[ SECRET POST #4042 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4042 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Louisa May Alcott, Eight Cousins]


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03.
[Jojo's Bizarre Adventure]


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04.
[Mickey Rourke (and Kim Basinger even though the secret's not about her)]


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05.
[Tommy Wiseau and Greg Sestero]


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06.
[Welcome to the Ballroom]


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07.
[Crazy Ex Girlfriend]











Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 44 secrets from Secret Submission Post #579.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

Do you want or have kids?

Did you ever adamantly not want kids, then change your mind? Or have you always never wanted kids and still don't?

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

When I was younger I thought ehhh, maybe it'd be nice to have a kid someday. It wasn't because I desperately wanted one or anything, it just seemed like the thing people do when they reach adulthood, along with getting married and getting a job. By the time I graduated college, I thought... nah actually I'm good. I'm 40 now. No kids, no plans to have any, and no regrets about not having kids.

Now that I think about it, I don't often see many female characters like that. Either characters my age or older have kids, or they have regrets because they didn't/couldn't.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

Don't have them, don't want them, never wanted them. Have been screeched at when asked, "Well what if you accidentally got pregnant!" I responded with, "I would have an abortion."

I wouldn't adopt out because personally I do not feel I could be pregnant and then give it away, and then I'd just resent the child for being in my life, no child deserves that.

But I thank them for reminding me why I don't have sex at all because the thought of 'accidentally' getting pregnant fucking terrifies me.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

I absolutely want kids. I didn't want kids when I was younger, because I didn't want to settle down and couldn't even imagine life after 30. Now I'm getting close to that age and sadly, with biology and whatnot, am starting to realize if I want them, I probably need to start thinking about how I'll make that happen. I'm a lesbian, so there's that, and I've found a lot of lesbians don't want kids, so at this point I probably wouldn't pursue a serious relationship with someone who didn't. And it can't happen accidentally.

I honestly might just pop into a sperm bank in a couple of years if there's no traction on finding a serious partner. You can just like... do that, right? I'm less interested in being married than I am having a kid.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

I've never wanted kids. I'm very lazy and selfish and I know I wouldn't be a good parent. I do like kids and I love working with them, but I'm happy to return them to their parents at the end of the day.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

never. never never never and I'm in my 40s. never never never, both low-key casual and screechingly adamant about it because in the 90s being low-key casual never actually got through anyone's thick head no matter how nice I tried to be about it.

I have a decent-sized friend group and of them, the only one who went baby-crazy is one who did express interest in children all along. over the past 10 years everyone who has ever said no thanks has stuck to their guns and never changed. they're all in their 30s, too.

Re: From secret #1

[kaijinscendre]

I don't want kids ever. But if I ever need to adopt any of my nieces or nephews for some reason, I will do so happily. I think kids are awesome, I just don't want any of my own.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

No and I even like kids, but value my free time, want to retire early, and get stressed easily, so it'd be a bad combo.

I can't really remember feeling one way or another when I was younger.

Re: From secret #1

[dani_phantasma]

Eventually.

I've flip flopped on that for a long time and decided that I'm probably going to adopt.

Re: From secret #1

[nightscale]

Nope.

Never wanted them as a kid, still don't want them at nearly 30. I've never liked children much, babies even less and every time someone tells me 'I'll change my mind' it only strengthens my resolve to not have them because fuck me I will prove you wrong.

I'd also be a horrible parent and I would never want to inflict that on a child.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

man, judging by the responses in this thread, things ain't looking great for the next gen future of f!s hahaha

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

As a child I just assumed I would have a boyfriend later, get married, have two kids, because that's what was considered normal development where I grew up.

I never got to the part of actually wanting those things, so I never did anything to make them happen.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

Never had them, never wanted them, haven't changed my mind.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

I've seen first-hand how my mother tries to use power plays and manipulation when it comes to my sister's baby. I never really wanted kids anyway, but knowing I'd have to deal with that pretty much seals the deal.

My boyfriend and I might foster or adopt, maybe some older kids. I think that would be a good thing to do.

Probably too much information, but I kinda need to vent now that I think about it now

[(Anonymous)]

I have never ever wanted kids. There was a very dark time right after my brother died several years ago that my mom tried to guilt trip me into getting pregnant, because despite knowing I never wanted kids she thought being a grandma would make HER happy again. I don't know that my dad said to her after I complained to him, but one day she just never spoke about it again. It was one of the things that made our relationship very strained for years. It also guarantied I will do whatever it takes not to have a child.

Re: From secret #1

[cbrachyrhynchos]

I used to, but it never happened and that's probably for the better. And now the time has passed.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

I want kids, but I’m shy, socially awkward, a 34 year old virgin, and ugly, so I’d probably have to go the drunk one night stand sans condom route to get pregnant. My periods have always been irregular and I might be infertile, anyway.

While I could probably raise a kid solo if I absolutely had to, I don’t think it would be fair to them. I don’t have many friends, hardly any family—and they’re all my parents’ generation and childless—so if something happened to me any kids I had might end up in foster care.

I have codependency issues where I’m willing to do stuff for others that I can’t be assed to do for myself, so I’m sure my hypothetical kids would be fed and clothed and educated and spoiled, but I’d hate to pass on any of the more fucked-up aspects of my childhood to a new generation. But if I don’t have kids, I can’t be an aunt or anything; I’m an only child with no siblings or cousins.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

Want kids, don't want to get married. Wish single parenting had more support and less stigma.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

I have wavered back and forth over the years on whether or not I want kids. I don't want biological kids for health reasons, but at this point, I'd be okay if I had a partner who has kids from another relationship. I'd also be okay if I was with a partner who 100% didn't want kids and doesn't have them.

Re: From secret #1

[soldatsasha]

I used to adamantly not want them. Now I'm neutral. Some days I still don't want them, some days I do.

Re: From secret #1

[greghousesgf]

I never wanted kids, never changed my mind about it and wish I had a dollar for every time I was told I would change my mind or otherwise belittled or insulted for it.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

I'm too afraid of turning into my mother. So better not having kids and breaking the cycle of abuse.

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

When I was a kid I was certain I'd have at least three kids if not more. Then I got older and discovered that I'm ace (and lesbo-romantic to boot) and I absolutely cannot stand babies. So here I am, nearing 40 and enjoying all that personal time and a perfect figure. :)

Re: From secret #1

[(Anonymous)]

I think it might be nice to have them, but not for many years. Honestly, I hate people pressuring you either way about it. No, I'm not an evil selfish awful person for MAYBE thinking it'd be nice to have kids, someday. But also, if older women (including complete fucking strangers) could please stop with the "WHEN you have kids of your own..." rubbish, that'd be nice.

Re: From secret #1

[philstar22]

NO KIDS. Very sure about that.