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I'm in college, I live with my father, and I still regularly interact with my family, argue with them, etc. So basically, I'm "the kid".

But already, for years I've been increasingly siding with "the grown-ups" when listening to my peers' family problems. Like, seriously, the amount of times I see people my age - fucking college kids - complain about how oppressive and unfair and tyrannical their parents are for cutting down (not cutting off, mind you, just cutting down) their Internet access when their grades started to slip... -_-

No, idiot, it is not unreasonable or abusive for your parents to make your fucking allowance contingent on completing a few chores around the house, especially when your own damn post makes it obvious that most of those chores amount to you cleaning up after your own damn self. Hell, I was thinking this back in middle school, and the fact there are high school kids - a year or less away from being legal adults - who still think like this boggles my mind. The one or two college kids like this make me want to give up on humanity.

Probably one of the most irritating this mentality is when one of these people tried to make it out like my own family situation is oppressive. Fuck you, asshole, my dad is not unfair for not giving me much cash for a few months after he gave me a big lump sum for my birthday, even if he could technically afford it. It's called "learning out how budget". And apparently I have Stockhold Syndrome because I prefer to earn as much of my hand money as I can before asking my family for cash, instead of asking them first when I know that they'll give me what they can. Did it occur to you that the reason they are so generous is because I don't ask if I can help it?

*descends into incoherent and admittedly irrational rage*

Man, you've got a good head on your shoulders. I wish more people were like you.

Thank you. :)

You sound like me when I was younger. I worked at a cafe during my college years, and I remember my manager looking at me one day and saying, "you are a 19-year-old curmudgeon."

Grant you, I tended to surround myself with like-minded people, so I only knew a few folks my age who thought I was weird or who held attitudes that struck me as immature. But the ones who were immature? Oh my goodness. I had one friend who, when she was told that she would have to start paying for her apartment by herself, behaved as if her entire world was ending. We had friends who had been living on on their own and paying their own way since they were 17, and here she was, 23, freaking out and crying about how "hard" things now were for her.

And that brings me to this: there's a pretty strong correlation, it seems to me, between how early one is given responsibility and how quickly one matures. But, eh, I digress.

Anyway, from one "old soul" to another, I feel ya.

This makes me worry for the friends of mine who come from actually oppressive and conservative families - a lot of my female friends with conservative families are highly taken care of but also have little to no personal freedom, and their families' mentalities is that as long as these girls are under the family's roof, they will be treated like little girls (even in their early 20's)...but that means they have little to no practice for when they leave, and their families may not be the most supportive once they do. It's setting them up for disaster, and given this was almost exactly my mom's situation, I know all too well that this sort of upbringing can take decades to recover from/learn from. D:

I applaud you. It's seemed to me for a long while now that "kids" grow up slower these days or don't grow up at all until a lightning strucks them, basically without proper raising or guidelines.
I totally get you and I think good habits and reason was all about how I was raised and learned to live.

Thank you! :)

And I'm glad you have that. My mother got practically the opposite of that and far too many of my friends - mostly female friends from conservative families - are in the same situation. Given that my mom still often acts like an immature teenager in her 50's, seeing a highly probably future like that for my current friends honestly scares me.

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