[ SECRET POST #1979 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1979 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

On one hand, I agree with you OP. I don't hate the ship, but by the same token, I dislike the people who try to bash Pema. I think she's awesome, particularly since she's got 3 kids who are constantly [or so it seems] bending around her and being rambunctious as anything and she still manages to be amazingly nice, and cheerful. That can't be easy, and I admire her for it.

On the other hand? I really don't like the advice she gave Korra. Yes, Tenzin did say that he and Lin's relationship was already ending before Pema, so she didn't exactly 'steal' him...But that doesn't change the fact that she's sending the message that it's okay to chase after a taken man if you like him enough. I want to think it's just that she was young, and didn't think what she was doing through enough before doing that...but the fact she's advising other people to do the same makes me hesitate. So, on that side, for me, it's not thinking she's a slut or what not, but the fact she's basically saying it's 'okay' not to respect other people's relationships that I don't like.

tl;dr: I agree with you, mostly, but I can see where the people saying what Pema did was wrong are coming from [provided it's not 'OMG, she's a slut!!1!' type reasoning]

[(Anonymous)]

This, I think Pema is a bit naive and a romantic idealist who, because things worked perfectly for her and Tenzin, believes the same advice will work just as well for everyone else. She probably hadn't considered the ways it could (and did) go wrong for Korra.

[elialshadowpine]

Yeah... I was pretty uncomfortable with the advice given too. Particularly since I just went through the experience of an ex who had previously asked my husband to leave me for her (my way-too-naive-for-his-own-good husband writing it off as her just being drunk despite all the freaking signals that she was serious) popped back up with this elaborate story of how she had been pregnant with his child when they broke up and miscarried and how he should come back to her because!!! (And, without going into huge amounts of detail that are not necessary, it is incredibly unlikely this is true between timing and how anal retentive the man is about using condoms... he kinda freaked out at me when I wanted to just rely on birth control pills.)

... yeeeeeeeeah.

So, the advice really struck me the wrong way, although in Pema's circumstances, it probably seemed more reasonable (since it sounded like from what Tenzin said, the relationship was troubled and nearly at an end anyway).

[tari-silmarwen.livejournal.com]

Yeah, this basically.

I hate that people bash and slut-shame Pema, because she's wonderful and sweet, but eeeeehhhh her wording and her advice were really problematic and gave me sketchy feelings.