fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #3633 ]

[ SECRET POST #3633 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3633 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

__________________________________________________

03.

__________________________________________________

04.

__________________________________________________

05.

__________________________________________________

06.

__________________________________________________

07.

__________________________________________________

08.

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 18 secrets from Secret Submission Post #519.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

Trump therapist anon here.

As advised, I've been trying to find a local job. It's difficult - I can't drive and the majority of jobs at my experience level in my town are retail jobs that are pretty competitive and get snatched up quickly - but I did apply at a local J-Crew (I didn't get in, but it's a start) and a Christmas elf job. I'm still in the process of looking up local shelters and deciding what to take with me if/when I go.

I had a very bitter argument with my parents last night. I laid down three requests - one, I be allowed to see a different therapist, second, I leave group and stay in individual where I have more control over the conversation, and third, that the ultimate decision to stay or leave after the conversation in January. They threatened to cut off my pocket money and kick me out of the house if I refused to go (and possibly to a home). My father is starting to slip on the January exit date - now there's no guarantee that I'll be allowed to leave when the day comes and I'll have to discuss my therapy issues with my therapist in the room (and I doubt he'll let me go - he thinks I'm unhealthy and need the sessions). My brother has also returned to therapy, which complicates things further, and I'm worried the pressure on me will increase to encourage him to keep going.

I've done research into reporting him, but I'm looking for a reporting method where my anonymity is guaranteed, especially since he does chase up group members and I don't have anyone I know familiar with the therapist to back me up.

I did try and record a session with my phone as you guys suggested, but it didn't work, which turned out to be just as well. While one of the group members reported me to him, my phone hadn't successfully recorded anything so there was nothing incriminating. But now I can't bring my phone into therapy anymore. Apparently the single-party consent law doesn't apply to group therapy sessions.

On the better side of things, I didn't let him faze me this time. I ignored him bringing up politics (one reference to Russian hacking and one joke about Hillary being a Nazi) and stayed calm and polite throughout the session. So I think I'm controlling myself better and am not letting him upset me.

I'm sorry your parents are treating you like that anon :c I'm don't have any advice, but I just wanted to say, I'm sorry, they are being awful.

I'm very curious as to what kind of "home" they're thinking of remanding you to, how they could do that legally, and how it would be any worse than what you're putting up with now.

Institutionalization or a nursing home, basically. I don't know the legal ins and outs of those places myself.

OP, this is the line, seriously, you need to get out. Get out NOW, this is serious shit.

What should I take with me when I go?

Several changes of clothes, mementos you can't live without, your computer if you have one, your phone.

It should not be this hard.

OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 02:29 (UTC) - Expand

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 02:43 (UTC) - Expand

Please stop telling this person, who has already flat out informed us that they can't prepare their own meals or navigate public transportation, has trouble dealing with strangers and gets lost easily when walking, to run away from home without a job or other plan to sustain themselves in place. You are going to make them starve to death or die of exposure in the street.

Please stop telling people who are being threatened to be put in an institution by their abusive parents to stay where they are.

And I never said to "go live on the street". OP has mentioned on several occasions they have estranged family in other places. Surely, this is enough of an emergency to try and contact them.

If you're over 18, they really can't do that to you unless you consent. Legally can't. The most they could get would be a 72-hour hold, and unless you're a danger to yourself or others, the place has to cut you loose if you demand they do.

Which might mean, yes, you're on the street or in a homeless shelter, after that. But I am really failing to see how they can "institutionalize" you or put you involuntarily in a nursing home if you really do not want to go.

If you are an adult who can isn't proven to be incompetent/completely legally unable to make decisions on your own I don't think they could institutionalize you against your will, not to mention nursing homes are usually really expensive and, you know, for people who need assisted living, so I don't get why they would threaten you with that. I'm not sure about that cause I don't know much about law, but my hunch is it would be hard for them to do that.

The threat is that I'll be sent to a nursing home if I fail to get a job/mature emotionally and can't support myself. The therapist is supposed to help me "become an adult".

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 02:22 (UTC) - Expand

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 02:29 (UTC) - Expand

OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 02:35 (UTC) - Expand

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 02:39 (UTC) - Expand

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 03:56 (UTC) - Expand

They're bluffing. They can't force you to go. (I'd probably call their bluff, but I'm not you and you're the one to live with the consequences.)

For one thing, how are they going to PAY for it? Those places do NOT come cheap, and insurance is not going to just fork over the money. If you do have a condition that was so severe that they would have to pay, you can also use that as a reason to get Disability. (FYI, they reject almost every claim on the first attempt. Keep trying.)

I think you should just let them institutionalize you. You clearly cannot support yourself, they clearly no longer wish to, the country has gone to hell anyway, go sit it out in a nuthutch until the Democrats get back into power and sanity returns to the world at large. Go now and ask them to send you to the home already, not wait.

I would like to support myself, but I need income, a place to stay, travel, and a job. I'm trying to get these things, but it's neither immediate nor easy.

Well good news. I have an option that will provide free travel, accomodation, 3 squares a day, and perhaps some help managing your obviously greatly diminished IQ. Ask to be committed.

Stop being a dick. They posted it on the bottom of page two so people who don't like it don't have to scroll by it. It could be a troll or it could be legit, but comments like yours aren't necessary.

This isn't the 1950's anymore. That's not really an option like you say.

Calling the bluff is a definite option here. "Okay. My bags are packed. Let's go. Because it's better than this."

Mostly it is calling the bluff of the OP. I mean, how is anyone still falling for this? It is fake as hell and only works because of all the booboo kissers here. It is a troll and a 10/10 troll too.

I'm not a troll - I am telling the truth, but I'm not sure how I can prove it without revealing personal information that could get me in trouble.

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 03:04 (UTC) - Expand

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 03:05 (UTC) - Expand

This is one, imo, where its hard to tell if troll or no. OP has been consistent with their story, and abusive parents and corrupt therapists definitely exist.

If it is a troll though, at least its a better and more entertaining than like, that one fedora tipper troll or blank mcblankspace. give me a troll with a narrative any day of the week.

Re: Therapist Anon Update

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 03:10 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Therapist Anon Update

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 03:21 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Therapist Anon Update

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 06:52 (UTC) - Expand

OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 03:26 (UTC) - Expand

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 03:33 (UTC) - Expand

Re: OP

raspberryrain - 2016-12-17 04:02 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Therapist Anon Update

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 06:47 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Therapist Anon Update

(Anonymous) - 2016-12-15 10:42 (UTC) - Expand

Assuming this is real, the advice of learning to hold your tongue and roll with it is the approach that is working? Yes. In your face, fight-the-system F!Sers.

>>> there's no guarantee that I'll be allowed to leave when the day comes

Legally, they can't make you stay if you're over 18. January is coming up fast. Do you have an actual exit strategy? Right now I'm seeing "homeless shelters" if you go immediately instead of waiting, but what's magic about the end of January?

Vocational rehabilitation. Look up the office closest to you. Call them as soon as possible and explain your situation.

The one closest to me is helping me find a job (I'm on the Autism spectrum and can't drive), and said they will help with transportation, getting me back in college or with job training, and if I need uniforms for work.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only