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I'm not judging OP, I'm just expressing my opinion that I think it's gross

I don't even assume OP is into that stuff IRL (though I hope they aren't...)

Oh please. If this was your kink we were talking about you'd be crying persecution.

yeah, that made me go "wait, what"

NO. Not at all, only if you assumed negative things ABOUT ME. There is a difference and I made that quite fucking clear, fuck off anon

I wouldn't.

People have their opinions and it's not going to change. I don't lose sleep over it. If someone thinks something I like is gross, I don't take it personally as long as they don't harass me about it, or they are not problematic, hurtful or hateful.

People hate on my kinks on a daily basis and even claim that having them is societally harmful, and I'm just like

, so no, your argument is invalid.

Now I'm just curious what your kinks are.

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wauwy - 2013-01-06 05:17 (UTC) - Expand

(Anonymous) - 2013-01-06 14:53 (UTC) - Expand

I was talking to childings and it had nothing to do with you?

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childings.livejournal.com - 2013-01-06 08:41 (UTC) - Expand

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wauwy - 2013-01-06 21:26 (UTC) - Expand

There are plenty of kinks, including incest, that I find unappealing or even squicky. I feel no need to go on about how "gross" they are when someone talks about wanting to see more of them.

Edited 2013-01-05 22:34 (UTC)

I'm not sure it's possible to publicly denounce something as 'gross' without being judgemental.

Better worded than what I tried to say below you.

lol, saying "gross" is ~public denouncing~ now?

And of course it's judgmental. It's judging the kink as gross for the person who doesn't like it. When they start going into how MESSED UP YOU HAVE TO BE TO LIKE THIS, etc etc, THEN you can start complaining.

All opinions are judgmental to a certain degree.

Simple judgment is not wrong. Problems arise when the person making a judgment fails to recognize that not everyone will view things in the same light.

I'm a little confused about the balance between thinking something is gross and not judging someone for liking it. Is it possible to think something is gross and honestly not think someone enjoying it is also gross?

I find all kinds of shit gross without judging people for liking it, WTF. Food, for example. I'm not going to go around smacking tapioca pudding out of people's hands or glazed donuts because and saying HOW DARE YOU because I think that stuff is gross.

Logic fail, people

There's a distinct difference with the implications behind calling a food gross and calling a sexual kink gross.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-01-07 05:32 (UTC) - Expand

smack glazed donuts out of other people's hands directly into mine please

I HATE GLAZED DONUTS TOO GRAAAARGH

Yeah, no, saying that you think it's gross is judgmental. Especially when you're specifically replying to a secret about wanting to see more of it with how you think it's gross.

It's not though? It's my own personal opinion, there's no judgment there and I never even said OP was a bad person for liking incest fic, now if they stated going on about how incest is not that bad IRL or something it would be different, but they never did

It's my own personal opinion

Then your personal opinion is judgmental.

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You're being judgemental of someone's opinion because you're reading wayyy to much into it.

Someone says the subject of parent/child is gross. That's their opinion of the subject. Now, did it say anything about the people who want this, want to write it, or read it, no.

I have a dear friend who enjoys some parent/child. Do I think she's gross for liking it? No. Do I think maybe a fic she loves is showing is gross? Well, yes, and we end up having a laugh over it.

This subject of peoples's opinons is taken way too seriously.

but how can you have friends who think and like different things than you think and like

or even hates things you like

how does that work

if they hate things you like, that means that they hate you, doesn't it

-- a thing some people really think

(Anonymous) - 2013-01-05 23:49 (UTC) - Expand

You are an intelligent person.

*shrug* It's the internets. There's always some whiny bastard out there who's completely forgotten about all that's decent and the very concept of social mores, who just has to scream "But I like it! You can't say it's bad or gross without implying that I'm gross, and you shouldn't say that!" Waah, wah, wah. Tell 'em to fuck themselves.