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⌈ Secret Post #3403 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

01. http://i.imgur.com/xalSsVx.jpg

[lb_lee]

I don't like big dramatic proposals generally... but I'm not against proposals on the whole.

I mean, I proposed to my husband in the middle of grinding pepper for dinner. (Do not do this. I broke the pepper grinder in a panic and ruined the stew.)

[(Anonymous)]

Aw! Sorry about the grinder and the stew, but otherwise, that sounds like a rather cute story :D!

[(Anonymous)]

Aww, that's a cute story. Sorry about the pepper grinder though.

[kallanda_lee]

LB you're back!

[(Anonymous)]

Pressure on the woman? Really?

[(Anonymous)]

Because it's generally in public, and "yes" is the only acceptable answer?

[(Anonymous)]

If you're not sure you want to say yes, what do you do? The only "acceptable" answer is tears and delight in a public setting, and everyone going "aww." Basically, it can go very wrong. It would be humiliating for both parties then.

Proposals should be couple-specific. What might be a hugely romantic gesture for one couple would be totally wrong for another. Any guy who puts someone on the spot this way without knowing they would be OK with it needs to be prepared for teh awkward to happen. Because it could.

What do you do if the answer is no, I'll think about it, etc? Walk away? Pretend? If it involves faking the happy reaction, what else will you have to fake, the whole relationship? Ugh.

[(Anonymous)]

If the couple agrees to it beforehand, do you still object to real life proposals? Just wondering.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree with you with big, public proposals. I don't see how the person being proposed to has any option but to say yes if the question is being asked in front of loads of people / on tv / etc. I think I'd even feel weird answering in front of my family, but I'm a weirdly private person.

I think in private takes the pressure off and allows the couple to talk it through instead of forcing a 'yes' to please a crowd.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't ever want to get married, so naturally, I don't want anyone to propose to me. However, I love seeing grand, sweeping proposals on TV and in movies.

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh, they squick me out so bad. They always feel so contrived.

[diet_poison]

I think I would want to be proposed to, but ONLY after having the conversations beforehand that make it clear we both really want to get married. It's a formality at that point, but I think it's also a really special thing.

To each their own of course!

[kallanda_lee]

There's a few I liked, but most still make me cringe.

[nightscale]

I don't mind proposal scenes in media if it's private and between the couple in question(and I can find them sweet as a result), but any big public spectacle proposal will have me squirming with second hand embarrassment. But that's due to me being a private person so I'd never want that done in front of others.

[(Anonymous)]

Public proposals are the worst. How do you even say no in a situation like that, with so much pressure?

[(Anonymous)]

I honestly would say no to anyone who proposed to me in public, because that person clearly doesn't know me well enough to know how awkward and manipulative I would find that. And I also don't think a proposal should come as a total surprise because then you're clearly not on the same page and haven't talked about your future goals and dreams enough, but it would be nice to have it be somewhat of a romantic surprise in terms of when and how it's done.

Not that anyone's going to be proposing to me anytime soon. Just my two cents!

[(Anonymous)]

I've always thought irl proposals are kind of weird. I'm fine with them in media, though.

I follow Markiplier and Jacksepticeye on media and at a recent PAX, both of them individually had a proposal happen in front of them. People were calling it cute, but I thought it was super cringy. You could have proposed to your SO somewhere, idk, more romantic than "specifically in front of this one Youtuber."

[(Anonymous)]

I was once witness to what appeared to be a very reluctant "Yes" to a surprise public proposal and it was incredibly embarassing. I'm sure she took it back once they were in private and I'm sure I wasn't the only one wishing a tornado siren would go off or Godzilla would attack or ANYTHING would happen that would interrupt the torture of her sitting there silently thinking "Oh fuck" while he smiled optimistically and the band leader who had been roped into participating started to sweat. If I ever see something like that again I will fake a medical emergency.

[ibbity]

Public proposals are THE WORST especially when it's something ridiculous like proposing on the giant screen at a sports event or whatever. It screams "LOOK AT ME LOOK AT MEEEEE I NEED ATTENTION SO BADLYYYYY" and I can't stand it. Plus I can only imagine how incredibly embarrassing it must be for the proposee if they weren't expecting to be made a spectacle of that day.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't most people talk about it in advance?

This proposal wasn't actually public.

[(Anonymous)]

To all the people talking about how awful it would be in public. They were alone on a roof and Ted and Patrice knew it was happening, but weren't there. But a big set-up of a proposal does come with a certain amount of pressure, even if it isn't public, and this one, in particular, where Barney had tricked Robin into thinking he was serious about Patrice, would have made me really angry if it had been done to me.

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's different with fictional couples because we sort of know what's going on in their head, and that it's twu wub or whatever. I like some movie proposals but I also cringe massively at the thought of being in the spotlight and being forced to make a decision in front of a crowd. as an indecisive introvert, it's basically my nightmare.

[litalex]

I actually like watching same-sex proposal more precisely because things are more equal?

[(Anonymous)]

I met my husband-to-be on a year-long trip to England. We fell in love, and when I returned to Canada, he came over for a 2-week visit. When he arrived at my place (properly jet-lagged and exhausted), he dropped his bags, looked around and said exasperatedly, "Well, we're just going to have to get married." I promptly fell over laughing.

Best. Proposal. EVER.