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Hey F!S. I'm having problems with someone and I thought you all could give me some advice.

I have a follower on tumblr who is a young girl (11 years old; her age was confirmed later). Upon first meeting her, she seemed very down-to-earth and mature, but... it seems first impressions can be deceiving. To sum up, she's incredibly demanding and quite a brat (Veruca Salt would be a good comparison). I like to have livestreams with my followers, and have been doing said livestreams for quite some time, but she's honestly ruining them. You can't have a conversation in the chat without her complaining about other people in the chat, or something not going her way. As examples, I was helping another viewer with a problem they were having, and she kept telling him to leave/shut up, and later in the same stream, when I didn't skip an episode she didn't like during a season-marathon, she proceeded to whine about it. On tumblr, she has sent anonymous messages to my askblog telling me to hurry up with updates and to not answer questions from certain followers (usually the same ones from the livestream chat).

She's really irritating me, but I don't know what I should do. She is much younger than everyone (most of my followers and viewers are at least 17-18) and obviously doesn't know better. Scolding doesn't work, temporary chat bans don't work, etc. Should I really be "a bully" and just block her on tumblr and ban her from the livestream? I've been on the internet since I was 11 (I'm 21 now), but no one has ever done that to me (then again, I've always behaved myself, but still).

You won't be a bully. Put your boss hat on in livestream and tell her to cut out X behaviour or you'll boot her permanently. If she doesn't believe you? Do it. Same deal with tumblr. Might as well let her know what things are ok and not ok while she's still young and learning. If she does go on a flailing tumblr spree of martyred feelings, just ignore her to the best of your ability.

Give her a final warning telling her what you will do if she does those things and if she doesn't listen follow through.

Block the hell out of her. Eleven is old enough to know that the world doesn't revolve around you. And even if it wasn't old enough, guess what? The world still doesn't revolve around her and you have no obligation to accomodate her at the expense of everyone else.

Children need discipline/to see the consequences for their actions or they will never change, much like adults. Since temp bans do nothing perma ban her. She needs to learn that strangers don't have to take her shit like parents and teachers do.

Ban her. She's old enough to know that she shouldn't be disruptive, and if she doesn't know, now's a good time for her to learn. She should know that if she wants to interact with adults as peers, she needs to behave like one. You can tell her (privately and courteously) why you're banning her, if you want.

Veruca Salt was the way she was because nobody would tell her no.

I'm with everyone else; it's not rude to block her when you've asked her to change her behavior and she's refused. If she was being disruptive and mean she deserves the ban and should learn that her behavior isn't appropriate and will have consequences.

Give her a final warning, and if she doesn't wise up, ban her.

If you worry about the kind of impact this can have on her in the long run, mark your calendar and tell her you'll unban her in a year and she can try again, if she's still interested. Most likely, she won't be, or her behavior will have gotten at least slightly better.

I was 10/11 when I first got into fandom, too, and I turn 21 in half a year. *solidarity high five*

Permaban her from the livestream chat. If she gives you shit on Tumblr, explain that her actions are disruptive and unacceptable. Then ban her on Tumblr too. SHE is the one being a bully, not you. You are being reasonable by setting boundaries and not putting up with her shit.

I'm with everyone else, it's not bullying and you should ban her. Give her one final warning saying she will be banned if she does not change her behavior, then follow through when she acts out. I'd say she's being the bully here, honestly. And 11 is old enough to know better. Also if there aren't any consequences to her actions how will she ever learn/why would she ever change?

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