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⌈ Secret Post #2924 ⌋

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"Smile! I like 'em chubby!" - random dude I passed on the street.

Had any obnoxious comments said to you lately?

Omg, you're clearly rad!fem anon for not appreciating that classy guy's compliment!

Just kidding. :)

Over the holidays, a relative said my hair looked "almost nice".

"You'd be great at murdering people, because you hide your emotions all the time."

... who said that to you? That's awful.

AYRT

Friend of mine. Nice guy, but he can be really clueless sometimes. I honestly don't think he understood why I wasn't amused.

that sounds like the kind of thing that my friends and I would say to each other but I can understand why it would bother you if someone just randomly said it

I get that one a lot. Strangely, I'm actually terrible at hiding my emotions. I'm just really quiet.

Not necessarily the best logic. It might you less likely to be suspected in the aftermath, but the ability to hide emotion doesn't give you the emotional or physical capability to actually do the deed. And it possibly makes you more suspicious in the aftermath, as the insult itself demonstrates, because people find a lack of emotion in trying circumstances to be automatically more suspicious than an excess of it.

If they're going to insult you, they could at least do it based on slightly less faulty and self-defeating logic.

Being able to hide emotions might marginally help you good at being a killer (unless you hide ALL of your emotions and creep out the police), but being able to leave no evidence or something like that would be vastly more helpful. You might make a good poker player though

My mother's comments about how I'm a bratty little shit (not in those words, she's far too uptight to swear) for happening to be in a bad mood even though she woke up early to make us all breakfast. Because apparently waking up on the wrong side of the bed and taking some space to myself because I know I'll get snappy with people if I don't is ungrateful and I should be happy and pleasant and sociable regardless of what's going on in my life because she did something I never asked her to do. And my dad's comments siding with her.

See, I actually DO like 'em chubby, but I don't shout that to random women on the fucking street. Jesus H. Christ, what a dick.

Well it was online and said to someone else but

"*cringe""

That and "I have so much secondhand embarrassment for you" really irk me when they're said to put down an interest or hobby that the person disapproves of. The former was said by my writing community's "community asshole" to someone because they were a mod on the blogging sub-community.

When someone's actually being an asshole of themselves I can understand people doing this, but when you're just judging someone's hobbies and you say this? Fuck off. Fuck off completely.

I had a sick day yesterday. Queue a "you're always sick!" comment.

I've had 2 sick days in the past 4 months. How am I always sick :|

It's kind of amazing how dense the rudeness is there. That's really impressive assholery by the dude.

Went out with an old friend who I really like and would like to maybe date in the future.

A few minutes after we sat down, this jerk comes over from his table and addresses me without looking at my friend:

"I hope you know you can do much better than him. You're very sexy."

I didn't even have a response. I was just in shock.
My friend was very quiet after that, and as we were leaving he asked if I was going to get jerk guy's number. So much nope.

Ugh I'm so sorry.What a jerk.

I kind of think that telling someone "you can do so much better" is really rude and annoying. I know in some people's heads it may sound all "noble" and "I have confidence in you" or something. But when it comes out its "I don't think this person is 'good enough' and who cares how YOU may feel about him". If that makes sense. But yeah , it's not as flattering as the people who say it like to think it is. Even when it comes from people we know.

AYRT

Yeah. I mean, if it was a good friend telling me that I deserved to be treated better by someone, that's an entirely different thing.

This sounds suspiciously like some PUA shit. That crowd thinks that by doing asshole stuff and establishing themselves as the "alpha" (i.e. by putting down other males around you and making them "betas"), your panties will spontaneously combust. Feel free to tell those guys it's rude to interrupt adult conversation and to fuck off back to the kids' table until he learns some manners. Sadly, it's the only way they'll learn.

AYRT

I'm familiar with "negging" and yes, sometimes people try really weird shit like that with me, and my usual reaction is to tell them that I don't appreciate it and walk away.

I just completely froze though.

Oh no that's awful

My friend was very quiet after that, and as we were leaving he asked if I was going to get jerk guy's number

Oh nooooooo

AYRT

:( it sucked. I didn't know what to say to him afterwards that wouldn't sound like I was just trying to make him feel better. I know he's embarrassed about having put on some weight, and next to me everyone looks huge anyway. I'm not confident enough to just tell him I find him attractive.

Take him out somewhere more private and just fess up maybe? I'm so rooting for you guys. Good luck, anon!

Yeah me too. I hope you guys are ok! I'm kinda shipping it :p

Re: Rude.

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AYRT

Thanks. We'll see! I was planning to ask him if he wants to hang out when he gets back from his family trip. I'm pretty terrible at this stuff.

Wow, what a fucking asshole.

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