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Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[unicornherds]

I have a lot of anger from childhood. I try to let it go but it's still there. Mostly for the people who bullied me or were jerks.

A lot of people I've sort of forgiven and moved on, but this one teacher I will probably hate for the rest of my life. He was my 4th grade teacher and he made that year pretty miserable. 4th grade was the grade that I was still trying out different meds to deal with my seizures, so I still had sort of frequent seizures and varying side effects. It was also the year my parents were trying to impress upon me that if I had a question I should raise my hand and ask, and that it's always okay to ask for clarification.

It was this guys first year as a teacher and for some stupid reason someone along the line had told him that little girls often get crushes on their male teachers and will act out for their attention. This meant that all the time I was raising my hand and walking up to his desk and generally asking a lot of questions he thought I was just looking for attention, so he would kind of shut me down and be rude about. There were also times where I'd have a seizure (petite mal*, not the grand mal type people assume) where the side effect would be me not knowing what was going on, being confused, and one time drooling on my assignment.

Now, every single fucking year my mom had to go in and have a meeting with all of my teachers explaining about the seizures and what to expect. So he was fully informed. Yet every time I had a seizure in his class he was a total asshole. I was super shy and really embarrassed about the seizures, and every time he'd make a public spectacle about it. The one time I drooled on the paper I quietly walked up to his desk to ask for a new one and he very loudly grilled me on why I needed a new assignment in front of the entire class.

Uh...sorry, this got kind of long. But yeah, I still hold a grudge. He was a fucking asshole.

*names of seizures have changed since I had them, so they're not called that anymore but I don't feel like looking up the new terms.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[forgottenjester]

The fuck is wrong with that guy?

Damn, I wish your parents had complained about it to the principle and he'd gotten reamed for that.

You deserve a hug.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[unicornherds]

Yeah he was a jerk. Little me definitely deserved a hug for putting up with that shit.

My parents actually complained to the principal and the school board a couple of times regarding my education and treatment but the school kind of was full of assholes who didn't want to help. Example: I had a lot of trouble learning and socializing and when my mom asked for help the school just told her that it "was due to her medication" and they wouldn't offer any special help which...doesn't even make sense.

I have a lot of resentment for my stupid middle school. My mom actually had a little celebration when my youngest brother graduated 8th grade because she wouldn't have to deal with that school any longer.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[forgottenjester]

You deserve a hug now too.

...What? Is that... wow. That type of reaction wouldn't be allowed by the district that ran my school.

I can understand that reaction.

Though, you know, I almost wish you could contact that asshole teacher and write him a long letter about how much he sucked.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[ryttu3k]

Damn, that guy is an arse. Let's hope he got fired. Preferably out of a cannon.

(They're absence seizures, incidentally.)

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[unicornherds]

Absence! I knew that, I just totally forgot I knew that.

Unfortunately he's still teaching. I'm assuming he's learned a lot and has become a better human being teacher by now.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[ryttu3k]

Yeah, here's hoping! Who knows, time can actually change people.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[(Anonymous)]

Sounds like a perfectly valid grudge to me, not a petty one at all.

I hate to think what might have happened if you'd had a larger seizure. Doesn't seem like he would have made the effort to help you get proper care at all.

Guy shoulda been fired.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[unicornherds]

Well, sadly I think a large part of the problem is that he couldn't tell (or didn't believe me) when I had seizures, since it just looked like I'm not paying attention. I like to think that if I had larger seizures he would have been more concerned and attentive, but who knows.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[(Anonymous)]

*hugs* I'm sorry you were treated that way. That is downright unprofessional.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[lunabee34]

I am so sorry you were treated that way. I hate all the teachers that give the rest of us bad names.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[unicornherds]

Well, the next two years (5th & 6th grades were combined and we stayed with the same set of teachers two years) I had a really awesome teacher that worked with me on finding alternative learning methods and was really good at encouraging me. She also introduced me to all sorts of things like environmentalism. At the time I didn't really appreciate it because I was a pretty miserable depressed kid, but looking back she was pure awesome.

So it wasn't all bad teachers all the time.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[lunabee34]

Yay for the good teachers!

I think it's a testament to how important teachers are in children's lives that even when I ask a non-traditional 50 year old student to tell me about her most/least favorite teacher, she can tell me their names and what they did or failed to do. It breaks my heart every year to realize that some elementary school teacher destroyed the self-esteem of one of my current students with a thoughtless remark or made them feel stupid in a way that's stuck with them for years, and it makes me feel so proud every year when I realize that some elementary school teacher gave one of my students what she needed to keep going--help, validation, support, a love of reading.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[threeonetwo]

Hoooooly fuck. I really hope he's been fired since then. And that he never had another student with medical problems.

And then I scroll down and see he's still teaching there. Ugh. My grade school had a thing for keeping crappy teachers, too. There was(and still is) one 3rd grade teacher who was so horrible she got complaints from pretty much every parent every year. I had her, and a classmate's younger brother who had her the year after us was so scared he actually threw up every morning before school.

She was pretty damn dismissive of her students' problems, too, and I'm sure she would've pulled the same shit your teacher did. I'm hearing impaired, and at the time I used an FM device in school. the kid wears a receiver box with ear pieces, and the teacher is supposed to wear a clip-on box with a microphone so when they talk, the student can hear them like they're right there instead of across the room, etc. She refused to use it because she "didn't have time for that". Meanwhile it took all of two seconds to clip-on the microphone...

When she was changed to a 5th/6th grade math teacher, she started slamming kids into walls during class. Thank fucking god I was in 7th the first year of that.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[unicornherds]

Oh my god that's awful. Wtf? How much time does it take to clip on a little mic thing? Shit. I honestly don't know why some people become teachers.

And slamming kids into walls? That lady should have been fired and maybe put on meds or something. Holy shit.

Re: Petty Grudges You've Held Since Childhood

[(Anonymous)]

Hmm, well, you were old enough to HAVE ALDs like FM devices, etc. Try being the only deaf (not Deaf) kid mainstreamed in a public school who was actually smarter than the teachers (7th grade, the teacher let us watch TV all day. Not even "educational" TV. Just TV.) and having to constantly fight for a seat at the front of the class. Never mind getting them to turn around when they talked.

So, I devoured every page of every textbook that was handed out (helps that I was a speed reader, hah), and cruised through all the tests, despite "poor class performance" remarks (whereas I always got "Excellent" in that category, in the INCLUSIVE public school I attended from K-2) and the teachers hated me even more. Especially when I would zone out because I was bored out of my mind, the teacher would call on me, thinking I hadn't heard them (I hadn't), but I would still be able to answer correctly, because I'd read ahead in the book.

So, yeah, I was bullied by the teachers, and that attitude carried on down through the kids.

Funny thing is, though, I don't hold any grudges about it...even though I'd probably be justified in some respects...it's just not worth it. Life is too short, and the school system is only an insignificant part of the bigger picture. Of course I say this at thirty years' remove, so.

I do credit the experience for making me the bullheaded, won't-take-no or you-telling-me-I-can't-do-something-is-just-ASKING-for-me-to-open-a-can-of-kick-on-your-backside person that I am today. But maybe that's not a good thing....