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what do you talk about? Like, in theory, I accept our kind can mix with the mundanes but in practice...?

yeah, I just can't imagine it, tbh

One time I got the chance and I couldn't do it. Like, if they're not AT LEAST into literature/books I can't.

Sounds like you and this anon are made for each other, OP.

http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/841379.html?thread=670355875

I don't know!

I don't know what you talk about if you date a nerd either though so who knows! What the fuck do people even talk about? How the fuck do people even live? How the fuck are we even alive? How the fuck does something even exist instead of nothing? There are many questions!

i don't really understand this comment but it made me laugh a lot so 4 for u glen coco

...You say that like they're a different species than us, or like both sides can't, you know, share other interests.

My first girlfriend was sort of disdainful of fandom and all we really had in common was leftist political opinions and overprotective parents. It didn't last long.

Anything? Our day, our job, our pets, our house, the bills, any movies they're looking forward to, books, current events, chocolate, how was your walk, how's your friend, what are you looking forward to this year etc etc

They don't have to be a nerd to enjoy media either :/

and neither are you entirely a nerd. You eat food, you hear about news, you interact with people

jfc no one is completely mundane. You'll overlap somewhere, but your attitude would probably stop any dating dead.

jfc no one is completely mundane

You, obviously, have never met my former brother-in-law.

Although, to be fair, there's a difference between being mundane and being outright opposed and dismissive of fandom.

You do realize that dismissing fandom is the norm for most people, right? And that both people being into fandom isn't needed for a conversation [again, for most people], or even needed for a romantic relationship, right?

holy shit, this. The OP seems to be implying that outside fandom, there's nothing worth talking about.

I find plenty of everyday stuff to talk about with non-nerds, and if they're really cool, they'll be receptive when you need to rant about fandom now and then. Plus, these days, fandom and the mainstream are overlapping something fierce. We don't both need to be lifelong nerds to enjoy the recent Marvel movies. I remember explaining Spider-Man canon to my mom back when we saw the Sam Raimi films, and it was actually pretty fun.

It's only anti-nerds that are hard to date. Like, the ones who actively refuse to go near anything that might cause them to catch nerdism. Only solution for that relationship is to leap away into traffic and fake your own death.

I might just not be nerdy enough, but I don't only talk about fandom, not even with my nerdiest friends.

We talk about: school, politics, our animals, what's happening in our lives, the outrageous price of strawberries, where we want to travel, shopping, random news stories, the weather, life, children, relationships, our family, the fucking pollen in the air, exams, computers, love, sleeping, sex, LGBT stuff, other friends, classmates, how many times we've managed to accidentally hurt ourselves this week (we are a clumsy group of people), lecturers, what we've read lately, television shows, films, actors, celebrities, comedians, reality tv, love lives, drinking, what's new in science, statistics, IQ, feminism and an hundred other things. I just assumed that was normal?

I get the distinct feeling that OP just doesn't have much practice interacting with people outside of fandom, where you don't have to make the effort to find common ground because the common ground is ready-made. Couple that with the disdain that many people have for small talk--because apparently they only open their mouths to utter something profound that will amaze the whole room?--and I can imagine the difficulty. What they don't realize is that small talk is the mechanism by which people find common ground, so if you disdain it, you deprive yourself of a pretty reliable means of connecting with people.

mundanes? Reeeeally?

If that's your attitude, enjoy your life in Mom's basement.

NAYRT

"Mundanes" is the "Muggles" of The Mortal Instrument series, it just means a person not aware of or engaged in the magical/mystical/superpowered goings-on of the series proper.

Yes, I'm aware of its use in The Mortal Instruments, but do you really think Cassie Clare invented it? Plus, I thought it was pretty clear that a lot of the Shadowhunters regarded the people they ostensibly protect with thinly veiled contempt.

I'm pretty sure its use by Society for Creative Anachronism members long pre-dates those books.

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