[ SECRET POST #2298 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2298 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Man, OP, it kind of sucks that so many people are saying "just follow your friends!" A few even seem to be implying that you're a bad friend if you don't follow them, which I don't get. If you don't like it, you don't like it. And that's fine. Just try not to be too bitter about it and not to blame Avengers fandom for having wooed away your friends. And maybe try to find new friends.

You can still stay friends with people, even if they no longer share a fandom with you. It's not always easy, especially if fandom was the only thing you had in common with them, but it's still possible. Best to you.

[(Anonymous)]

+10000000

Why should someone leave the fandom they like because other people do?

[truxillogical]

I don't think anyone ever said OP should leave their fandom. Fandom isn't a physical place. You don't have to leave one to enter another.

I wouldn't call OP a "bad friend." But if OP is upset because their friends are all excited about a new something and OP isn't even willing to try that something and then feels left out...well, that doesn't make them a bad friend, but not even being willing to spend a couple of hours trying something is kind of their fault. It's an easy enough fix, or it would've been. (I imagine at this point, OP's worked up a nice, healthy blame of Avengers, so trying it would just be bitter and constantly filled with hypercritical thoughts of "They left me for this." And that's no way to watch a movie. Even Casablanca would suck under those conditions.)

[(Anonymous)]

why should they leave at all? why is this a zero sum game?

they can't be in the fandom they're in now AND be in a new fandom?

is that not how fandom works these days?

[(Anonymous)]

It's not that they're a bad friend for not following. It's that they're a bad friend for refusing to try their new interest, resenting said new interest for existing, and then bitching on the internet about it while still doing nothing.

If her friends were that important and the only thing that was different was the fandom, OP could have made some sort of effort. It's a really obvious solution.

[(Anonymous)]

I have an irrational hatred for fandoms that have drawn people away from my favorite. So no, I'd never even think of looking at them. My blood pressure wouldn't take it.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh. If it's not for you, it's not for you. Your friends have the right to move on if they feel like, though.

I guess just a mutual parting of ways.

[(Anonymous)]

Haha what are you, 12?

[(Anonymous)]

Nope. Grannie Fan here.

[(Anonymous)]

How have you survived for so long if you're that stupid?

Christ. What the hell kind of person says to themselves, "I know this hatred is completely irrational, but I'm going to do nothing to change it. Instead, I'm going to continue to blame the thing that I've already acknowledged has nothing to do with my problems."

[(Anonymous)]

Okay? Let it go, then. If you have such shaky blood pressure in the first place, maybe you shouldn't actively hate on those fandoms either. It's better for you, I promise.

[(Anonymous)]

so would they still be a good friend if they refused to try a new interest but didn't resent it or bitch about it?

[(Anonymous)]

Yes. Friends can like different things.

+ 1

[(Anonymous)]

Totally agree. Not everyone likes the same things and the absolute worst thing you can do is try to pressure someone into "giving it a chance"; it's just tiring and obnoxious to the person being pressured.

Like I said above, OP, if these are internet fandom friends, best to let them go and make new friends in the fandoms you enjoy.

[(Anonymous)]

Fucking this.

[(Anonymous)]

I would get what you're saying if it were a series or some huge time investment, but it's a single movie. The OP's saying they don't even want to try to put a couple hours into seeing if they like what all their friends like. This isn't about principles or something, they just want everyone to cater to their interests and are begrudging them their own.

[truxillogical]

This.