[ SECRET POST #2050 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2050 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

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[silverau]

Awwww. That's really sweet but really sad.

[(Anonymous)]

This is heartbreaking.

[elaminator]

Oh OP...I don't know what to say. That's gut-wrenching. I'm sorry. D:

Maybe her reaction would be more positive than you think? But I can understand not wanting to chance it. :/

*hugs*

[biohazardgirl]

Oh, wow, that's sad. I'm so sorry. My good wishes for your future, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

*giant internet hugs*

Probably won't help but as someone on the other side of the problem all those stories about best friends falling in love make me very unhappy as well.

I wish you the best!

[diet_poison]

I haven't seen the reboots - mainly because I loved the originals (so sue me) and think it's way too early.

It's kind of refreshing to see this secret, because I *do* love Maguire's Spider-man.

[kallanda_lee]

Aw, Op, I'm sorry you're in this situation. Unrequited love is never pleasant, and especially not if it ruins friendship.

I'd say, try to focus on what you do have: which is a wonderful friendship.That's worth something, too.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh... while I'm sorry you're going through this kind of heartbreak, I have to take issue with the whole, "slash made me fall in love with my best friend" thing. That just seems incredibly unhealthy and unrealistic. That's no different than if I started baw'ing that an overdose of Harlequin romances made me fall in love with my male best friend. It just sounds to me like you need to remove your slash goggles for a bit and actually examine your real life feelings and relationships, separate from fandom, slash, and fictional characters.

Best of luck.

[(Anonymous)]

OP doesn't say slash made her fall in love with her best friend, she says it made her realize she was in love with her best friend.

[kaileighblue]

I dunno I kinda agree with anon. When I first found out about slash as a teen I got confused over how they treated love. Shipping character who were friends as obvious lovers? Well my and my BFF were friends that hard....Nope still straight. Obviously I'm not OP so I don't know how they feel but a lot of internet culture is damaging if you don't talk about it with people in real life. Maybe they have other friends they can talk to about it first.

[(Anonymous)]

Awww, OP, c'mere. *hugs*

I've been in unrequited love before... and it hurts. It just plain sucks.
But you know what? Eventually, it faded with time, and I'm still good friends with them.

It may seem like the world's greatest tragedy right now, and it might hurt like hell, but it's only temporary. And when you get out there in that world, you'll meet someone else, OP, who loves you right back.

My only advice to you: Don't wallow in it too much. I know it's tempting to listen to the sad love songs, and write them letters you'll never send, and read the sappy fanfics. But the more you ruminate on it, the more it will consume you.

Try to separate yourself from fandom a little- maybe stick to gen fic?

[inkdust]

Hang in there, OP. All things pass.

[(Anonymous)]

This...is so like my own situation it's eerie. I met my best friend in middle school too, and we lived together in college, when I realized how in love with her I was. And that's also around the time I started getting into fic, and my main OTP at the time was all about the friends-falling-in-love thing. So it sucks, OP, and I totally get that. What also sucks is when you stay friends with that person, which basically ensures that you can't get over it - because the things that made you fall in love with them are still true, and you just can't get any distance from it. That's the boat I'm in, anyway. I don't know if commiseration is helpful to you at all, but that's been my experience so - here's hoping for both of us!

Idk. In a way it's hard when you see your own situation mirrored in fic, but at the same time, it sort of...affirms what you feel? So it's hard to just stop. Anyway this is getting way too tl;dr, but I wanted you to know you're not alone OP :)

OP

[(Anonymous)]

Commiseration definitely helps, but I'm sorry you're going through it too. Honestly, this sucks.

And you put it perfectly; everything that made me fall in love is still there and I see it every day. I can't picture myself without her. It's especially hard because, since we're so close and go everywhere together and have that "old married couple" relationship, most people assume we're together. And when she just laughs it off, my stomach folds inside out, and I want to crawl into a hole because it feels like everyone knows what I feel and they're giving me that look because they know it'll never work out and they feel sorry.

Nothing a shot of whiskey won't fix, right? Here's one for you. ;)

[(Anonymous)]

I think you should tell your friend. You have two basic choices; tell or don't tell. If you don't tell, you keep the friendship, but will you regret not telling more than you would benefit from the friendship? If you tell and it drives her away, you regret both telling her and losing her. If you tell and she's ok with it but not mutual, then you are glad you told her and you get to keep the friendship.

In interpersonal things like this, we are usually better off regretting the things we do instead of the things we don't do.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in a similar situation and upon reading one of those mushy "best friends realize they love each other" fics yesterday, I suddenly found myself crying. So yeah, I can relate.

Sending cyberhugs your way, OP!