[ SECRET POST #2003 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2003 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 040 secrets from Secret Submission Post #286.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

13. http://i.imgur.com/Gjmoz.png

[(Anonymous)]

I ship this secret with the CEO one from before

[(Anonymous)]

New OTP.

[(Anonymous)]

We should start something to get them together :D

[(Anonymous)]

That would be cute. Age gap be damned.

[insanenoodlyguy]

Fuck No. CEO deserves better then this nut.

Look, people who want these kindsa relationships don't have one in real life for a reason. They want a relationship which is at it's core unhealthy, and are unsatified if that relationship turns out, surprise, UNHEALTHY. It only works in fiction.

More often, the relationship they can have falls short of their ludricious ideals and so they end it. Bear in mind this guy wants an obsessive relationship even he admits is not good. He won't be happy with a down to earth cool guy like CEO, not happy at all. Then they both end up sad.

[diet_poison]

omg, best comment.

[(Anonymous)]

well i'm a woman and i feel the same way. i'm not ashamed of it, though. everyone i know is aware that i want to be a house wife and that my ultimate goal is to get married and raise kids. op, nobody has the right to tell you what you should want in life or what will make you happy.

[insanenoodlyguy]

Being a housekeeper isn't the problem here.

[(Anonymous)]

They do however have the right to warn you that you risk being unemployed, deskilled and dirt poor at some stage when Mr Wonderful decides you've become too boring for him and pisses off with his secretary.

And no, I'm not a bitter victim. I'm happily married (and earn my own living). I've just seen it way too often.

[thene]

LOVE how this comes after secret #12.

[(Anonymous)]

me too. i love it when things like this happen.

[teh_sandwich]

I definitely laughed a little that this secret followed #12.

[(Anonymous)]

I think some of the mocking and backlash against women who feel like you do, is because there are also so many people who think ALL women should and do feel that way (and still use it as a reason to say women are stupid and impractical), and people want to see that go away. I don't think that justifies the backlash at all, but I actually think some people might be more okay with you feeling that way, because the majority don't expect you to.

[(Anonymous)]

I suspect many, many more people (both men, and women, and even people who identify as both, or neither) feel this way too.

But there is this backlash against this way of thinking because it goes against what many people think feminism has worked for. (Never mind that ideally every person should be able to choose what they want and bashing people who want a domestic, romantic life goes against all that.)

Also, OP, you might want to get in touch with OP of http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/629432.html?thread=556991672#cmt556991672

Your life views might not coincide, but I'm sure talking things out will help you both on some level.

[elaminator]

Don't see what's so wrong with this myself. If you want an 'apple pie' life, that's fine, and you should be allowed to have it. If this makes you happy? Terrific! It's not for everyone, but because it might be for some should not be an issue.

[inkedfeathers]

You know, that's not bad in essence... being so completely in love is very appealing and who can begrudge you for wanting such a romantic life? But you have to remember to have a backup plan in case it all doesn't work out. Don't be completely dependent, that's all!

[insanenoodlyguy]

That'd spoil the magic though. This is the kinda love where they would never conceive of such at hing, where they'd die or kill before it could happen.

[(Anonymous)]

eh, to each his/her own. I'm a chick and I want nothing more from life than to bring home the bacon for a househusband.

[velvet_mace]

I forgive your TL;DR but not your lack of anti-aliasing. Click that little Aa button in photoshop next time.

My hubby loves Fruits Basket and other cute schmoopy anime shows. There's nothing wrong with being a dude with romantic tastes.

[(Anonymous)]

I say embrace your inner cliche romantic - be loud and unapologetic about it. 38 year het female here, happy in a long term r\ship - considered to be one of the least girly girls out there so you could have knocked me over with a feather when I read and was ensconced in both the Twilight series and the 50 Shades trilogy. I'm an English major for heaven's sake, I revel in sublime writing - I know this is absolutely tripe writing and yet - here I am. I have no hesitation in telling people I actually have read and enjoyed those books - when their jaw picks up off the ground I always go with " Yes I'm utterly baffled too - have no idea why but it is what it is." The people who are important to me find it absolutely staggering and then amusing - and are still important to me because they're not going to mind either way. Like Suess says Be who you are, because those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind. :)

[meadowphoenix]

Well, I guess I'm not sure what you want. If you want a certain role in the relationship and a deep, nay awe-inspiring, commitment from your partner, cool. I mean the type you can tell are in love by sight alone, and they're still that way when they're 80, and are disgustingly cute, and can have long conversations with no words and have the same sex drives forever and sex is always wonderful. I'm kinda a romantic that way too (except for the certain role part). I mean, I highly doubt that you (or anyone really) are going to get that because of biology, but cool. It's nice to have an ideal relationship so that you can judge the ones you do have on an external standard as long as you are reasonable about it. You might also find that other things outside of the ideal that make you just as happy even if you weren't aware of them, and you shouldn't let an ideal deny you happiness just because you have it.

If you want co-dependence, which is what those relationships actually are, then you have to be happy having no will that isn't your partner's. If you can be happy with that, you're all set, and unless people are being harmed and you teach your children that many types of relationships are possible so that they don't subconsciously model your own which might not make them happy, go at it. It's probably best if you still know how to live in the world without your partner, so that if they die suddenly you aren't completely incapable and spiral into a deep depression, and it's probably not a good idea to want to join them in the afterlife, if you have kids, because that's kinda a shitty thing for your kids, of any age, to go through.

However, if you can't subsume your will, then chances are this arrangement is going to make you hella unhappy. The problem with co-dependence is that occasionally the people in the relationship have conflict. Actual conflict in which no one is willing to change their position and they both expect the outcome to be respected (this doesn't really happen in the media you mentioned because of the will subsuming and the lack of respect for any decision on one partner's part is basically expected) Then they fight, and because they love each other so much, this rift feels like the end of the world, which only serves to heighten the tension. Or because they know the other person loves them, they feel that their partner's inability to capitulate is a sign of their lack of love, and the tension is heightened. It'll probably be harder to compromise because it'll feel their entire relationship is bound up their decision. You go through so many mental and emotional roller-coasters that you frankly could be called unstable with them. You simply won't be happy all the time.

It's not that people don't fall into stereotypes. It's that they can't do so all the time. Their original, one-of-a-kind personality will rear its head and butt against the other unique personality and all hell will break loose because suddenly you are looking at an entirely different person. Maybe if someone keeps getting put into danger and the other dashes in with help, you'll have so much reunion sex, you'll never get into the clashes. I personally think that's the point of danger in romance novels anyway.

So good luck, OP!

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like scum admitting that, but I'm mostly turned on by the money. Okay, my plans for a lot of money aren't very spectacular: buy a nice small house in a not too crowded area, with excellent security measures. And then I'll just live on like now, except that I can get everything I want on a whim. Interesting book? Pretty dress? Cool video game? Pizza delivery? No calculating, no "Maybe if I don't have dinner every second day", just "in my basket, now."

[natural_blue_26.livejournal.com]

Well, the ordering of 12 & 13 is rather hillarious, at least. ;)

Even though 12 looks troll-ish IMO.)

[castian]

Just chiming in to say I loved this secret. I hope your romantic dreams come true!