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[ SECRET POST #3588 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3588 ⌋

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Of course it shouldn't be. But if the friends specifically says, "Oh, you should sell tupperware! I love tupperware and I'd totally buy it from you!" then you go out on the limb, try this difficult new thing, and they say "Oh yeah I bought that tupperware from you!!!" when you know they didn't...that's assholishness, even if they don't "mean it to be."

Kind of a faulty metaphor, given that the people who sell tupperware don't actually make it themselves, and thus their friends would have no reason to encourage it. And OP's friends never said they did buy the book; OP just said (s)he knows they didn't.

Exactly. I'm a little weirded out by how many people in this thread don't see it that way. I've purchased ebooks published by friends as a show of support. If I like them even a little bit, it's one freaking dollar, ffs. I wouldn't bother to be friends with anyone I didn't like enough to spend one dollar upon.

I'm poor as shit and can't afford an e-reader, but fuck me for encouraging my friends to do what they love even if I can't access it, right? "I'd totally buy it" doesn't necessarily mean "can but won't," it could very well be "would but can't." Never assume into people's circumstances.

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"I would" does not mean "I will".

I'm in the same position, anon. But the difference is: I don't tell people I'm going to buy their stuff if I'm not sure I'll have the money to buy their stuff. It ain't rocket science.

"I'd totally buy it" doesn't necessarily mean "can but won't," it could very well be "would but can't."

"It ain't rocket science". Neither is "would but can't", as AYRT said. You'd think the definition of 'would' isn't rocket science either.

That's very self-righteous of you! "Never assume..." They could just not say they will do something, how about that?

I can't believe I have to keep repeating this:

"I'd totally buy it" doesn't necessarily mean "can but won't," it could very well be "would but can't." As in, would genuinely love to do so, and would like to offer my support by mentioning as such, but cannot in reality make it happen.

what even are you doing. you know very well in that context it means "if you did that I would". Why would anyone mention how they would buy someone's book if they had the money if said book hasn't even been written? you're making this about yourself for no reason

thank you. the trolls are out today, i guess. "oh wait it's just a difference of opinion....."

Yep. Someone thinks that by being the Semantics Police makes their argument correct. Sadly for them, it does not.

Or maybe they just said something with the best of intentions because they wanted to support their friend, then months or years passed and they had moved on/were poor/not interested in the concept any more/too busy with real life. How about that? I know, shocking; people are not perfect.

Of course things happen. But I really have trouble believing people don't think the OP has any reason to feel hurt, or that they "didn't really mean it."

I thnk people are just trolling at this point

Of course the OP can feel hurt. Honestly, I get that. It's valid. They put a lot of work into something. It's awful to feel that's not appreciated.

But blaming it on their friends as some kind of betrayal is ridiculous. It sucks but it's no-one's responsibility to promote their work but the author's.

"I would buy it" =/= "I will buy it."

It is. "I would buy it if you published it" is not some vague encouragement. It's saying they'll do something. Fine, they flaked out, didn't follow thru, but you're just playing devil's advocate. Whatever, I'm out, troller

DA

Serious advice here: you might want to take a step back from this one, you seem to be taking this all way too seriously for someone that's not even involved.

I'm just fed up with people piling on the OP here. I can totally see where they're coming from. I think some people are being very understading, and some people are getting a kick out of playing devil's advocate, jumping on OP, and splitting hair. It's shitty. If people in this comm want real secrets that come from a vulnerable place, then they should shut the fuck up if they have nothing but hateful things to say. Some of the commentors are behaving like that. Well, do you guys want the comm to turn into endless shit posting about vomitting celebs? Really?

...I think it's a bit much to label a spirited discussion on genuine differing opinions on a worthy topic 'hateful things [that will turn the comm] into endless shitposting about vomiting celebs". I mean... really?????

Re: I've said it before, and I'll say it again

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Re: I've said it before, and I'll say it again

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The fact that everyone who disagrees with you is a troll is alarming, honestly. The world will not coddle you.

"I would eat that" doesn't mean anything more than an idle, vague interest, and doesn't mean you will eat it if it was given to you. It's interest, but not an obligation. That you think it is means I would never be friends with you because you'd take even the vaguest statement of interest as a fucking obligation to you.

I'm not playing Devil's Advocate, this is legit what I believe. Because I live in the real world and not in Tumblr's Cuddlesphere.

Not everyone is a troll. Just you :)

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Re: I've said it before, and I'll say it again

crossy_woad - 2016-10-31 01:35 (UTC) - Expand

This x1000. Maybe what OP wrote is something that didn't interest their friends at all. Would they rather their friends lied and pretended to be interested in something they didn't actually care about? Personally, I would much rather my friends be honest about not having an interest in something than fake it, because faking it would mean that they didn't feel comfortable enough to be honest with me, and I don't want that.

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Kind of off-topic, but FYI, anon, if you have a computer or smart phone there are free browser add-ons and apps that let you read e-books without a dedicated device.

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