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F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

The guy I've been in love with for a year just hooked up with another girl.

We're great friends, and yesterday was so good - talked through some emotional troubles, decided on a bunch of projects we'd do together, walked home together, yadda yadda, we fucked before and that's where I thought it was leading.

And today he got assigned a school project with the new girl, they talked for five hours straight - mind you, this is normally a pretty introverted guy, social, but introverted - and then went to his apartment.

I don't know what role she will fill in his life from now on - fuckbuddy, sure, but they talked about some of the stuff I had talked with him before about, and she handled it better, if she becomes his moral support too, I don't know what is left for me.

Can't stop shaking, what am I supposed to do?

I know it sounds hysterical, but on top of that pretty much nothing in my life is going in the right direction right now, I'm on antidepressants as it is, I don't know if I can handle this too.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

Before anything else, does he know how you feel about him?

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

I haven't told him, no. I have crazy self-esteem issues, and truth to be told, I don't think I want to be in a relationship with him - he's very unstable and has a shitton of issues, I'm very unstable and has a shitton of issues, and within that year of being in love with him, it was five months of not seeing each other and me thinking we wouldn't see each other again, and three months spend on just getting into his bubble - we're on completely different social statuses, me being the weird troll-like girl on the bottom of the social ladder, and him being popular charismatic funny and dark one. So I had two months, and during those I thought it would be over anyway, so I choose to treasure what I got. We have spent two weeks together since we got back after the spring/summer, it's unreal.

He might still know though, he's a clever guy - thing is, I thought he felt the same way about me. And I was really good with this almost-relationship where we were constantly together, would probably fuck occasionally but not have the tie of a relationship.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

Move on. You sound like one of those guys who are complaining about being, "friendzoned."

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

Agreeeeeeeeeeeeed

Re: F!S help me

[diet_poison]

yeah...kinda this tbh...

Re: F!S help me

[kamino_neko]

Yupyup.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

fourthing this. find some productive use of your time (i.e. that isn't stewing about how he should be with you instead) and let it go.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

Not be a pussy, and make a move a year ago.

Still don't worry, you're going to get a stream of handholding because only teh menz can be 'nice guys'.

Re: F!S help me

[anonymouslyyours]

Maybe you should preview your comments before you hit enter. Then you can say all you want in one go instead of spamming a thread.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

Yeaahhh, where is the part were she said that she was "friendzoned", that she was entitled to sex and where did she say that the girl he's now with is probably a major asshole and hopes that said girl rapes him?
Nowhere.

Maybe 'teh menz' should just treat getting rejected normally and they'd get actual advise on relationships. Just a thought :3

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

It's okay. It's going to be okay. There are other guys out there. You can still be friends with him and still be close to him, whatever relationship he has with this girl. Relationships aren't exclusive that way. There's no reason to suppose that he'll stop being friends with you if he's been friends with you this long.

Just try to relax, and try to do what you can to improve your life from here, to take things now as they stand, to learn a lesson and to move on, and ... uh... well, I don't want to be harsh, but maybe try not to be in love with someone for a year without telling them how you feel. But it's going to be okay. This isn't necessarily the end of anything, life is going to go on, you can handle this.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, thanks. I feel like I should have explained the circumstances a bit better, made a long-ish reply about it above, but basically - of this one year, I only had two months in which I was in a position to ask him out, and during those months, I thought I wouldn't be able to see him again after it was over, since we were both moving to different countries, but we kept in touch and reunited. I fell for his about a year ago, spent 3 months trying to get close to him, hang out for two, didn't see each other for five, plus minus some weeks on each.
And we're both emotional wrecks.

But thank you, I needed to hear that.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

you just have to get over it I guess. you weren't in a relationship with him, it doesn't seem like you alerted him to your romantic feelings (this is what I gather from your comment anyway. You said you've had sex with him before, not sure if that was in a fuck buddies capacity or what and you said you assumed you would have sex with him again which is never a safe thing to bet on), and it's not like you can put him on layaway or something, so I guess you just have to move on and find someone else who wants to be with you.

I'm not sure why you think you would automatically be out of his life though. people can have various sources of moral support, they're called friends. if you're great friends now, then you'll probably continue to be so

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

I really wish I had explained the situation better now, ouch...

But you're right, and I really hope so. We're both very selective about friends though, and one social circle almost excludes other ones.

Thanks

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

The dude can have multiple friends in his life you know. maybe take a step back? you don't seem to be thinking very coherently and I'd be worried your possessiveness would break off your friendship him and not the fact he's gained a new friend. You don't need to be his "moral support" (???) to still be his friend.


TL;DR Woah gurl you need to back up a little, you sound creepily possessive

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, you're right, and I definitely agree that I'm being possessive. I hope it's going to be better tomorrow, but right now I'm just a jealous heartbroken mess.

Thank you though.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

You probably should have told him about your feelings. You can't just reserve someone for yourself, not do anything about it, and then cry about it when they find someone they want to be with. It makes you sound like a toddler in a sandbox who isn't playing with a certain toy but throws a fit when someone else wants to. I'm sorry if this is harsh, but it sounds like you need a bit of a wake up call.

In conclusion, you're still friends with him so stop freaking out. You may also want to try befriending new people because you make it sound kind of like your social life revolves around this guy and that doesn't seem to be doing you any favors

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

I really appreciate that people are calling me out on being dicking on this one. You're right, but mind you, I never been in love with a person this intensely before, and it was really sudden for me, so I'm feeling pretty crushed.

I have friends! And my best friend since 16 years is with me. We're in a new class that likes me better than the last one - but I can't really stop thinking about him, trust me, we didn't see each other for five months, and I just thought of him all the time, so of course I love my other friends, but in my dumb mind they just don't matter as much. You know? I'm trying, it's hard.

Sorry for getting so defensive, thanks for your input, I got a lot to think about.

so does anyone think this is that sjw troll again

[(Anonymous)]

"hurr hurr let me present FS with a thing men complain about but swap the genders and get sympathy to prove that you are all hypocrites and man haters"

it's not working go away

Re: so does anyone think this is that sjw troll again

[fingalsanteater]

Maybe. Though, I can't imagine they'd get much support on the man hating front for this post.

Re: so does anyone think this is that sjw troll again

[mekkio]

Look on the bright side, this just shows that FSers are pretty level headed when it comes to what goes for one gender, goes for the other one deal.

Re: so does anyone think this is that sjw troll again

[diet_poison]

eh, she's getting similar responses but they're not worded NEARLY the same way they would be.

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

He puts you in the friendzone? You put him in the rape zone!

Re: F!S help me

[(Anonymous)]

assuming "worst case scenario" happens, and he and this girl get into a serious relationship? remember it's okay to be sad and jealous and upset. feel those things, realize it's not the end of the world, and be nice to yourself. you don't have to be okay with things immediately, so just give yourself time.