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⌈ Secret Post #2861 ⌋

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Comments

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

At the risk of getting shouted down, I...don't get how a lot of the things said to the woman in that video count as "harrassment." Some of them yes, most definitely, but how is a casual "How you doin'?" in passing harrassing someone? Were there a bunch of incidents not actually included in the video that made it add up to 100? Or is it considered unacceptably intrusive these days to simply say hi to a passing stranger?

(For the record: I'm a woman.)

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[dancing_clown]

Also a woman and in agreement.

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

IDK, I live in a pretty friendly town, and if I were taking a walk in a place where I might pass, maybe, one person in a block, I wouldn't be at all surprised if they said hi to me--assuming I didn't say hi to them first.

On the other hand, if I'm walking down a street full of people and some guy singles me out among all the other passers-by to say "How you doin'?" to, that doesn't feel like a friendly hello to me. Especially if he falls into step beside me and tries to pursue a conversation.

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. I sometimes get a "how you doin'" and I enjoy it. Maybe it's a cultural thing?

But the guy who pestered her for her phone number was creepy as fuck. And also dumb as a rock. Does he really believe that any women would be interested in that?

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

The vast majority of this stuff, I do think is harassing.

If it's friendliness that I feel like the guy would give anyone who walked by - women AND men - then whatever. If it's something they wouldn't yell to a man, then they shouldn't yell it to me.

And frankly, I think it's kind of rude to yell things at anyone who is just trying to walk by, obviously not making eye contact with you, obviously looks like she's on the way to something. I think there are situations where obviously it's fine for a guy to chat up a girl without it being creepy, but I don't think one of those appropriate times is when she's trying to get somewhere and walking by without looking at you.

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

if the only reason someone's saying hello and being polite is because they want to fuck you, that's not exactly a comforting greeting. why aren't these "polite" strangers saying hello to all the men they passed?

idk it kinda sucks to be constantly reminded that half the population only is nice to you in the hopes of getting to fuck you. it may not qualify as "harassment" but it is not some nice "polite" greeting either.

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

This. Sometimes a friendly hello isn't just a friendly hello.

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

It's pretty crass to boil every expression of interest into another person down to "wants to fuck you."

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

Probably depends on the culture of where you live. I don't live in a city where people generally greet one another like that, so it'd be unusual to walk down the street and have someone you don't know shout hello at you. Not to mention that unless the men in the video are also shouting out hellos at everyone else including people they're not sexually attracted to, it seems pretty clear that their reason for doing so at a woman is a wee bit suspect.

Re: 100 instances of street harassment

[(Anonymous)]

IDK, I always associate "How you doin'?" (and of course tone/demeanor are a factor here) with being a chatup line, someone trying to initiate conversation that could lead to a hookup. It's usually not someone legitimately asking how you are feeling. So for me, I really don't want to hear that from some stranger on the street, especially if they try to get in my space while saying it. I'd be extremely uncomfortable.

I was raised not to speak to strangers. I took the same bus with a group of people who lived on the same block as me every day for three years, and I only ever spoke to any of them once or twice in that time period.