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[ SECRET POST #3187 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3187 ⌋

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[New Tricks]

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12. [SPOILERS for Jurassic World]

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13. [WARNING for underage]

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14. [WARNING for suicide]

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How'd it go?

Lol lots.

Was one (in the lesser, endless weedy adolescent pining sense; not the stronger sluts-and-whores sense).

It was a very stupid and futile and immature way to be. Just juvenile.

I've met the female version on an MMO I used to play.

was "she" played by a man?

Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

(Anonymous) - 2015-09-26 00:23 (UTC) - Expand

Used to know someone who was very much one. Emphasis on "used to."

All the damned time. I had one follow me around a national park talking about his great respect for the military and how his grandfather 'made him the man he is today.' It took all I had not to laugh.

I had one date where, while we driving to the mountains to hike, I had to pull my car over so he could jump out and smoke. And we had to stop in the middle of the hike so he could smoke. And every time he asked me a question he cut me off in the middle of my sentence to talk about himself. And he told me his mom told him not to tell me he was Catholic, and she was worried I would push him off the mountain. To be fair, I was considering it halfway through the hike.

Then I had one charmer who admitted that he still lived with his mother well into his thirties, stayed home every weekend, went hiking ONCE (and his 'crazy' friend brought along a flare gun and omg it was so CRAZY!) and his mom's favorite story about him was that he was once bitten by a turtle. And the story goes: he picked up a turtle and it turned it's head and bit him.

My last date was literally an hour and a half of the guy talking about his pseudo-intellectual bullshit theories. I quite literally said maybe three sentences. Maybe. He didn't ask me a single question. Not one.

One date took me to a movie and stared at me to see if I laughed whenever something funny happened. 0.o

And every single one of these jerks would have described himself as a 'Nice Guy.'

I've seen things, man. THINGS.

I thought Nice Guys were just guys who did... nice things and then acted like you owed them sex. These guys seem a little weird (and probably not anyone I'd date), but not like Nice Guys.

Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

iceyred - 2015-09-26 00:15 (UTC) - Expand

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Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

iceyred - 2015-09-26 01:51 (UTC) - Expand

I don't see what's not nice about the mama's boy or the movie-starer. Not exactly anyone I'd care to date, for sure, but how are they jerks or not-nice?

Also, I don't think you understand what a Nice Guy (TM) is. It's a very specific entitled "you're obliged to go out with me because I'm not like those other douchebags" type of person.

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iceyred - 2015-09-26 01:24 (UTC) - Expand

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(Anonymous) - 2015-09-26 01:30 (UTC) - Expand

How is the guy who lived with his mom and doesn't like to go out on the weekends a jerk? Not attractive, perhaps, depending on the situation, but how does that make him a jerk? He just sounds like he has a boring life.

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iceyred - 2015-09-26 01:42 (UTC) - Expand

The only guys here who siund like jerks are the smoker and the pseudo-intellectual. And even they aren't nice gys

Yep. He complained how women were all incredibly awful (this guy had a laundry list of complaints that ALL came back to how he wasn't getting laid and that pissed him off), insulted my physical appearance, and then asked me out. Being married, I turned him down (eyeroll, because who wouldn't want to date this pig, amirite), and then proceeded to mock him to his stupid face: wow, I can't believe you're single, you're SUCH a catch, gosh it's so hard to understand why women don't like you. He had no idea I wasn't sympathizing with him. What a fucking douche.

There's a moment when you politely turn someone down that it could go either way.

Option 1: Accept that this person does not want to date you.

Option 2: Argue your case like this is a fucking debate and this person must be convinced of your many amazing qualities in order to overcome their foolish notions of free will.

Example: This one guy chose option 2 and just kept repeating that he would not treat me like shit, while grabbing both my arms and maintaining a really uncomfortable level of eye contact.
What was he expecting here?

"Thank you! I've been waiting my whole life for someone who tells me he would not treat me like shit. Pretty sure you're bruising my arms, but that's okay because we're clearly soul mates and I was an idiot to ever deny our love!"

:| Yeah. No.

Yeah, I was underage all the times I can remember at the moment. I got my mom to save me each time.

As an adult I normally find myself either at work or with close friends only so this kind of stuff can't really happen.

Yes.

One of them liked me and told me "I think God gave me you." That was creepy.

Most of my friends slowly morphed into Nice Guys and kept whining about how girls were all catty bitches and no one would date them. So I quit hanging out with them.

More recently, I caught up with one of said friends, (who I'd though was the more chill one of the group), and he went on this MASSIVE long rant about gamergate and how militant PC is ruining everything and how his life is so hard because he's discriminated against for being a white male.

I just... No. I am so, so sick of Nice Guys. I wish they'd grow up and get some empathy.

My first ever date was with one! It went horribly. And for some reason he decided to act like he was smarter than me; there are plenty of low self-esteem areas a guy could hit with me that would be successful, but I'm pretty confident in my intelligence, so that went poorly for him.

There's two current problems in modern NiceGuyology:

1. The Nice Guys have wised up to the term Nice Guy

2. Nice Guys will always find legitimately nice girls to make excuses for their general doucheiness and actual bad behavior. That's a big reason why it persists. We need to pull a gender-wide Lysistrata operation on them.

Edited 2015-09-26 00:34 (UTC)

So on a scale from 1 to 10, how close would you say you are to going full-on lesbian separatist?

Re: Yep.

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Re: Yep.

kitelovesyou - 2015-09-26 00:50 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Yep.

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Re: Yep.

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(Anonymous) - 2015-09-26 15:51 (UTC) - Expand

I was both incredibly baffled and stopped our friendship then and there.

I had the misfortune of speaking to a guy that talked about how nice he was to girls and how none of them would give him a chance (always going after "assholes", those mean girls), and found out he actually bought into that "sex is a human right and the government should assign me a girlfriend so I can have sex" thing. Once we got on the topic I literally stopped speaking and just stared at him, unblinking, until he got uncomfortable and left.

Wow.

Holy shit. What an asshole.

Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

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daddytexas - 2015-09-26 05:09 (UTC) - Expand

*bangs head into wall* Fuck these guys. I make it *clear*. "I'm moving soon, so I'm really not looking for a boyfriend." They show up at work every day. I smile, because they're a fucking CUSTOMER!!! They try to insist I call them when I want to walk *two blocks* to the grocery store. Then, when they finally get it through their head that, "Hey, I'm on pension. Stick with me for five years and you'll never have to work again! I'll take care of you!" is NOT a good pick up line, /they stop coming to the store/!!! Despite the fact that they're pack a day smokers and are now going twice as far for a fix.

When they condescendingly imply that I can't handle myself, and insist that they're a 'nice guy' who 'just wants to take care of {you}', I wanna punch something. And when I say that I *like* my independence, they insist that it's only because I've never had anyone take care of my like they could. Urgh! "Here, I brought you a coffee!" Even if I was for sale, how much do you honestly think a coffee would buy? Really?

I used to hang and out with one. I'm sure he still says I put him in the friendzone, even though I don't associate with him anymore. It was an okay friendship at first, but after a while, he'd backhandedly put me down because I didn't like the same anime and scifi that he did (mind you, I do like anime and scifi...just not the exact same titles he did) and once he literally screamed at me for liking a movie he didn't like (that he had actually never seen). Then he couldn't understand why I didn't want to hang out anymore because he was "just debating" with me.

One was my friend. He started out just shy and bad at approaching girls in a romantic way, but as time passed (and he didn't magically get better at it, tbh), he got really bitter about it. He made a pass at me once and when I told him I just wanted to stay friends, he SEEMED fine. We didn't see each other for months afterward, but to be honest he had just gone back to school and also his dad got cancer so I just figured he was busy with those things, and when we started hanging again later, it wasn't awkward at all. Only like a year later did I find that in that period he would whine at a mutual friend semi-constantly about me

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