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questionmark because i'm not sure it's right word?

anyway i'm really really afraid of doctors. i'm not even afraid of pain or needles or anything, it's just doctors in itself because i'm scared shitless that they will scold me for not treating my body right and for waiting too long to go see them. for some reason that really terrifies me.

here's the thing though i'm wearing contact lenses and i had glasses, but they broke and i don't want to get new ones because i know my vision has gotten worse since i last visited an eye specialist which was aaaaaages ago and my glasses broke about 2 years ago. i fear the reason it's gotten worse i because i was pretty sloppy with my contact lenses and started to wear them all the time after my glasses broke too :( i'm really fucking blind tho so not using anything really isn't an option for me to function.

i jsut how i deal what i do? does anyone know a trick to get me to a fucking eye specialist because i'm so worrieeeed....

well, they won't want to scold you because they will want you to buy new glasses/contact lenses so there's that?

Sign yourself up for an appointment, so you create an obligation to the office and yourself.

I don't think there's really any trick to this. If you can't function without them, put on your adult underpants and do it.

also, there's the chance you are hurting your eyes by not using lenses/glasses with the right graduation

do you want to keep hurting your eyes, possibly permanent?

no you don't so get going

Well, first of all, I don't think the doctor will scold you. I know for me, my eyesight just kept getting worse and worse every year until I was like, 22, for no reason. I think eye doctors know that most of the time, vision just gets worse through no fault of the patient. But I know that might not help, since anxiety like this is not typically rational.

You might just have to do it. Just make an appointment and go, even though it's scary. If you can manage it, maybe you can schedule it for a time when there won't be much else in your life stressing you out (so you'll maybe have more "mental energy" to deal with the anxiety of seeing the doctor). And maybe plan on a reward for yourself after you go, so you have something to look forward to and something to help you calm down. Maybe? That's sort of what I do when I have to do things that terrify me. Sorry, I don't know how much help I'm being...

At times, and I say this as someone with severe social anxiety who will prefer to let things quietly rot off before they go ask someone "Hey, is this normal?"... you just have to suck it up and do it.

Chances are good that the reason your vision has gotten worse is because your eyes changed, not anything you did. Chances are even better that the eye doctor is not going to ask you if you routinely jab yourself in the cornea with cotton swabs, or anything accusatory like that.

Can you go to Lenscrafters or Walmart's vision center? You're even less likely to be exposed to the disapproving doctor stare in a place like that.

Finally, even if you did do everything wrong, and screwed up your vision, and it's all your fault, the doctor will not blame you for it. All they want to do is get you a pair of eyeglasses or contact lenses that will help you see better. It may be altogether uncomfortable, but you can only benefit from this.

Good luck.

What works for me is mentally preparing for the worst, and telling myself that, at the first hit of judgement or scolding, I can walk out and find another doctor.

And I don't immediately consent to any testing or examination that doesn't relate to what I came in for.

Where I live, if you need your eyes checked, you just go to a store that sells glasses and has an in-house optometrist. These are numerous here - in shopping malls, on street corners, etc. You would not need to see a regular doctor and get a referral, you just go. The optometrist will not scold you, because your eyesight getting worse is not like getting cavities. It is just something that happens to a lot of people regardless of what they do.

Hell, even cavities are something that "just happens" a lot of the time!

Ask me about my shitty tooth enamel. D:

They won't scold you. Or at least, they're not likely to. I had a similar issue where I was wearing my contacts for a lot longer than I should have been because they were more up-to-date than my glasses and I didn't have the money to get new ones. The worst they did was warn me that doing what I did could've caused a serious infection. Otherwise, they understand not having the means to see an optometrist, and they're generally just glad that you're able to come in when you do.

Also, your vision's probably gotten worse just because that's generally what happens with poor eyesight. You probably didn't notice it much before because you were able to see an optometrist before it got too bad.

But seriously. The longer you wait, the more you risk having serious problems. You're still in the clear right now. They might be surprised that you weren't able to come in for so long, but if you just say that you weren't able to until now, they'll drop it. They do understand, and you're not the first person to have done something similar or worse, nor will you be the last.

Make an appointment on a day you're not doing much else, and plan to treat yourself to something nice afterward for having gone and gotten it done. That way, you have something to look forward to if the whole ordeal is unpleasant :D

Social anxiety refers to social situations in general- if it's just one specific type of situation that gives you panic attacks, you want a more specific term- in this case 'iatrophobia' or 'medical phobia'

Seconding what everyone else is saying about the optometrist being unlikely to scold you- addressing the current issues will probably be more of a priority than how you got to that point, which may indeed not be your fault after all.

If you don't mind me asking, is that your only worry in this, or do you have issues with doctors in general? I have a full-blown phobia of doctors in general and general practitioners in particular and I've had to develop some anxiety-reducing strategies, but I don't want to type up a bunch of tl;dr if they wouldn't be of use.

Different anon but I have a pretty severe doctor phobia and I wouldn't mind hearing the strategies if you have the time.

Sorry for not having a response for you yet anon, but it's late and I'm tired. I'll try to get something posted for you in the morning.

my eyesight is bad and it's gotten worse over the years. it's generally not something that you cause yourself, it's just a thing that happens to a lot of people no matter how well they take care of their eyes. i don't have contacts (my eyes are too sensitive) and i don't wear my glasses unless i'm in class. my eye doctor always told me that everyone should expect their eyes to get a bit worse over time.

I have the same issues anon, not having money doesn't help the issue either because it makes me avoid the doctor more.

The good news is I've found most eye doctors really don't behave like other doctors so they don't tend to scold about how long it's been or how you treat yourself. Eyesight changes regardless of how well you treat yourself, so all they'll be concerned about is getting you the right prescription.

Just find someone and make an appointment, I know how hard it is to force yourself but that's usually the only thing that gets me to do it.

Eye doctors are the best! I don't think of my eye doctor as being the same as other doctors because the office is really chill and he doesn't do anything with a stethoscope. An eye doctor won't scold you for anything because they're not worried about things like exercise and diet that you could be scolded for at a GP's office (even though in my opinion a good doctor shouldn't "scold" you at all). They just want you to be able to see! So don't worry - just make an appointment and you'll be much happier afterward.

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