[ SECRET POST #2532 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2532 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Bad Advice

[(Anonymous)]

It gets better.

I'm kidding, I can't think of anything.

Re: Bad Advice

[starphotographs]

That is actually pretty bad advice, if only because it operates on the assumption that anything in life will follow a linear trajectory.

In reality, it'll get better and then worse and then better again and then horrible and then okay and then maybe pretty good and so on and then eventually you get dead.

Re: Bad Advice

[(Anonymous)]

I actually do think "It gets better" is pretty shitty advice. Because generally speaking it doesn't, you just get better at dealing with it; or, sometimes it does get better, but that's only when people are able to remove themselves from shitty situations/people, and not everyone has the (financial, cultural, emotional) ability to do that. So. Yeah.

Re: Bad Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously. My coworker is a self-professed former bully, and I've since learned she's still a bully, just old enough to be sneakier about it. We're basically adult versions of who we were as kids.

Plus, given that the "it gets better" is typically in reference to gay kids... if they're living in a community where the entire school makes fun of them for being gay, I'm guessing adults have the same problem. :/ (Although sometimes kids do say and do ignorant things independent of their parents, or even what they really believe - I'd make jokes I knew weren't funny because I wanted to seem "cooler" and edgier than I really was.)

Re: Bad Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Another anon chiming in to say this is truly awful advice, and I headdesk every time I see it. Starphotographs is right, it's not a linear thing. I will say this, though, if you are an employable adult, and are not willing to MAKE your life better, when you are in a bad situation, then that's all on you. Sucks, but it's the truth. You can spend your time worrying, griping, drowning in self-pity over your bad situation...or you can do everything within your power (however small that thing might be) to actively better yourself, or to get yourself into a different situation than the one you're in, or to change the situation completely, if you can't happen to get out of it.

Perspective helps a lot. The older you get, the longer your view tends to get, and it's like, "Seriously, self? You went ballistic on somebody over THAT?" The long view is quite revealing. Especially after you've done a whole lot of living, good, bad, AND ugly.