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I've never seen this! (Which isn't to say it doesn't happen, but I don't run across it.)

In these kinds of situations I don't understand why people don't go ahead and unfollow. You might not like what the user posts, but THEY do or they wouldn't be posting it. Unfollowing is easy! (I would rather someone unfollow me than hate all my posts and start to resent me or whatever.)

Tagging for triggers is a nice courtesy and I wouldn't personally be annoyed if someone asked (nicely!) if I could, but the thing with me is...I don't really know what people need tagged. (I've seen tw: food, tw: gore, etc, so I tend to just tag 'food' and 'gore', but other than those two...I'm not sure.)

I see it a lot. You may not see it if people don't bother you specifically because not everyone answers their asks publicly, but I have friends with popular blogs who deal with it all the time.

I even have a friend who has had people bother them about things that if you scrolled their blog for 5 seconds, you could see it's a common theme and you'd be much better off unfollowing them then bothering them to trigger warning all their posts.

I follow the "I will tag for extreme things but I'm not going to follow every little phobia" rule. Otherwise I just tag what the post is related to. Plus I figure that if someone is really triggered by like, food, they will already have the "food" tag blocked and they shouldn't need to specific 'tw:food'.

Plus I figure that if someone is really triggered by like, food, they will already have the "food" tag blocked and they shouldn't need to specific 'tw:food'.

Yea, I assume that as well. If food is a trigger it would make sense to cover all the bases.

I'm def not a popular blog, so maybe you have to be a fandom favorite or have a massive list of followers before people start doing that kind of thing.

I even have a friend who has had people bother them about things that if you scrolled their blog for 5 seconds, you could see it's a common theme and you'd be much better off unfollowing them then bothering them to trigger warning all their posts.

I guess for some people if you have other content they're interested in (even if you post a lot of content they aren't), they would rather not unfollow. In that situation it's a lot easier to just unfollow. (Especially if the person has already been asked to tag their stuff. If they say no or just plain forget, I don't see why you would ask again instead of unfollowing.)

I think there are people who say, "tell me your weird triggers and I will tag them" which is really considerate, but it's also voluntary, and I wouldn't be surprised if there are now people expecting people to do it by default (maybe even people they don't follow).

I find that mindset strange, because those people might not even know what to tag!

I do wish most people would tag basic things like fandom or subject (frankly so I can look through their backlog of posts easier), but if they don't want to for whatever reason that's their decision. The world will go on, and you don't have to follow them if it bothers you that much.

Tagging is nice, but I don't think it's realistic to expect everyone to do it.

I think it's less of going to someone's random blog and shouting "WHY DID YOU TAG MOTORCYCLES? I AM SO TRIGGERED RIGHT NOW YOU INSENSITIVE SHITLORD" (though...does that happen? it might...) and more of following someone and then getting mad because that person doesn't want to tag every little thing that bugs you and acting like you're entitled to it.

I agree on tags in general, more is better because it makes individual blogs and the site more organized, but ultimately as long as you're covering your basic common triggers, then it's any given person's decision how to run their blog.

Yea, IA with that. If you have a problem with the way someone tags (or doesn't tag) you can bring it up (hopefully in a friendly and respectful manner), but that doesn't necessarily mean that the person is going to change the way they do things.

I follow a couple people who tag nothing. Not a big fan of that because it makes it impossible to search their posts, but I still like their posts enough to go along with it. That isn't going to be the case for some people, and that's okay.

I haven't seen it with tags so much, but I saw on one blog someone actually ask the owner to stop posting certain content altogether and post different content instead. I was like, "...uhhhh..."

There is one person in one of my fandoms who runs a Fuck Yeah blog who asked that a certain thing be tagged, because it legit triggers her, and people have followed that request because she was really nice about it and she also defends their right to put that kind of content out there (when she first asked she got some asks that were like, "THOSE PEOPLE ARE SCUM" and she was like, "no they're not. They're fellow fans and they aren't doing anything wrong; it's just something that I personally find triggering. Don't be dicks to your fellow fans, guys").

This shit baffles me. No one is going to change their interests just so you can be happy. I'm sure the person asking that question wouldn't, so why would you expect someone else to? It's so bizarre.

I always love being reminded that reasonable people still exist in fandom! Good on her for standing up for fans right to do what they want even if it isn't something that she can enjoy (and is actually harmful for her personally). If more people were that chill fandom would be a more welcoming place.

I'm glad people are tagging for her; she sounds lovely.

I actually really love when people tag vids. Tumblr autoplays everything these days, which lags my computer really badly. So if one of my dash reblogs a bunch of vids really quickly, my computer locks up. (This got REALLY BAD during the Mike Brown shit, because people started blogging untagged POLICE BRUTALITY VIDS. All of which autoplayed and locked up my computer so bad I couldn't close the fucking tab.)

Sure, I can unfollow, but most of the folks I know only go through vid binges rarely, so it's a periodic annoyance, rather than unfollow-worthy.

--Rogan

You should complain to tumblr about that. Tumblr video playback is horrible and the autoplay does suck.

But you may also want to check that everything with your computer and internet is okay, for the longest time I had lagging issues that I thought was due to having an old computer but it turned out I really just needed a new modem (and the new modem was free with my internet provider so it didn't cost me anything to fix.)

Thankfully, it is not my Internet! This was something that's happened over a few different Internet connections. And I also have a new computer that I'm phasing into use, which will hopefully make things better. (It's still in the installs and updates stage.) I've also gotten a lot pickier about who I follow on tumblr, so I haven't had this problem since the Mike Brown thing.

--Rogan

Ah man, I feel for you. I use the phone app for most everything so tumblr doesn't autoplay videos for me, but I know from past experience that a page-full of videos or gifs can fuck things up. Computer freezes are the WORST. (And police brutality should always be tagged imo, holy shit...)

If I didn't already tag vids, I would want to do it now. I'm glad it helps some people.

(I hope you don't run across any other unpleasant tagged videos!)

Edited 2015-04-27 03:01 (UTC)

Thankfully, it's usually pretty uncommon! Like, the only time it really fucked me up was with the Mike Brown shit where EVERYONE was posting police brutality vids, often untagged.

These days, at worst I get a couple cute animal things on the same page, which is annoying, but not the OH DEAR GOD NO! that the police brutality shit was. I'd WAY rather my page freeze on pugs or otters than THAT.

I also appreciate gifs getting tagged for a similar reason--well, that and sometimes they're really eye-searing.

The only other time I can recall really going OH SWEET MOTHERFUCK NO was the time I accidentally found myself on a pro-ana tumblr. Oh man was that bad. I think that person also posted photos of her self-harm too. I actually covered my eyes and closed the tab blind that time! (Obviously, I didn't follow her.)

--Rogan

I've never thought to tag gifs! Not sure why... A massive amount of the posts I reblog are gifs but it hasn't crossed my mind. I also admit I assume most people see a lot/reblog a lot of gifs of their own, so I haven't considered it. Maybe I should tag them.

was the time I accidentally found myself on a pro-ana tumblr

...Well that's disturbing. And sad. I hope that person got help.

Yeah, I generally don't follow folks who post a ton of gifs. So that's not as big a pain as videos, I just like being able to cut past them, since I'm a raccoon who can't look away from moving images, no matter what they contain. (I'm the same when a TV is in the room with me. Doesn't matter if it's a damn bank commercial, I can't not stare at it.) But I can totally understand why people wouldn't tag them, and if it's a more "serene" gif (you know, rain falling or something) that's a lot easier and not too annoying at all.

Yeah, I hope so too. Those pro-ana and self-harm sites scare the bejeezus out of me.

--Rogan

I'm going to try to remember to tags gifs from now on. I already tag videos and fanart and audio posts but for some reason I have never thought, "I should tag gifs!"

Thanks! I always appreciate when folks tag stuff like that, for us poor schmucks with slower connections or comps.

--Rogan

TBH I tag for organisation and every now and then throw in a general "trigger warning/tw" tag and assume they can get the gist of the content from my other tags. So far only one person has asked me to tag one thing? And tbh i don't remember half the time but I'm not fussed and it helps my organisation for finding stuff later.

But yeah unless it's like a dead animal or person or something REALLY UPSETTING I prob won't tag it

Makes sense!

I feel like adding one or two tags to regular usage wouldn't be a big deal (and might even help with organization, like you say), but I know some people don't like tagging for whatever reason so it isn't for everyone. I do like to be considerate when I can so if I was going to post something extra graphic or disturbing I would definitely tag it, but most the stuff I post I don't do trigger warnings for. No one has ever asked, so I just do what I think is best.

Yeah, the only things I've ever been asked to tag was pretty usual stuff: gaslighting, abuse, that kind of thing. Pretty much every time it was brought up to me, I was embarrassed not to have tagged it in the first place.

--Rogan

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