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(I posted this last night, but at about 3 AM, so I didn't get much response, hence the repost.)

I think I've figured out what the cause of all this weird, unfocused anxiety I've been having for the past week or so is.

Dad got a job. Now I don't have to be anxious about dad's unemployment anymore, but I've gotten so used to being anxious over the past year and a half that it's now part of my baseline emotional state. I'm used to being anxious, but now have no real reason to feel anxious, so now I'm having little anxiety attacks over just about anything.

So... what's a good way of dealing with anxiety? I'm having a hard time sleeping while this is going on.

After a while, I simply goes "What may come will come and I'll deal with it or die."

Which...yeah, may or may not work. I have to slowly work on automatically not trusting others and being friendly.

It helps if you can find something that reliably soothes or calms you. For me, listening to some of my favorite music (usually loud, as if to drown out the anxious thoughts my head) or watching silly YouTube videos can help me a lot - it distracts me from my anxious thoughts. Things that are distracting and make you happy can help break the cycle of anxious thoughts, at least for a while. I used to have trouble sleeping too, so at night I often actually left some of the aforementioned silly YouTube videos playing so I could listen to them on my headphones as I went to sleep.

Also, when you're having an anxiety attack, sometimes it can help a little to take a few deep, slow breaths and tell yourself that everything is going to be okay. Don't be afraid to take a little break from whatever you're doing to calm yourself down.

Agreed, doing an activity you enjoy can really help. When I was having my worst anxiety a year or so ago, I would work on artwork on the computer while listening to my favorite music, or watch anime (Kids on the Slope was really good at calming me down)

Of course, removing yourself from stressful situations in the first place is important too

Have you looked into meditation? Being able to calm yourself down with breathing techniques and whatnot may help lessen some of the attacks.

I also tend to gravitate towards warm things (baths, hot cocoa, bundling up in blankets, etc...) when I'm stressed out, so that may also be an option if it's not too warm out for it where you are.

My partner (who has a lot of experience with managing anxiety) says he just counteracts the attacks with happy things, like funny videos or shows, or listening to music - stuff like that.

Good luck! And I hope they lessen at least a bit!

I hope you find a way to deal with your anxiety. :(

I take anxiety meds and sometimes that helps, but other than getting your mind off things by distracting yourself with something else...IDK what to suggest.

(It's wonderful your dad found a job, btw!)

I find Mindfulness techniques really useful for my anxiety, especially when I know the anxiety I'm experiencing isn't based on an immediate concern but rather is my mind being used to worrying about something, which sounds a bit like what you're experiencing. This seems like a good site to explain the basics of what Mindfulness is and how you can use it, but it's basically about being able to step back from your thoughts and realise they are something that happens because of how your brain currently works, not because they're are things you shold be worrying about. I find the process of realising that the fact that you over-worry isn't actually a cause of worry in itself immensely helpful personally.

Otherwise, I try to have a go to thought to derail my anxious thoughts, like thinking of something I'm looking forward to doing in the future, or something fandom related, which especially helps when I'm trying to go to sleep. You could expand this into a routine, like if you can't go to sleep because of anxiety you could get up, walk around a bit, make yourself a glass of warm milk or even have a warm shower or bath, whatever works for you, then try going back to sleep with a calming thought in mind.

Hope you feel better soon!

*there. lol.

Not exactly the pinnacle of anxiety management right now, but I get around it by structuring and organising things. For bedtime, I've set up a routine so my body knows we're going to sleep and starts relaxing for me.

My method is to have a shower, watch a tv show or read a book (no time to do it any other time anyway), get into pyjamas and go to bed. My bed is only for sleeping, I don't read or play computers on it. So my subconscious only associates it with sleep.

For the just about anythings, where you can do them over and over so you convince yourself there's nothing to worry about?

okay, this is what works for me, but i hope it might help too

when i feel anxiety, i get physically ill (stomach cramps, indigestion, nausea, etc.), so at one point i got tired of feeling ill, and every time a wave of anxiety came in i would just say to myself "no, fuck this, i don't want to make myself sick. fuck it" or something along those lines, and just, deny the anxious thoughts, and keep doing or thinking whatever i was doing or thinking before the wave

and just repeat every time it happens

so each wave comes farther and farther apart from the last until they stop

also, finding out what is causing the anxiety is the beginning of the cure, so good job

clonazepam.

I usually deal with my own unfocused anxiety by first writing out a list of all the things I know I have to be worried about, and also come up with ways to deal with them. To me, putting everything on a list makes everything seem more manageable, and makes me feel more in control.
After the list, I then like to watch something that makes me feel good, like a favorite tv show, in order to take my mind off things and relax.

*hugs hugs*

I know that feeling well. I have spent the last several years under the crushing anxiety of finishing my dissertation, and now that I'm done, I don't quite know what to do with that anxiety. I've spent so long worrying about it and just having it in the back of my mind all the time that I have to keep reminding myself that I don't need to feel that way anymore.

I wish I had some constructive advice for you, but all I can really offer is commiseration. One thing that has helped is celebrating the achievement, so maybe focusing on the happy feelings associated with your dad getting work will help.

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