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[Attack on Titan/Shingeki No Kyojin]

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[The Muppet Movie]

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[Dissonance]

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I will keep calling myself a feminist and let people judge me based on my actions. If someone is too ignorant to know that feminism has different branches, or feels threatened by the term, they're not someone I want to associate with.

I hope you really did respond to your bro with that, and that it shut him up hilariously.

This, oh so much. It's how I feel whenever someone says the term feminism or how feminism itself is outdated.

If someone is too ignorant to know that feminism has different branches, or feels threatened by the term, they're not someone I want to associate with.
That's great for you, but that certainly doesn't work for me because I have co-workers and family and friends of friends and friends of family. And honestly it seems more important to me to engage with those people (about feminism if they're ignorant about it) than shut myself away, which is what I would have to do (either literally or at least mentally).

Sorry. Honestly I have people like that in my life too. I try to be just polite to them, if we end up becoming closer and friendly, and they're open to a discussion, I can try to change their minds in little ways, and I've had some successes. If they're not open to discussion, that's when I disengage a much as possible. I don't know. Some people are a lost cause imo. I still don't think, if you feel the label of feminist is right for you, that you should give it up for their sake.

I pretty much agree with you here. I'm going to label myself as I see fit and how I choose to. Fuck other people who make snap judgments. Does this cause problems with some people? Sure, but they're not exactly people I like or want to spend my time with anyway.

Essentially, other people don't get to tell me who I am or how I have to label myself.

Edited 2014-01-01 02:20 (UTC)

Yes, that's what I was getting at!

I was typing this edit when you replied: Anyway, sorry, I'm kind of rambling right now, but what I'm trying to say is it's not your responsibility to make all of your coworkers and friends-of-friends see the light. Just be yourself, stick to your values, and try to make as much of a good impression as you can.

When I say "don't associate with them" I mean "don't invite them out to pizza after work". You don't owe them anything! :)

Ahha, sorry for commenting so soon to you then.

But it seems like we're exactly on the same page.

lol it's fine!!

ayrt

I sat this one out, tbh.

I'm not good at debate and it seemed like he just needed to rant and be listened to for a while (we hadn't seen each other for months).

Besides, even though he can be weirdly stubborn about some things, he is the kind of person who is willing to change his mind if you give him the time to investigate and think about things on his own. He is a very intellectually minded person and does try to seek out new ways of thinking, it's just that arguing (in particular, arguing with his family) makes him dig in his heels deeper.

Aww. Tbh I'm dealing with that right now, kind of. It's not related to feminism but I've been keeping my mouth shut about things around my family when perhaps I should have spoken up.

I think a lot of people are like that. They don't like to be told they're wrong, and they won't listen to anything else you say if they feel you were attacking them. You catch more flies with honey!

Super busy now, but + 1. I couldn't have worded it better.

♥ I'm glad, because I feel like I'm rambling tipsily.

Made perfect sense to me! And honestly, all this wank has left me dead tired, so I really appreciated your succint way of answering a problematic question.

(I'm in the stage that comes before "tipsy" and it's only 23:30 here. I'll be partying all alone 8( My friends have deserted me. Clearly the only solution is go out to town, dressed like a khaleesi, and drink their share as well as mine.)

Same here.

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