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⌈ Secret Post #2379 ⌋

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I recently realized my "friends" aren't friends at all. I've always been very lonely and introverted, so friends weren't really my thing. But this semester I made some friends, and I was super excited to have finally found a group of people I could regularly hang out with, you know? Wellllll, guess what. They never saw me as a friend. I became the butt of their jokes, they made fun of me behind my back, and after some time, they cared so little about me that they started making fun of me straight to my face. Of my hometown, my beliefs, my way of speaking - every aspect of me was nothing but a hilarious joke to them. They kept me around because it was funny... I feel so betrayed... But I think going back to being a loner is better than being around people like these.

That is, like, primary school level. wtf. :/

I've been very lucky in friendship the last year or two - I moved close to two old friends, who had a whole circle of their new friends around them, and magically found I got along with almost everyone and adored their company. Noncoincidentally we are all introverts and are totally chill about introvert social responses like 'can't hang out this weekend, I need to stay home and write/play videogames/be alone for no particular reason'.

Uh, let me steal your friends! That sounds so great!

I know, I thought college students would be, you know, more mature than that.

ugh, anon, I feel you.

there's nothing worse than realizing the people you were around, who you trust with your friendship, don't respect you.

ditch their loser asses.

there will be other friendships in your lifetime. true friendships, with people who respect you and care for you.

Those people are assholes and don't deserve you, much less anyone else. I hope you don't give up because of them either; you shouldn't give them the satisfaction of their words meaning that much to you. (Don't get me wrong, I know that's easier said than done; still, think about it and give it time.)

Not everyone is the same, anon. There's probably someone out there for you but you haven't found them yet.

Thanks so much :) I really need this kind of encouragement right now

That's awful! I hope that one day they realize what assholes they've been, and that in the meantime you find genuine friends who care about you and treat you right.

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Ugh, I feel you, anon. I could have wrote this. I recently overheard this type of talk about me from a group of people (two who were bitter "nice guys") and I lost a lot of trust for people. It also involved this one girl who was jealous that I was dating her ex and she used to participate with this same group. And it was just a mess. I kind of feel trapped on Facebook now, because a lot of these people who I thought were my friends secretly talked shit about me. :/

You are me 8 years ago, anon.
I've also been through a time in my life when I had to find out that most of my "friends" were backstabbing assholes.
I know it sounds cheesy, but I'm sure everybody will eventually find people to click with. If I can find true friends and suddenly be popular and well-liked, then everybody can. It often just depends on chance, you just need to meet the right people and be in the right place.

Sorry I can't offer more than this :/

That really sucks, I'm sorry to hear that. Not only do you deserve people who treat you better, the idea of college age people acting like that is ridiculous. If they talk like that about you and pretend to be friends with you, they probably don't trust each other much either.

Drop them anon, before they do some serious damage to you :C Without them dragging you down you'll hopefully find some real friends

Confront them about it. Don't drop them without doing this.

I'm going to go a little against the grain and say it's possible they don't know how hurtful they're being. Like my friends and I all constantly make fun of each other, but we have certain lines we aren't allowed to cross and we make that clear.

If they do want to just be assholes and don't want to be your friend, then confronting them about it will make it clear.

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