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⌈ Secret Post #3850 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I just considered that his way of saying "I love you" back. At least until ROTJ.

I don't know why people need him to say "I love you" so badly. IMO, it's such an overrated, overused phrase. I think it's nice to mix things up a little.

[(Anonymous)]

This. It was clear what he meant by it and I thought it suited his character perfectly. He's not the mushy, romantic type and having him confess his love right back would just have felt OOC to me.

[(Anonymous)]

Hence why people in this comment section are just straight up saying they don't care for Han, they're not arguing about whether the line was IC or not.

[(Anonymous)]

It doesn't bother me in the context of Star Wars but I don't know. I guess the idea that "it's just his way of saying I love you" is a healthy or correct notion kind of bothers me? It feels, first, like there's a weird power dynamic there, and second, like letting people get away with not expressing their emotions because "it's just their way" is not really a healthy thing more generally.

I feel kind of weird talking about it because again it doesn't bother me in Star Wars at all but

[(Anonymous)]

DA

> like letting people get away with not expressing their emotions because "it's just their way"

If it's "his way of saying he loves her" according to AYRT then an emotion is being expressed. Saying "I love you" is not the only way to express love, and saying that is the only way is not really a healthy thing generally

[(Anonymous)]

I know! That's kind of why it's frustrating and weird to talk about, I guess. Because it edges up against a lot of things that bother me, but isn't necessarily a thing that bothers me. I think "it's just their way" is a really easy way to let someone off the hook for not actually expressing their emotions, I guess. It's a really hard line to draw between those things.

And, again, I don't know why it's such a big deal to me. I think this might be one of those cases where it's some kind of an issue for me that I hadn't really thought about before or something

[(Anonymous)]

I think "it's just their way" is a really easy way to let someone off the hook for not actually expressing their emotions, I guess. It's a really hard line to draw between those things.

I think you just have to take it case by case. What works for one couple doesn't necessarily work for another. What you perceive to be an unhealthy thing might actually be normal and healthy for them. Some women love getting flowers, others would rather feed them to the cat.

[(Anonymous)]

I didn't say it was generally the healthy or correct way of expressing love. It's just his way.

And tbh, I feel like a lot of people spew that phrase without giving a lot of thought to what it really means. We're so obsessed with making sure we tell loved ones we love them just in case something bad happens, but... why is that the only indication we love them, or at least considered to be the only one that counts?

[(Anonymous)]

OP is simply saying that he's a jerk, anon, they're not arguing that he should've said "I love you" back.

[(Anonymous)]

and then there's Han, who doesn't have the balls to say the L-word out loud even though he's going to die. SMH.