[ SECRET POST #2343 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2343 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Hmm, am I the only one who's not bothered by reading/watching infidelity? Or maybe only the people bothered by it cared to comment? And no, I haven't any personal experience with cheating, on either end.

[(Anonymous)]

No, you're not. My parents divorced because my father cheated, but I'm not bothered by infidelity in fiction. I am bothered by it IRL though.

[elaminator]

I am bothered by it but depending on how it's dealt with it might not be enough to make me stop reading/watching/etc.

For instance, if it happens in a tv show (especially if it's one that I've been with for years) I'll be irked but keep watching. I try to keep away from fanfic that includes it though.

And there's no way you're the only one.

[rapunzelita]

I don't really mind. I tend to roll my eyes at the way they're usually dealt with and the fact that no fictional character ever seems to be able to communicate their desires and needs clearly. But I don't mind the fact that there is adultery in fiction. It exists in real life as well.

[(Anonymous)]

Not bothered at all. Haven't experienced it; always been in poly relationships despite some dramas. Feel sorry for people straightjacketed by monogamy-by-default, though it's wonderful when it's freely chosen & respected.

[corvigryph]

Ugh I HATE the attitude that people who prefer monogamy are just "straight-jacketed" or "unenlightened". It's a sexual orientation like any other. But thatnks for your stunning altruism.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not bothered by it on principle, but it can take on weird undertones in fiction (and especially fanfiction, when like A/B is canon, the author's shipping A/C, and B is the one being cheated on).

[(Anonymous)]

B is Pepper, isn't it.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Almost always.

My favorite, though, is when the canon A/B isn't tagged, so I'll think it's a nice A/C story post A/B-breakup, and the line about A cheating on B is tacked onto the end. IT REALLY PISSES ME OFF.

[nyxelestia]

Eh, I'm not bothered by it in fiction. (Then again, I'm not always bothered by it in real life, either, so most people here probably wouldn't take my word for it.)

[kallanda_lee]

No, I have no issue with it. And my first love cheated on me, so there's that. I just see it as part of a wide variety of human behaviors, and sometimes I even understand (though not necassarily condone) why people cheat. And fiction-wise, it makes for interesting complex human stories.

[(Anonymous)]

Same, right down to a first love cheating on me.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not bothered by it in fiction either. It was my real person life I'd be mad but tv? Fake characters? Then I should stop rooting for murders and other awful characters on other shows.

[lunabee34]

I think fictional infidelity can be interesting to read about/watch. RL infidelity is a problem for me. I have no RL experience with infidelity.

[blueonblue]

It really depends on the story. I'm working on a fic where A starts a relationship with B even though B isn't divorced yet, so I guess it doesn't always bother me.

Mad Men glamorizes and at the same time condemns all kinds of bad behavior.

[(Anonymous)]

Nope. Doesn't bother me at all. I am now in an open relationship (for 15+ years) so cheating isn't something that's really possible in our situation, because we can bang whomever we want. Note: it's freeing, and I recommend it if you like banging whomever you want.

Nobody in my family is divorced over cheating, though.

I just think infidelity is a thing that happens, and fairly frequently. Interesting source of emotional angst in fiction.

[(Anonymous)]

No, I don't have any problems watching it. I presume it's prevalent in shows because "drama!" and because there's a perception among writers that a relationship is boring unless it's either being built up or torn down.

[blunderbuss]

I don't mind cheating happening in itself - hell I watch things with death and violence and gore - but it depends entirely on how the narrative treats it.

If the story makes it clear that this character is actually betraying the trust of another and will deal with the consequences? Fine.

The story excuses the cheating because it was OMG TWU WUV or the other person 'drove' them to it or some other shit? Not fucking cool.

[(Anonymous)]

Nope, I'm not bothered at all. In fact, it's one of my narrative kinks.

I always stay out of threads about cheating because the holier-than-thou attitude of most of the commenters in them makes me rage, but I was glad to see this comment. I have no personal experience with cheating either, but I don't think cheaters even irl are the Worst People Ever and should never be forgiven. Often there are complicated reasons for why people cheat.

[(Anonymous)]

Nah, I ain't bovvered either. And I've been cheated on. I'll be watching Mad Men for instance and be more *eyeroll* than anything else (like I know for Don Draper it's basically pathological, a spiral he keeps perpetuating even though he tries to stop it he keeps letting himself get stuck in the same patterns of behaviour so every time he starts it up again I'm like WELL THAT FAILED)

There are other times and other characters who I'll be surprised and pissed at them when they cheat. But it's not in any way a thing I OMG CAN'T STAND to watch.