask someone from her *inner circle* of friends what happened. maybe she just got bored but I always worry that maybe she got really sick or died or something... It feels so gossipy to ask though. Especially online when people should be guaranteed some privacy. but I think about her often. I really hope she's ok.

[klingelball.livejournal.com]

We can only hope that her RL friends care as much as her online friends do. :(

[(Anonymous)]

OP here - I just wanted to thank everyone for their kind responses to my secret. You've made me feel less ridiculous with your own stories of similar experiences, and with being so encouraging of reaching out. I do hope everything will be okay - I'll just keep sending notes now and then and hope it's a smidgen of good.

[(Anonymous)]

"losing her mind"
jesus christ what poor word choice, do you really feel compassion for this person