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⌈ Secret Post #3095 ⌋

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[Poets of the Fall]

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[The Authority/Stormwatch/Midnighter]

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[Anthony Bourdain/Parts Unknown]

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How do you motivate yourself to do work you need to do when you are sick and have no energy and just want to do mindless stuff? I have an essay due by midnight. It is only going to take me an hour or so when I actually do it, but I'm feeling so miserable I've been procrastinating all day.

It's hard to do anything when you're sick. I'd try a quick nap (no longer than a hour) followed by a hearty snack that doesn't shy away from fat/protein. Then I'd make myself a huge cup of tea and crack on with it.

I've been in the same place. I get frequent health problems that make it hard for me to move around sometimes. Just try to do as much of it as you can and take breaks. A looming deadline is usually motivation enough for me to get papers in, even if it's at the last minute. Though I don't recommend waiting that long. Just think, the sooner you get it done, the sooner you can go back to resting.

tbh I don't really motivate myself I just... do the job?

Like, if I know that whatever it is will only take x amount of time, and I'll have the rest of the evening free, I also know I'll be much less stressed out if I just get it out of the way. So it's only logical for me to get it done early so I can relax.

I was inspired by a prompt and wrote a thing. However, what I wrote was the basic premise of the prompt and most all of the details are changed. So, I put it as a RTYI, even though I wrote it for the prompt.

My question: Can I still link my fic in the main Fill Post? Or is that weird? Does that decrease the likelihood of others filling the prompt or would it draw attention to the prompt? Also, I only link to my story; it's not physically written in the kink meme; does that matter either?

Thoughts?

Id link it.

I tend to mostly fill only vague kink meme prompts for exactly that reason. I'm too scared that if I write something for a specific prompt it won't be what the OP wants.

Okay, so this is a little weird.

I just received my first subscriber to Dreamwidth. I don't use Dreamwidth much; they're subscribing to a writer's blog where I put my fics. A different user expressed interest in some really old fic that I have written but never published (it's a sequel to other stuff). I said I would publish these for this other user. The fics are really bad compared to my stuff now but I have no energy to make them better. I don't mind putting them up but I also don't want to draw attention to these fics (I know that makes no sense to want to publish them but not "show" them - just, please go with it). My subscriber is someone I really respect and I'm not too keen on them noticing these fics (I know, it's out of my hands).

Since I don't use Dreamwidth, I was wondering what kind of notifications you get as a subscriber. If I published these as private and later turned them to public, do you get notifications about that if you subscribe? I know this is silly but I just wondered what I could do here (if anything).

Pretty sure it just means post show chronologically among the subscriber's circle pf people. Backdate and you should be fine if it's anything like LJ.

Every friend that I thought was sincere turned out to be two-faced and talked about me behind my back. I got rid of those creeps but now I only have one friend left (he's great!). What is wrong with people? Why does almost everyone talk shit about me and turn against me? I know that it's nothing I do. I also know they aren't jealous because my life isn't so great and fantastic.
You'd think I'd be a teenager from the way this all sounds...but the sad part is we're all over 35. :(

Well, you could start by realizing there's more to people than being "two-faced creeps." Maybe there's something about you that sometimes irritates or frustrates other people but rather than trying to force you to change who you are they blow off steam in an attempt to not hurt your feelings.

TL;DR: Maybe it's not them, it's you.

OP here: it isn't anything I'm doing. You have to trust me on that.

And no offense, but you and the other commenter sound like victim-blamers.

Yeah... not trying to be mean, but going with the anon above, you might want to make sure it isn't something you're doing, or possibly a pattern you're falling into.

I realize you don't believe it isn't anything you're doing, but you could very well be overlooking something. Maybe you're naturally drawn to jerks, or maybe you settle for people based on what group you all find yourselves in at the moment. Maybe you just need to step outside of your comfort zone and find better people, and not automatically think badly of them just because they have a human moment.

OP here: already answered the person above. It isn't my fault...really!
I think it's just the thrill of ganging up on someone and making them (me) your scapegoat so you can feel superior for a fleeting moment.

As for being naturally drawn to jerks...well, these people weren't jerky at the beginning of our friendships. They de-evolved into jerks, partly because they didn't agree w/ how I lived my life or my political beliefs so they began sniping passive-aggressively online.

My car needs help. It needs a couple things done, two of which I know exactly what needs to be done (new compressor switch and changing a filter), one is a more nebulous noise related to transmission. I have been trying for two weeks to get it into the shop, but keep running into the same thing from both of the two 'good old boys' shops in the area (the only two shops in the area), where I call and ask for an appointment to get my car in, and they apparently hear 'girl' and instead of just giving me a damn appointment and ordering the parts, tell me to just bring it by sometime so they can look at it. I don't have time to just swing by randomly when i don't know how long it might take to 'look' at it, and I'd fix the two things myself if I had time and energy (ok maybe not getting to the compressor is such a pita). complicating this is that I do have pretty bad anxiety about being out in public and dealing with people.

Any suggestions for ways to say 'give me a fucking appointment and take my money, and stop treating me like an idiot while you're at it'?

You might have to go in and speak to them in person - I know you have anxiety and it sucks, but if you're anything like me then the anticipation is probably worse than the actual thing. I mean, they will definitely give you some weird looks for knowing about cars and being girl, but that's what worked for me when I was working on an older car. One of the guys was interested in classics and we got talking, and they were all really helpful to me after that.
Like I passed some kind of test. They also charged me a lot less than other places, and they let me stay on the shop floor and in the break room while they were doing stuff on the car that I couldn't do myself.

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