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[ SECRET POST #2555 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2555 ⌋

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[Attack on Titan/Shingeki No Kyojin]

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[The Muppet Movie]

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[Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen]

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[Frozen]

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[Once Upon a Time]

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[Dissonance]

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[Zooey Deschanel]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]

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[Eona: The Last Dragoneye]

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I'm a horrible person. I'm grieving what I've lost and I'm the only one aware of this loss. I'm going to disappear now and start my life over. Goodbye.

Saul has a guy. Just don't miss the van or you're screwed.

....Breaking Bad?

Yep!

What happened? I know I'm just an anon from the internet and you don't have to listen to anything I have to say. But I might have gone through a similar experience and could offer some input on it.

Even if it's something you really think no one else has gone through, you can say it here. I won't judge ok. ):

DA

I echo what my fellow anon said above. Unless you've, IDK, committed a crime of heinous proportions, it's (probably) not the end of the world.

I dunno, even a crime of heinous proportions can sometimes be justified.

AYRT

...really? I meant, like, anon murdering somebody or something....

I assumed. There are often extenuating circumstances.

AYRT

I am going to have to respectfully disagree. Nothing justifies the taking of another person's life, in my opinion. I am a pacifist, though, so that is why I take that stance. Apologies!

Re: I did something horrible and I can't ever atone.

(Anonymous) - 2014-01-01 01:48 (UTC) - Expand

Re: I did something horrible and I can't ever atone.

(Anonymous) - 2014-01-01 03:25 (UTC) - Expand

Re: I did something horrible and I can't ever atone.

(Anonymous) - 2014-01-01 07:36 (UTC) - Expand

What if she murdered a delicious basket of cheddar bay biscuits?

All you have to do to atone is say you're sorry and don't do that thing again.

Not necessarily.

If people don't forgive you, that's on them, not on you.

...sounds like OP may not be able to apologize (they're the only one aware of the loss).

I understand wanting to start over, so do you what you feel you need to do. But I hope with time you stop being so hard on yourself. All people slip sometimes and do something they're not proud of. I'm sure you're not as horrible as you think.

I had an abortion. Nobody knew I was pregnant. I'm 16. I got drunk and had sex. I swore to save myself for marriage and threw it all away by drinking and acting like a whore.

I feel so dirty. I feel like I let everyone down. I broke the promise I made to myself. I can't have my virginity back. I can't have that baby back. The life I knew is over. There is a new me living my life and nobody else knows this except me.

Wow. First of all, thanks for telling us, that took bravery. Secondly, I echo what one of the other anons said, all you have to do to atone is say you're sorry, and (try to) not do that thing again...which it sounds like you're not going to, anyway. Did the clinic not offer you counseling or advice for what to do/where to go after, if you have problems? Can you contact the clinic where you went, and ask them to give you a referral?

I would not say your life is over. You are still you, even though it may not feel like it right now (being a teenager on top of all of this is not easy, either.) I would say your life has taken a direction that you didn't foresee, but it's not a road you have to stay on. (Especially the drinking part.)

Give it time. A lot of time. I promise you things will look vastly different than they do now, ten or twenty years out from adolescence. That's a part of growing up.

Having sex doesn't make you a 'whore'. Being a woman and having sex does not make you dirty. Virginity is not a badge that women must keep to be worth something-You didn't lose anything, and you aren't any lesser for it.

You did what you had to do, for your life, your choices. You're only sixteen, anyone who faults you for having an abortion can go take a long walk off of a short pier. I know this must have been extremely hard for you, but don't hate yourself for it. Don't. People make mistakes sometimes, and it doesn't have to mean the end of your life. Is there anyone you could talk to? If only for moral support?

Having sex doesn't make you a 'whore'. Being a woman and having sex does not make you dirty. Virginity is not a badge that women must keep to be worth something-You didn't lose anything, and you aren't any lesser for it.

This. Your life is worth far, far more than your virginity.

My only opinions on abortion are that it's a personal choice and it isn't for anyone to judge. OP, you recognize you aren't ready for a child, so you had the pregnancy terminated. There are far worse outcomes to this situation. Trust me. Far worse. I understand feeling bad or guilty about it, but like anon before me says, is there someone you can talk to? Someone who will listen and sympathize, someone who won't betray your trust?

If you would like to PM me to talk about this Anon, please do. *hugs*

I'm sorry you feel so bad anon, but you're not a horrible person. You're young and make mistakes, but you're not dirty or horrible. :( *hugs hugs* Grow and learn from it as much as you can.

The best thing you can do in this situation? Learn from it. Which it truly sounds like you have. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, and things that you would never even consider sober can start sounding downright reasonable when you're not in your right mind.

No, you can't have your virginity back. But someday you will find someone who loves you. No, you can't have that baby back, but maybe someday you'll have other children. Yes, you'll always remember the one you didn't have, but the pain will lessen with time. I don't know you or your life situation, but if you honestly felt that abortion rather than adoption or raising the child was the best option for you and your situation.. then you did the best you could, and that's all you can really do.

If you're religious, and your crisis is rooted in that, remember: God loves you. He knows we're human, and thus we make mistakes. We mess up all the time. Yet he constantly forgives. He forgives you, and hopefully in time you'll be able to forgive yourself.

Of course, this comes from someone who staunchly believed in saving herself for marriage.. then when I hit my late twenties with no prospects, I simply got tired of being virgo intacta, so I took my own physical virginity. So take that as you will. :)

Obviously I have no idea what you did, but I have been in a similar situation as far as doing something horrible and thinking I could never atone for it. Some others knew what I did and they have never forgiven me. I had to learn to forgive myself, which I'm still struggling with. But the most important thing has been for me to change my behavior and way of thinking. I cannot undo what I did. But I can be a better person. That doesn't erase what I did in any way, but it's the closest thing to atonement I can ever achieve.

I hope you can eventually forgive yourself, if only sometimes. And I hope you can find peace within yourself over time.

If we don't make the mistakes we do, we won't have the perspective for the wisdom when we're older. Just learn from it. It's okay to feel bad or regret your choices, but if you make better choices from that point on and are more careful? Well sure it won't undo what you did, but like other people have said, everyone makes mistakes and it's the ones that learn from them that count. You aren't a bad person. *hugs*

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